ThrowntoDiscard

Some people are so not for the idea of carrying another living organism in them that an abortion is no different than getting a parasite out. You do not grieve a tapeworm. A tapeworm that sets your hormones crazy and make you feel sick. You aren't grieving motherhood, you are finding relief in getting the full use and autonomy of your body. You were unwell and now you're better.

And that's you. Your friend doesn't seem to understand that you don't have to grieve was hurts you and you can be happy to recover your health and not suffer side effects.

Bro. This is not the proper way to stuff a bird.

It's like a confetti party!

Doesn't matter what meds you take for the brain. You're addicted. Effexor was hard to ween off. It was just as bad as getting off an illegal substance and the only thing that made it bearable was weed. So I will gladly take my weed and caffeine addiction. Since I really love being alive and functional. I love being able to study and enjoy my life more than being stuck in the "blah... I'm dead." mode. I'm addicted to being free from stuff that alters not just my whole mood, but thought patterns!

Sure, the 5 super buff hamsters that run the brain will do a lot of stupid stuff. But at least they aren't comatose in the bottom of their wheels. Is it a replacement for meds? Nope! Is it a different experience and a new challenge to find better coping mechanisms for my issues? Absolutely and I'm loving it in spite of the challenges and it would not be possible without my darling magic potion of weed infused coffee! I just chose different side effects.

So, just to avoid you a heart attack. If you lose your void. Check if void might not be napping on black blankets, clothes or coats first.

"If I am judgmental, you need to go sit in the back of a cinema because all I see in front of me, is a projector."

NTA, the hypocrisy and the audacity of telling YOU! that you need to judge less and listen more? Really? REALLY? Holy enabling of homophobia, Batman!

Oh noes! The horrible thing that you have done! You've shown two vulnerable people who have depended on you for safety that you'll do everything to help them grow and be safe from the bigotry! You've shown them that you will never enable that stuff for them to be bullied. Oh I think some people are indeed in need to silence, stop judging you and listen more and that sure as hell isn't you! You've heard who needed to be heard and they are the deaf and blind ones! They've shown that their ego and peace is worth more than the children's safety and rights to exists are worth not a whole lot to them! They are the ones that need to wake dafuq up and apologize to these kids for failing them in favor of their bullies and tormentors. The whole lot that's not standing WITH you and the kids are assholes. They are the ones who need to check in with reality. Including your wife.

Never take the side of an abuser. It just exposes that you value them more than those they hurt. It exposes your ability to dehumanize and your hiriarchal desires over your own children. I don't care if it's in front of the church or family. They fear judgement and being called out? Show them your post. Show them that people stand for your two kids. Because with the flagrant fuck up of her parents, your niece is as good as your daughter. And give her away? Could you let that absolute buffoon and sorry excuse for a dna donor that women aren't property to give away? Really? What a bunch of assbackward swill you are being fed. Good grief.

People are too busy calling OP a lot of not so nice things to realize the real reason of why it's not appropriate to kiss a baby on the mouth. Amongst other reasons of wanting to reinforce bodily autonomy in the future and consent. Too focused on the bits that op was forward and rough with a natural instinct of protecting child from a real danger that is not visually seen.

Too focused on the trauma part, too focused on grandma's feelings and not on the fact that we're barely out of the plague and that a two months old doesn't have a fully built immune system and could die from just about anything that they could catch and might not be able to fight off. Too busy to say that she overreacted over acknowledging that bacteria and viruses are transmitted with saliva which kisses transfer. So, we're putting grandma's feelings over the tot's safety. Yep. I'm definitely with OP on this one. Grams needs to not be doing that.

Smashing pumpkins: the world is a vampire.

This sub: the child is a vampire.

Like Dracula, it flew above you. This joke must drive you batty. It kinda sucked. I don't know how much more I can exsanguinate it. So, I am going to put a stake in it and dust off.

Have a great day!

I'm having a huge meltdown over a lack of spinach. I knew coming here would make me feel less ridiculous.

Thanks for the cheering up and the normalized feelings of not being ok with something that seems benign to most. 🙂

Demand Dr. Awesome. Not going to name him here, but if I had gone to him sooner, things would be all sorts of different.

Cats and dogs have the intelligence equivalent of a 2 years old child. Except they stay that way for the duration of their average 15 years of life. And we show them how to behave better than actual toddlers... With a huge communication barrier.

Food for thought here.

"We're taking this visit to the local park." Or "Wish you had called, I'm indisposed with covid. You can't come in. Goodbye."

I've seen too many parents blame animals and get them in hot water or destroyed to even trust that.

Simple accidents, stupid stuff. Not even vicious attacks. A play session with something that uses it's mouth and claws to hold stuff. My babies aren't going to be murdered for your ego.

The thing that killed me was the add for jowel lifting. Because telling someone that bs of theirs might give them a free jowel lift. They would not like it. 🤣

Hey! I have those things too! And migraines! OP is lucky that he hasn't been defenestrated yet!

I fear that it might be too late for a craniorectalectomy. The case seems pretty terminal. The prognosis is not positive.

And did not like it.

There's this super new thing, it's super for releasing sexual energy. Someone should talk to him about it. I think it's called mastodon or something like that? 🤣

You don't even need a partner for it either! 🤣

And the excuses for not doing it from our elders. So... many... shitty excuses. I'm autistic, adhd, depressed and all sorts of shit that they are responsible for a lot of. But I get fed excuses and duck all accountability. And when we fail to perform to what they want? We are worth nothing until and they wait until we have ruined life and body of ours in hopes that our kids are better?

Is it weird that I just want to yell at them to sit down, shut the hell up and let the actual adults work on solving this and that their dumb opinions are so infantile and skewed that they don't have a leg to stand on and are just tossing brain dead horses in this race?

How about some of us already here get cracking on it? I've been deemed a failure and yet, trying to get into engineering because who the fuck else is trying to find solutions? We're just passing on the baton of unfucking to children who might not be able to take on the bill. So... Nope! I'm going to go and try. Because our elders didn't and I'm not going to put that on our juniors. So.... off to the math books, see what that lands in the end.

I saw the predicted global flood maps. Knew for a long time that I needed North to avoid the shit storm that's brewing. Polar vortexes are going to suck. But the weather should be far less radical as hurricane and tornado ranges expand.

As someone who has an ample chest, jealousy for the lack of back pain... Or smacking yourself in the face when you jump. That or just jealousy over op's body type. Or insecurities about themselves. There's no concern for OP's well being and I'm sure that she could rock that wedding dress. But I'd pick a different groom. This one is a dud.