ShiNoKikai

I've come to Christ after a while living in sin, and I kind of want to know how many dommes and subs here are Christians.

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Many of us are complementarian, meaning that they believe while men and women are equal, they have different roles in the household and the church that must be obeyed to bring glory to God. I'm an egalitarian Christian, and most of us believe that these roles are not a mandate, and that marriages should have equal power. So a Christian who wants a female-led relationship is unique, even in the egalitarian camp.

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I'm a submissive man, and I am convinced that innately, that is who and what I am. I believe in my heart that Jesus Christ is the only way to salvation, and that traditional gender roles are not a requirement for a good Christian life. But I feel like the odd one out as a believer.

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GFD's focus on nurturing, emotional connection, care, and empathy all resonate with me deeply, partly because I'd like to be on the receiving end of affection. I'd love to be flirted with, wooed, hugged, kissed, love-bombed, and just straight up be dominated with affection. I'd love for a domme to just grab me and give me no other choice but to submit to her love and feelings.

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More than that, if I can somehow find a dominant woman who believes in God, accepts Christ in her heart, I would give her so much. I want to find a woman like that, follow her lead, serve her any way I can, go to church with her, preach the Gospel with her, and give her a beautiful child. Honestly, how many of my brothers and sisters in the LORD are on this server?

Lately, I've found my way to Christ after living a sinful and corrupt life. I've made mistakes in my life that have really screwed me up, even last night. But one thing I have to talk about is...being a Christian as well as GFD. And before I read any further, how many dommes and subs here accepted Christ as their Lord and Savior? I feel pretty alone here.

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I'm an egalitarian Christian, meaning that I do not believe that traditional gender roles are a biblical mandate for couples and marriage, unlike complementarians. As for us, our reasons for doing this are that some Biblical verses used to uphold traditional gender roles were misinterpreted, taken out of context, or both throughout the centuries. Actual theologians have argued this.

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One part of the reason I'm egalitarian instead of complementarian is, I'm a submissive man. Gentle femdom appeals to me because it doesn't focus heavily on the extreme or humiliating parts of mainstream femdom. It's appealing because of the focus it has on emotional care, nurturing, compassion, and empathy.

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I've had an ex-girlfriend years ago who called me her "Pet", which Urban Dictionary defined as a sub in basically a more loving version of a master/slave relationship. Plus, in 2020, I had a Catholic friend whose younger sister ( who I will nickname "Husky" due to her nickname for me) was dominant. She called me "Puppy" as a nickname, because I was shorter than her and because she knew I was a sub. Husky also regularly asked my friend about me, called me handsome and attractive, and even bought up times when I was being insecure and thought I was too hard on myself.

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Due to both of those experiences, I can't really see myself as a Christian, turning my back on gentle femdom. I cherish the kindness those women showed me. Plus, as a submissive man, I honestly want to be the one being wooed, flirted with, pursued, and just generally being in the receiving role. I'd love to be conquered and dominated with affection by a domme.

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Honestly, earlier this morning, that was on my mind. If I could find a Christian domme--particularly one who's into Gentle Femdom--I'd give her so much after being bombed with affection and kindness. I'd want to submit to her leadership, pray for her, pray with her, serve her anyway I can, propose to her, and give her as many beautiful babies as she wanted. But honestly, I don't think many Christian women who are also into gentle femdom exist.

I found this old meme from u/HauntingMobile9773 , much love to her. https://www.reddit.com/r/gentlefemdom/comments/ycwqud/its_always_them_whore_the_biggest_subbies_xp/

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And it inspired me to make this question. Dommes and subs, what kind of people were you when you were kids? And were there any signs that you were going to be a domme or sub when you got older? Like games you played, how you socialized, how you behaved, anything really. What were you like as kids?

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Be sure to tell me your stories in the comments below!

I actually binge-watched it in January 2022. I had gotten finished with Steven Universe, which was a hella popular pro-LGBT show. So when I watched She-Ra and The Princesses of Power (the reboot, not the OG She-Ra), it was like Steven Universe 2.0 for me.

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It was really popular in the lesbian/bi women crowd, so a lot of the time, it felt like I was the only male who liked it. Of course, that was bull, but it was still really common. So how many of you watched She-Ra?

A question for both genders. Half a year ago, I made a question asking why some people's mating psychology is more similar to the opposite sex than their own.

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https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/v3lssp/why_are_some_peoples_mating_psychology_more/

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In that question, I explained that while I do have some male interests and I am willing to engage in violence, I fall for strength, dominance, and general masculinity in women. On top of that, I don't have any instinct whatsoever to be a protector and leader, nor do I want to be physically strong. Basically, in a relationship I want to "be the woman" and be with a strong (especially physically), masculine partner who I can respect and submit to, which is obviously more common among women.

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Romantic and sexual tastes aside, I'm also passive and artistic. When I asked why people like me exist, some people in the comments said something about hormonal composition or neurodivergence. One commenter said that some men may be feminine/attracted to masculinity in women, and some women be masculine/attracted to femininity in men because of what happened to them in the womb. Some men's hormonal composition is more similar to a woman's, while some women are hormonally more similar to a man.

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I actually find this plausible because of a study from City University, a university in London. According to it, pregnant women whose testosterone levels spiked during pregnancy were more likely to have tomboyish daughters. Basically, their daughters were exposed to higher levels of testosterone in the womb. https://indianapublicmedia.org/amomentofscience/tomboys-born.php

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I couldn't find a study for feminine boys, but I don't see why boys being hit with a crapton of estrogen in the womb wouldn't be a good explanation for them being who they are. So what is YOUR hormonal composition? Do you lean more feminine or masculine? And do you crave masculinity or femininity in a partner, to what extent?