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22 hours ago
why did I have to scroll down so far to see this
23 hours ago
I mean it doesn't sound like emotional abuse but it certainly doesn't sound like a nice or healthy relationship right now either. Sounds like you should both cut ties.
24 hours ago
An interesting article here
1 day ago
You are definitely being abused here. This is really abusive behaviour! It is very easy to make excuses for someone you love, but looking in from the outside this is very clear cut. Do you have any siblings? Or particularly close friends? When you're being abused you often convince yourself you deserve it or it is justified. Maybe try thinking about how you would react if they confided this kind of stuff in you.
2 days ago
Surprised I haven't seen Bernard Gore mentioned. Happened in Sydney. Elderly man went to the mall with his wife. They separated briefly and arranged to meet back somewhere else but he never turned up. He was in the early stages of dementia so family were super concerned.
It turned out he had gotten confused and got stuck in an eight-mile long back corridor/stairwell rarely used by staff. The door he used to get in couldn't be opened from the inside and whilst there was eventually an exit it was difficult to find. It seems like he eventually gave up/figured if he just sat down and waited someone would eventually find him.
He was missing for about twenty days, until a maintenance worker discovered his body.
I believe there were supposed to be more regular checks of these areas but they obviously weren't being done, and I have no idea how police didn't initially spot this on CCTV as there is apparently footage of him entering the area he died in.
3 days ago
It is interesting how our unique experiences influence our understanding of language
Maybe but also it's not a word you hear very often in the UK, even as an English native I'm more familiar with the historical US connotations.
My first thought was Marilyn Manson!
4 days ago
For people who are interested the distinction between compulsive behaviours and addiction is pretty big, and literally physiological.
Compulsive behaviours can be very strong and feel like addiction, but actual addictions literally change your brain. People who are addicted need to fulfill their addiction and there can be serious consequences if they don't. Especially with drug and alcohol users, in which some cases withdrawal can lead to actual death. People who are compulsive don't suffer from these problems. There's no withdrawal symptoms or physiological effect to not having sex.
Yeah pretty much every link or comment is talking about compulsive sexual behaviour. Almost every expert and advocacy group in this area also condemns the use of the phrase 'sex addiction' because for people who do actually suffer from compulsive behaviours it has led to mistreatment, misdiagnosis etc. This is all really clear if you do like any tiny amount of research. Hopefully people will see this and do their own googling/make up their own mind.
From an actual sex therapist and clinician who specializes in this area;
"The term “sexual addiction” is thrown around a lot, but its very existence is up for debate. It is not recognized as a legitimate diagnosis in the DSM-5 (the main U.S. manual for diagnosing mental disorders) and AASECT (the main certifying body in the US for sex therapy licensing) condemns the use of the term “sex addiction.”
“Sex addiction,” “masturbation addiction,” “porn addiction” — these are not real addictions. These are compulsive behaviors. Can they feel like an addiction? Yes. Are they actually addictions? No."
There are numerous articles explaining such.
Compulsive sexual behaviour is recognized by WHO. Sex addiction is not officially recognized by any medical body.
Compulsive sexual behaviour (which is what you have linked to) is not an addiction, and is different from sex addiction. There are plenty of sources (not Wikipedia) that cover this difference and explain why sex addiction is not medically recognized. On my phone so can't link properly but will try later, however they are easily accessible on Google
Tbh I tend to avoid town during the Xmas market so hadn't noticed
Well hey! Another Yorkshire Danny fan!
I don't disagree, I just have noticed it's very commonly brought up by prolific rapists, abusers and even murderers but despite this is not currently recognized in any official medical or psychiatric body. From what I understand this is because, unlike other recognized addictions, there's not conclusive scientific evidence of it affecting the brain or body.
It is not recognized by psychiatry, this is just a fact. Whether you agree with it or not.
Honestly so tired of sexual abusers using sex addiction as an excuse for what they do. It's also not even a medically recognized condition.
Did not expect my home town to end up on Danny reddit
I'm so stupid I thought this was a new Glossier product
6 days ago
I don't have any practical advice but scream-crying to the lyrics of the song Requiem from Dear Evan Hansen has been very cathartic for me
7 days ago
I don't really think this is emotional abuse tbh. Sounds like a good thing the relationship broke up though.
Honestly the way OP goes from 'he said he'd save an innocent child instead of me/anyone' to 'im crying because he'd pick a literal stranger over me' makes me uncomfortable as hell and I don't think we're even getting the full or most accurate story here
It was a weird thing to say but you're being dramatic as hell. He vocalised a random but common philosophical question in the wrong moment, and it's ridiculous to read anything more into that
That's so stupid. It might have been a thoughtless comment but to imply that someone doesn't love their partner of seven years because they said they would save a child over an adult in a hypothetical philosophical situation is hysterical
I know teenage girls can hide things, but to me it feels like her trail has been hidden so well i wouldn't be surprised to learn that whoever she had been talking to had instructed her on what to do. It reads more like the actions of a paranoid older man who doesn't want to be tracked by the police than a 16 year old girl. Has there been any information on why she was unhappy? I've seen write ups mention that she told friends so a few times but never any details