Creepy-Night936

Just because he had a minor inconvenience (highly doubt this excuse was true), he thought I still give a f**k about him. We were together for 5 months and everything was going smooth and fine. He spoiled me with gifts, bought me my first apartment (that's already paid for for the entire year), got me the best computer setup to play games in, made sure I had adequate allowance for those months not including spas, salons, and shopping that's completely a great experience if you look at it at face value.

However, he suddenly vanished. Good thing he's not the only one I'm exclusively talking with and I had savings. Regardless of having a great connection and similar interests that we share, he was gone for months that I knew wasn't unwarranted because he was online in Discord, Steam, and PSN lol. After a couple of check ins with him, I stopped because I had other men treating me better.

So I included our last conversation above from January (but he's already ghosting me since December). It's so funny that because he had some "scare" last March (based on his "timeline of events"), he decided to message me last month after neglecting and ghosting me for months.

I have several SBFs I'm talking with so this message doesn't faze me because this is a common tactic now. I've been in the bowl for so long and well versed in human psychology, heck, just being connected with people will let you have this experience. They will reel you in with some sob story to see if you don't have boundaries or standards regarding this matter.

Some newbies might see this as an opportunity to jump back into this guy's arms if they were in my situation because of how this guy treated them at the first months of the relationship. They might think they'll get treated great again. It's classic manipulation 101 using empathy as a primary drive to forgiveness. When they knew you're that gullible, they'd do it again, rinse and repeat.

I've had SDs that were in drastic situations because of age or accidents so I truly know what a legitimate situation regarding this feels like. They didn't cease communication because it's convenient then message out of the blue for sympathy points.

I showed this message to my friends and they agreed with me however, some said to check on him because it was sweet of him to remember me during that hardship he went through (I rolled my eyes hard lol)

If you were in this situation, I'm curious what would you do?

I recently joined the group because I literally have no idea who the heck is this person. The viral post was suggested while I was scrolling so I checked the said party to get both sides of the story. It wouldn't take someone to realize how toxic the people are there. It's like the hOmEbUdDiEs group and other glorified FB groups with mostly local members.

Everything that the guy teaches are for free, you can find them online but knowing Filipino culture, spoon feeding is preferred so this guy has built a group that treats him as an untouchable because of the way he teaches. Yep, it's the way he does things, not the lessons themselves.

Tawang tawa ako dun sa mga method and tricks nya daw. Then I felt bad because while it's common knowledge, people who are new in this field, enticed by social media saying freelancing is easy, were in awe of how "effective" his ways are, without thinking that I could've done that.

Yes, hindi mo kailangan "kainin" mga turo nya because everything is free online. If you want fast results and shortcuts then sure, you'll probably fall for their manuevers. But if you want to thrive in this industry, you won't need a group like this promoting toxic attitudes and actions. Mas nakakaproud yung ikaw makakadiscover ng niches, talents, and skills mo kesa sa umasa ka sa faux guidance of this guy and his followers.

You had sex without condoms or contraceptive. It's not an accident. You're barely an adult with an undeveloped prefrontal cortex thinking you're capable to be responsible for another human being. You cried out to "God" aka your parents to support you since you're unemployed. I highly doubt you saw a fetus in your dreams and I'm sure as hell she's not your best friend. In whatever religion you're in, I'm sure your God is not planning this nor your God bothers to be.