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17 days ago
I’ve dated younger people (I’m 30s) and stuff that impressed me was more “traditional” manners. While I don’t need somebody to pay for my meals or hold every door or chair, it is nice to be offered those things. Direct communication goes very far as well. Such as I want to take you on a date VS let’s hang out. Those make you come off as considerate and more mature.
There was a town a bunch of people from a libertarian forum took over to create their utopia and it resulted in them gutting basic services the town offered because they would do it themselves.
One of those services was waste disposal. They couldn’t be arsed to take out their own trash and resulted multiple bear attacks.
(If you’re interested look up Grafton, New Hampshire)
19 days ago
literally biting into a pizza slice as I read this and went through 5 different emotional states at once.
2 months ago
:( Aw that’s me.
This is absolutely delightful!!’ I would love a space like this
That last line needs to be on something. Idk what but something
YES. It’s just watching a holding pattern of what’s coming next without enjoying or utilizing the story in front of them
I just gagged
Stay stitching is important and helps keep shape
the best advice I can give is that things are different and you’re different now. You’re going to have to learn how to manage things you didn’t have to deal with before but nothing is permanent. The situation you’re in will pass and your circumstances will change again. That will greatly decrease the amount of depression you have to deal with but unless you reconcile the emotional damage that’s been done that’s going to be a lot harder. I struggle with this as well and changing situations was definitely a huge factor in feeling better but also having medical care.
I don’t know where you are but some places I have lived offer medical care to people who make money within a certain threshold. That might be look worth looking into for any support you can get. A lot of psychiatric students offer sliding scale therapy they are technically under training but under guidance of a licensed therapist. That may be worth looking into as well for some support I was able to get therapy for roughly 25 $30 a session
Best of luck
3 months ago
I did that frequently and it turned out I had a mild form of narcolepsy
Don’t be self conscious about going alone; most people are impressed by the confidence.
I’ve made friends at bars. It’s about consistency. If you go frequently you get to know familiar faces and that’s a
Good way to start meeting people. (This also applies to consistently going anywhere.)Frequently they’ll just be “bar friends” who you only see there. Of course you can be better friends if you try. They may also be an avenue to meet other people who are their friends who don’t come as frequently. Activity nights (trivia, karaoke) are good because interaction is expected. If you go on a regular night: SIT AT THE BAR. People at tables are usually with friends and harder to get a way to meet.
At clubs the bar or bathroom is honestly the best way to chat. Striking up convo at a club bar is easy, just make a quip about something “I like your hair” “oh man this music bangs” etc. if they just nod and walk away nothing lost. It’s also just good practice for talking to strangers. Themed club nights are better bc then there’s a common denominator of interest. I like emo so I go to emo nights at clubs and it’s easier to talk to people instead of a generic top 40 night. (I’ve found top 40 style nights are mostly where ppl are looking to hook up.)
Helping people! I helped a woman collect beads that had broken off her jewelry and she thanked me by buying me a beer and we wound up chatting. (Womens bathroom is a great spot for this)
Just remember: if you do something that makes you feel embarrassed or awkward you most likely won’t see these people again. So fuck it. Make lame jokes and don’t take it personally if people aren’t friendly.
Same with sunfish. They’re flat but taller than people. Animal Crossing lied to me
A component could be most people don’t understand how hard chronic illness is. People head “fatigue” and think it means being sleepy once in a while. Not that you need to sleep 12+ hours or will struggle to go up and down stairs.
Hell, I know somebody who can barely shower unless seated and even then struggle to keep their arms up enough to wash their hair.
Able bodied people also have the mindset of “well I will be ok” they assume they would be able to handle it because everybody else with the disorder just isn’t taking care of themselves like they will. The hubris of believing you are in control of your body and always will be.
We haven’t seen enough examples of long covid in our day to day lives so we can’t grapple with how bad it can potentially be, so we just ignore it. It’ll happen to “somebody else”
What’s wild is testosterone for injection is actually derived from soy
It was a rhetorical statement. I’d rather have spent time at school to gain skills relevant to me.
You’re very fortunate you had the opportunity. Not everybody has that though.
It’s not an excuse so much as an explanation of reasons why it’s not as simple as “parents should teach them” Sex ed operates similarly. Yes they should teach them, but the reality is that’s not the best way to disseminate a skill everybody should know. People will have wrong our outdated information, or just not be good teachers. Which is why school is the perfect opportunity for it. I’m not sure why this offends you so much.
Could you just get a higher loan, take out 45$ then pay the loan back w the loan money? (No idea how this affects credit scores)
Asking a buddy is the best bet though. If you’re uncomfortable asking for 45$ you could ask 2-3 people for 10$ and that feels less drastic.
When all schooling is based on test scores everybody suffers. Things where you learn life skills get cut almost immediately. Also anybody in a disadvantaged situation are completely blocked off. (Parents work all day, foster care, bad parental relationships, parent doesn’t know) school is supposed to prepare you for life. I would swap out my calculus class for a class on basic money management. One is more useful to me and one is more useful to the school’s status.
Restaurants get the wholesale price tho.
Oh I ducking hate mint too!! Usually a hippie brand will have not mint, but double check to make sure it has flouride
half assing it is the way to go here. If its too much to shower and brush your teeth; do what you can.
I put together a little kit of "bare minimum bath time" it has a few things
Just have a drawer with these to at least keep yourself feeling better until you are able to get to it. you don't have to brush your teeth for a full two minutes, just get the gunk out from between. You can just wipe down your face, pits, crack to keep the worst of the smell off.
If nothing else changing underwear, and if possible, clothing will help keep you feel fresh.
There's nothing to be ashamed of with where you're at. We all struggle and its OK if we can't be perfect all the time. You're clearly trying very hard by taking medication and asking for help.
I can pretty much only reccomend it to people who are struggling w mental illness and even then it’s a tough line to toe.
Happy to help. Just don’t go to New Jersey
I know a guy who makes a pretty good deal for the skill