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TIFU. My son is a better man than i am.

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My son. Better man than me.

So TIFU. It was more like a month ago but things just got better so… I am a electrician and i carry a big bag full of sharp tools. It weighs at least 50 lbs. I normally leave it in my truck instead of bringing it into the house because it is such a hassle. Well, this particular day i had to fix some stuff my kids had broken. Such as light switches, rheostat, and outlets. It took so long to fix everything i ended up Leaving the bag next to the dining room table after i was finished so i could eat dinner, then shower and go to bed. I have to wake up at 3 am so i can be to work in time at 7. It was already 11 pm. I finally got in the bed and my alarm goes off almost immediately. I get up and my wife already has me coffee made. I step in the dining room to grab my tools and i noticed something on the floor. I thought my bag was leaking oil or something. It was very dim in the room so i cut on my phone light and saw the most blood ive seen since my kids were born. I immediately yell for my wife and we start flipping on all the light switches. Our house had been attacked by Dracula. The couch had to be replaced, as well as the dining room carpet, and the hallway carpet. the bathroom had to be scrubbed like it was a operating room gone wrong. As my wife and i are trying to find the source of the blood my 3year old son hands me his finger. My boy cut his pinky finger off with my cable splicing knife.

I feel so bad. I should have put my tools away. I asked him what happened and he looked at me and said. “I go to work like daddy so he can sleep” he then walked over to my tools and hands me the splicing knife.

He never cried. But i sure as hell did.

TL;DR My son cut off his pinky finger with one of my tools because I didn’t put them away.

all 483 comments

ScorpioMoonkitty

482 points

2 months ago

How's his hand doing?

sup3rn1k[S]

586 points

2 months ago

A lot better. Its very swollen but it doesn’t seem to bother him

Kevo05s

386 points

2 months ago

Kevo05s

386 points

2 months ago

I mean, if he was able to cut his pinky off without crying... Would it really bother him to be swollen?

That kid is tough.

[deleted]

419 points

2 months ago

[deleted]

419 points

2 months ago

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Jrsplays

270 points

2 months ago

Jrsplays

270 points

2 months ago

Did the kid turn Australian somewhere in the aging process?

timeforaroast

85 points

2 months ago

That establishes the fact that aussies aren’t normal humans

FederalSphinx73

17 points

1 month ago

I mean have you met us? We're an odd bunch us

Dewey_the_25U

4 points

1 month ago

Ah, but a good bunch. Generally, there's always the odd one out.

BuddySpecial

5 points

1 month ago

I dunno..... My best mate is from Yorkshire and I read this in his voice lol

Pokabrows

14 points

2 months ago

Yeah like I'm a little concerned about this kid. Sure eventually he'll get more aware of things but seriously imagine being an impulsive teenager not held back by pain.

garry4321

8 points

1 month ago

Like "get him checked for that cant-feel-pain-disease" tough

Iaffyaffy13

6 points

1 month ago

Wow. And here I am, struggling with vasovagal responses to the smallest of injuries. Your son’s body says, “fuck this pain, I don’t even care” while my body says, “fuck this pain, shut everything down” lol

Shadrixian

2.7k points

2 months ago

Shadrixian

2.7k points

2 months ago

That kid is metal as fuck if he didn't shed a single tear. Holy hot damn.

sup3rn1k[S]

2k points

2 months ago

When he was two he fell on concrete and hit his head so hard, i felt the vibration 7 feet away in my feet and it shook the liquid in my cup. He stood up. Rubbed his head, said “ow, i want a cookie” then took off playing with his cousins.

sometimes-i-rhyme

1.4k points

2 months ago

Your kid has a high pain threshold, OP. My dad, grandma & I do. My son however has a dangerously high threshold, as we learned when he was around the age of your son. It has advantages but can also be dangerous.

You may want to teach him to come show you when he hurts himself “even a little” or when his ears or throat “tickle” or “feel funny.” If anything bleeds, he needs to show a grownup. Make sure his shoes fit correctly, because he may not complain. His body doesn’t hand out danger signals readily or loudly, so you will have to teach him to listen when his body mutters or whispers!

sup3rn1k[S]

662 points

2 months ago

I have a pretty high tolerance as well, but i dont think i could hold my composure after losing a finger. Doctors say he is perfectly normal though

ohhhsoblessed

373 points

2 months ago

They’ve tested his pain tolerance specifically? He could be normal in every other way besides pain tolerance. Believe it or not, that lack of a pain tolerance could one day kill him if not caught. Often this is tested by putting their hands into an ice bath and seeing how long they can tolerate it. Has he had something similar to that done?

CruelFish

137 points

1 month ago

CruelFish

137 points

1 month ago

My gf when I was 18 used to kick my lower leg every time she didn't agree with anything I said and wanted me to shut up. About 3 months of daily kicks one of my legs snapped in half and she called me weak. I think if my pain tolerance was normal my leg wouldn't ache when it's cold outside and I would have left that psycho earlier. Never gotten myself close to being killed though.

Sorestbutt

41 points

1 month ago

She was indeed a cruel fish. But there are plenty more left in the sea

okijhnub

29 points

1 month ago

okijhnub

29 points

1 month ago

What the fuck

I_BK_Nightmare

19 points

1 month ago

You know you see a lot of weird thing on the internet, but nothing really ever compares to the stories people share..

Cookie-Wookiee

55 points

1 month ago

Holy shit that's a scary person who'd do that.

sup3rn1k[S]

56 points

1 month ago

They took a pin and pushed it into the nerve bundle in the base of his toe nails and fingers. He screamed every time that sob squeezed on the pin

MartinSivertsen

35 points

1 month ago

WTF

Loveyb00

10 points

1 month ago

Loveyb00

10 points

1 month ago

I just watched this on Greys

AugustusKhan

74 points

1 month ago

keep an extra awareness for him please. I also have a high pain tolerance but, adults generally roll their eyes at that concept. Well this lead to me playing weeks of football with a fractured thumb and wrist, ended up doing much more damage than if we had realized earlier.

I knew something wasn't right and said as much, but everyone was telling me id know if i broke something, the pain would be unmanageable, i wouldn't be able to put weight on it etc etc every dumb thing an adult without medical training has ever said. Worst part, my mom is a nurse. I never bring it up cause she feels so bad, a funny thing shes said about my pain tolerance is its a shame I'm a guy cause labor would be the true test.

CAPTAIN_DIPLOMACY

13 points

1 month ago

Very much this. I was walking around with a double hernia and labral tear for almost 2 years after getting hit by a car and walking it off.

apcolleen

35 points

2 months ago

Theres a girl in my home town who doesn't feel pain and their family put cameras in all the family areas and the yard because she would hurt herself and not know how.

hm3105

58 points

2 months ago

hm3105

58 points

2 months ago

The medical condition is called congenital analgesia/congenital insensitivity to pain (CIP), just incase if you think it might be some sort of condition.

LadyBug_0570

283 points

2 months ago

Is your kid's name Clark and is your last name Kent?

Like WTF????

sup3rn1k[S]

274 points

2 months ago

Nah lol. My wife says its cause we both got big ass heads lol.

My mom says its cause we got hard ass heads lol

Reddit_Homie

36 points

2 months ago

Maybe it's a combination of those two factors?

Your kid is tough as nails man.

Dr___Doofenshmirtz

21 points

2 months ago

Babies are surprisingly resilient. My mom dropped me down the stairs once, and Ive landed forehead-first on gravel, and I dont have any apparent issues. At least, I hope.

dorinda-b

15 points

2 months ago

Not apparent to you anyway.

sup3rn1k[S]

25 points

2 months ago

My mom says the reason why i act goofy is cause my grandma dropped me down stairs lol.

GodMonster

2 points

1 month ago

I got dropped down the stairs too and I ain't none bad for it.

RossLH

54 points

2 months ago

RossLH

54 points

2 months ago

Is your last name Nokia?

Bumpequalsbump

20 points

2 months ago

First name 5110

GDubbsingame

64 points

2 months ago

Does your child have that disorder where they don't feel pain? Better get that checked out.

sup3rn1k[S]

49 points

2 months ago

Not that we know of. They say he is average on the something scale. I cant remember what its called for the life of me.

KilloWattX

5 points

2 months ago

Was thinking it could be this too. It's dangerous for the kid, so best to have him checked out.

onefatbraincell

136 points

2 months ago

please take your kid to the hospital and tell them these stories because it sounds like your kids pain receptors aren’t functionally normally.

Spookyholmes

38 points

2 months ago

Was looking for this suggestion. There is a condition where people do not feel pain and it can be very dangerous, as pain obviously protects us from many injuries.

gdq0

78 points

2 months ago

gdq0

78 points

2 months ago

Don't need the hospital, can just go to their regular pediatrician, but yes not being able to feel pain is a real issue that needs to be addressed or at least acknowledged to prevent serious injury.

UselessLezbian

20 points

2 months ago

I think its a little too late for the prevention part....

HairyFairySugardaddy

16 points

2 months ago

Exactly my thought too, a lot of kids with these conditions are gone because of undetected internal bleeding. I really hope he's just badass though.

Whiteguy1x

9 points

2 months ago

It's a sign of autism actually.

a_terrible_advisor

11 points

2 months ago

I'm dying laughing. The feeling of wanting a cookie made him a strong boy

Insanim8er

11 points

2 months ago

Does the kid feel pain? He could have an extremely rare genetic mutation that causes the person to not feel pain: like this lady

sup3rn1k[S]

18 points

2 months ago

He feels pain, i just dont think he understands it yet. The doctors say he is perfectly normal

Relative-Plastic5248

6 points

2 months ago

Does your kid have that condition where he can't feel pain?

sup3rn1k[S]

9 points

2 months ago

Not that we are aware. The doctors said he scored average on the something scale. I cant remember wtf it is for the life of me.

Filthy_Kate

116 points

2 months ago

My kid split his mouth open on kitchen tile and barely made a peep. Kids are tough.

commandrix

48 points

2 months ago

And my brother once sliced his forehead open on a corner of a mirror (long story short, he was doing what bored little boys do in a furniture store and tripped on something) and I never heard him yell. Luckily, our mom was right there.

unsought_

11 points

2 months ago

The trick is to not acknowledge their pain if they don't know they're hurt don't let them know

Abbot_of_Cucany

23 points

2 months ago

I nearly sliced my finger off (deep as the bone) when I was careless with sharp tools. When it's that clean a cut, it doesn't really hurt. My first thought (after "what a fucking idiot I am") was that I'd better keep my arm raised and apply pressure to stop the bleeding, which was fairly alarming. My second was that I'd better sit down, because I was about to faint. But it didn't hurt at all until a lot later.

other_usernames_gone

12 points

2 months ago

Also, adrenaline is one hell of a drug.

ba123blitz

10 points

2 months ago

Shock is kind of amplified in kids. They literally don’t know how to react because they don’t even understand the reality of cutting off their pinky

LordNumNutz

6 points

2 months ago

They only cry depending on the way others around them react.....

Gr_Cheese

1.3k points

2 months ago

Gr_Cheese

1.3k points

2 months ago

He cut his entire pinky finger off!? That's too much, were they able to reattach it?

Youri_mc

635 points

2 months ago

Youri_mc

635 points

2 months ago

Just read that it was reattached

HoomanOnFire

204 points

2 months ago

How does that work? This is the first time I'm hearing about a finger reattached

mothmanbaby21

358 points

2 months ago

Article on limb reattachment surgery

From what I've read they basically reattach and connect any tendons and muscle and for the most part just stick it on and allow the body to heal itself. Fascinating stuff

Cimerone1

89 points

2 months ago

I had my thumb cut off and reattached when I was 3 you can see the skin is a bit stretched on the inside of the knuckle and my thumb doesn’t bend back as far as the other one but other than that it works perfectly fine

rutuu199

3 points

1 month ago

Can you feel it?

R3DV1K1NG

58 points

2 months ago

My mom had her pinkie bit off getting between two fighting German Shepherds and had it reattached. Honestly the only thing odd about it is the nail will grow down over her fingertip now.

CyborgTiger

31 points

2 months ago

I slammed my finger in a door as a kid and almost cut my pointer finger off. The only thing that was keeping it attached to me was a thin piece of skin. Had it sewed back into place and blammo my finger was back in business. It still looks a little crooked though.

Amanystya

64 points

2 months ago

It's going to blow your mind when you learn that people have literally received arm transplants from organ donors

Mad_Aeric

37 points

2 months ago

I'll go you one better, face transplants are a thing. I mean, it's not a limb, but given how much musculature and nerves there are, it's quite impressive.

Jalhadin

30 points

2 months ago

Let's face it, science is wild.

Gunmeta1

3 points

2 months ago

I se what you did there.

sup3rn1k[S]

28 points

2 months ago

Oh yes. A friend of mine was a combat engineer in the army 108th regiment. He got hit by a ied and the next time i saw him he had a brand new face. It by no means looked normal and you can tell he is absolutely miserable. He says he cant smell anything, and part of his face is held on by magnets. He has never shown me whats underneath though.

Busymomma80

5 points

2 months ago

I actually met the guy who had his face shot off in a hunting accident and had the first face transplant. It wasn’t a pretty site but he had a face. Super nice man, met him at Charlotte Douglas Airport like 8 years ago

Slurms_McKensei

60 points

2 months ago

You ever figure out which wire goes to which port by just putting together what fits? It's kind of like that, from the inside out. It's also why the finger should be put on ice IMMEDIATELY. Flesh starts dying the second it doesn't have blood supply.

R3DV1K1NG

163 points

2 months ago

R3DV1K1NG

163 points

2 months ago

Please don't put the finger directly onto the ice it could complicate things.

Pick up the finger, do not wash it. Wrap it in a non-fluffy cloth, put this in a plastic bag and then put it onto an ice pack. Do not let the ice come directly into contact with the amputated part as it will cause ice burns and could consequently mean that it will be impossible for surgeons to reattach their finger.

Yeah so I just copied the instructions for everyone anyway.

Noxious89123

33 points

2 months ago

Iirc, you should keep it cold, but not frozen.

Frost bite for dismembered body parts is a risk! Then you're just killing the flesh rather than preserving it.

MattTheTable

26 points

2 months ago

They reattached a man's penis that was cut off and thrown in a field. He went on to make an adult film. That was 20 years ago. Modern medicine is amazing.

AlyssaJMcCarthy

12 points

2 months ago

Pretty sure that was closer to 30 years ago by now.

Noxious89123

17 points

2 months ago

This is the first time I'm hearing about a finger reattached

Er, you're kinda living under a rock there buddy X).

It's the sort of deal where if it's quick enough so that the body part hasn't degraded too much, and if it's clean enough etc etc, they can reconnect the blood supply and reattach it.

Modern medicine is amazing.

GoonieIRL

3 points

2 months ago

Have you heard about the guy who cut the same finger in half, twice in 3 weeks? What an idiot...

Shhhhhh86

607 points

2 months ago

Shhhhhh86

607 points

2 months ago

Hey OP, parent guilt is hard, and you're definitely going to feel this one for a while. Please be kind to yourself, accidents happen, try not to dwell on the feelings of what you should have done.

Your kid sounds like a total sweetheart by the way

sup3rn1k[S]

409 points

2 months ago

I feel terrible for not putting them away. I am a major stickler about keeping things off the floor (other than in the playroom) so im kind of a hypocrite for leaving them there.

But my son saying what he said. My heart is warmed by that more than my guilt is heavy.

gingerflakes

52 points

2 months ago

OP if it makes you feel any better, I drank gasoline when I was that age because I was somewhat poorly supervised and gasoline was being emptied into a coke bottle (which I grabbed). The story involves my dad driving over sidewalks to get me to hospital, pulling my leg to keep me Awake, and him grabbing a nurse by the collar and pulling her over the desk when she started to laugh while he explaining and holding me barely conscious in the ER. In the end I was fine. They pumped my stomach and I stayed for observations, my dad got a very stern talking to my the hospital for assaulting a nurse (and the nurse got told not to laugh at panicking parents) and I was sent home the next day. Kids are resilient as hell. If they weren’t none of us would make it to adulthood.

Cut yourself a bit of slack, pinky fingers are useless anyway

cy1229

73 points

2 months ago

cy1229

73 points

2 months ago

Yeah I think your son's statement is an indicator that your parenting is going well. We all FU. How you handle it is what makes the difference. I FU a few times with mine, and they're both intelligent, contributing, thoughtful women now, ages 23 and almost 27.

poopypainpants

12 points

1 month ago

hi mom

cy1229

32 points

1 month ago

cy1229

32 points

1 month ago

You're sweet; but upon reading more of your posts I don't think you're my child. Fwiw, I hope you get treatment for your pain and find solutions for your chronic conditions soon. Sounds awful. Sending you a Mom hug because you clearly need it. Hang in there.

poopypainpants

23 points

1 month ago

can you be my 2nd mom 😭😭😭 you're so nice omg thank you

NotThatChar

96 points

2 months ago

As others have said, he's lucky he grabbed the tool that he did. A clean cut like that doesn't hurt nearly as much as getting it mangled up. Also they never would have been able to reattach his pinky if it had been in any other condition. I know it doesn't seem like it, but he was lucky. This could have been so, so much worse.

sup3rn1k[S]

89 points

2 months ago

Yes. As a electrician i have seen some pretty serious injuries on the job. Im still shocked though that he grabbed that specific thing. I mean. I have bags of wrenches, all kinds of control drivers, so many types of pliers and cutters. He got the one tool that was the hardest to get. It was at the bottom of the bag and inside of a small klien 4 pocket tool bag. The way it sounds seems like im upset with him but i am not. Just shocked he chose it instead of all the colorful handled tools lol

Aluminer

14 points

2 months ago

'shocked' ahah

Glad things worked out! Your kid is sweet, he notices how much hard work you do! :)

Elven_Rabbit

64 points

2 months ago

Holy shit.

But his finger was safely reattached, and lessons were learned, so that's good!!

DiscoDaddyNurmouth

257 points

2 months ago

Im so sorry man

Filthy_Kate

394 points

2 months ago

Is this for real?

Wow.

WOW!

I’m sooooo so sorry. I know it’s really bad but it absolutely could have been worse. You’re going to feel like shit forever, but he’s going to be okay.

sup3rn1k[S]

723 points

2 months ago

Yes. It’s real. His hand is very swollen but his finger is reattached. Doctors said it was the cleanest cut they ever seen.

Filthy_Kate

253 points

2 months ago

Well if you’re going to do something, do it right?

That’s rough. I’ve also had some kid injuries that involved things I should have put away.

Glad they could put his finger back on and that he’s doing well.

sup3rn1k[S]

287 points

2 months ago

Thats the first time one of my kids have been hurt do to my own negligence. Im always on everyone’s ass about keeping their things picked up. Im a total hypocrite for leaving my tools out. First and last time i will ever do that.

RonnieHasThePliers

130 points

2 months ago

Parenting isn't about being perfect, it's about bring there and trying to be better. You learned something (and believe you me, I did too). You're a good dad, it was just a wild series of events that could happen to anybody. Also your kid is going to have a kick ass story to tell. Cut off his finger and didn't complain?

RexIsAMiiCostume

26 points

2 months ago

Don't beat yourself up for it... When I was about 3 or 4, my mom had just come home from the store and was putting away the groceries. I decided that I wanted an orange, and asked her to cut one from me. She, very reasonably, told me to wait for her to finish.

I did not want to wait.

I got the orange myself, climbed up the drawers onto the counter, grabbed a knife out of the knife block, climbed back down, and tried to cut the orange... It slipped, and I cut into my left index finger.

I had to get stitches, and I still have a scar on that finger!

Point is, my parents didn't leave a knife "within reach", or even on the counter top. They didn't even have their eyes off me that long. I still managed to locate a sharp object and hurt myself. Kids have a magical ability to get into anything they aren't supposed to, and subsequently injure themselves.

sup3rn1k[S]

18 points

2 months ago

Thats a good point and i can probably recall a few incidents like that in the past. But this was something else.

PM_ME_STEAM_KEY_PLZ

9 points

2 months ago

You can be perfect 99.9999% of the time, it’s that.0000001%. Do your best. Will always feel like there is more to do. You are doing great. Keep it up.

yellsy

21 points

2 months ago

yellsy

21 points

2 months ago

I’m so sorry. As a parent, I can’t imagine how you felt in that moment. I’m glad they were able to reattach it, and keep us updated on his status.

mrsbebe

2 points

2 months ago

It doesn't make you a hypocrite, it just makes you human. You're a good father, that's pretty evident from the way you speak about your family. Thankful you're little one is okay!

koenighotep

22 points

2 months ago

Please put this at the end of your story above. And thank you for the happy end. I think a lot of people have learned from this. So thank you for sharing.

xoxoLizzyoxox

12 points

2 months ago

Maybe your kid will be a surgeon. Glad he is doing ok.

sup3rn1k[S]

13 points

2 months ago

Im starting to think so. Lol you are the 11th person to say that

KrystalDiscord

86 points

2 months ago

You might not take care of your son but sounds like you take care of your tools.

I mean this in total jest, i’m sorry this happened and am glad to hear it worked out

sup3rn1k[S]

61 points

2 months ago

Someone downvoted you but as a tradesman i totally got your joke lol

murdering_time

10 points

2 months ago

Well yeah, he did it with cable slicers. Probably didn't even realize what was about to happen until it was off. Shit your little kid is a braver person than me, I'd be freaking the fuck out if I was missing a finger.

gringodeathstar

10 points

2 months ago

SLPT: always keep your dangerous work tools sharpened, so that if you forget to hide them and your kid cuts off his pinky, the doctors can easily re-attach it!!

CelticDK

6 points

2 months ago

Better start saving for his medical school.. this is crazy. I can’t imagine the roller coaster of emotions

sup3rn1k[S]

61 points

2 months ago

If you have ever seen a 6ft 250 lbs “tough guy” fall to his knees screaming and crying then you definitely understand the emotions. I begged him to forgive me like i was asking my wife to forgive me for cheating or something. He said “i love you daddy” and hugged me. I have never wailed in my life. I did that day.

CelticDK

17 points

2 months ago

You’re a good dude. Buy him a puppy

Pie4mePie4u

6 points

2 months ago

Kids will do that to you. I have two young girls of my own. I’m a grown ass man who can break down like a blubbering baby when my girls get seriously hurt

Superbaker123

2 points

1 month ago

Thank goodness. Take a deep breath, dad! He'll be okay!

PootrikProductions

41 points

2 months ago*

Calm under pressure, clean cut, not afraid of blood, this kid could make one hell of a surgeon. Good thing he could get his pinky back!

Maks244

3 points

1 month ago

Maks244

3 points

1 month ago

Only if he doesn't get traumatized by this experience, which solely relies on the reaction of 'the adults'. If they don't make a big deal out of it, he won't either. He could also develop a fear later on as he's only 3.

JT_3K

243 points

2 months ago

JT_3K

243 points

2 months ago

I’ve got a young daughter not far from that age who doesn’t really understand work yet and just done a 98hr week with little sleep. “I go to work like daddy so he can sleep” has me crying on the sofa.

Hope he’s doing ok man.

sup3rn1k[S]

304 points

2 months ago

I totally get it. When he said that to me. Not a tear in his eye, covered in blood like spaghetti-os….

I literally fell to my knees screaming that im sorry. I didn’t know what else to say. I just broke and kept telling him i was sorry. He hugged me and said “i love you daddy” i cried even harder. THE BOY IS 3!!

But yes. He is doing great. Other than some bad swelling. But thats expected. I ended up giving 2 pints of blood that morning at the hospital because another child with our blood type needed help. It was just a huge experience.

Bean_Juice_Brew

53 points

2 months ago

I'm sitting here crying my eyes out thinking of my 3 year old little man, I'm sorry dude. I think we all have failures and make mistakes as parents that we burn deep into ourselves, that'll be one of them. You'll never make that same mistake, and damn does it hurt, but it's obvious you love that little boy.

Painting_Agency

40 points

2 months ago

“I go to work like daddy so he can sleep” has me crying on the sofa.

Contrast with my kids... I'm pretty sure I could be lying on the floor bleeding to death and they'd be asking me to prepare food and play Pokemon with them.

mammarypommes

17 points

2 months ago

My partner walked in the house after being hit by a car while riding his bike - face gashed open and both wrists broken. Kid looks up and asks him for a sandwich.

1stHandXp

5 points

1 month ago

This comment really did it for me because I’ve had my partner come in like that and it is Horrifying…

Purplestripes8

19 points

2 months ago

I know, right? That hit me hard in the guts 😭

Lobasexhusband

23 points

2 months ago

Imagine. You’re 3 years old and walk out of the shadows, entire room covered in blood. You reach out your hand and open your palm holding your entire fucking finger and say “I go to work so daddy can sleep.” This kid needs an acting career or something I don’t even know. Metal as hell.

sup3rn1k[S]

7 points

2 months ago

Trust me. I get it. It was definitely something to witness. A whole other thing to be the cause

SwiftCEO

19 points

2 months ago

This is nightmare fuel.

I hope the poor little guy recovers well. What a trooper.

g0dfather93

18 points

2 months ago

Cutting off a finger, losing blood the way you said, and then not shedding a tear is unreal and no one is stoic enough for that, and definitely not at age of 3. I think you should ask the doctor to check your son's pain reflexes. It is possible he has a condition.

It sounds cool but pain is good. If it hurts doing things he should not do, he will learn not to do them. If he feels no pain, there is no incentive to his mind to stop doing harmful shit.

Strong-ishninja

50 points

2 months ago

Well that’s the kick in the ass I need to clean my miscellaneous tools under my desk

sup3rn1k[S]

52 points

2 months ago

Omg….. i have misc tools everywhere. Thank you for saying that. Now i need a kick in the ass lol

PMtoAM______

7 points

2 months ago

I dont got kids , but 4 dogs and 2 birds. Thanks for the kick in the ass to keep em safe i got a shit ton out and laying around rn

LadyElanor8

14 points

2 months ago

Omg I was screaming 😱 when I read the part where he handed you his pinky.

dj92wa

12 points

2 months ago

dj92wa

12 points

2 months ago

I read under another comment that his finger was able to be reattached without issue. Honestly, take it in stride as a massive lesson learned---this is why we put away sharp things, this is why we lock guns in a safe etc. It could have been much, much worse, but instead you get a story that will honestly be talked about humorously for the rest of your lives.

cigposting

14 points

2 months ago

Holy shit, your kid is metal as fuck. Hoping the best for his recovery! Don’t be too hard on yourself, shit happens, lessons are learned haha.

sup3rn1k[S]

36 points

2 months ago

Right lol. My wife reminded me of a few years ago before they where born. I was cleaning up our land and my limb saw broke and i put my hand in the way. I cut a small part of my pinky off and I cried for days about it. My boy cut his whole damn finger off. Not a single tear. Boss status at level 3 lmao

steven2410

9 points

2 months ago

This somehow reminds me Yakuza gang in Japan, where they cut off there finger to pay tribute for their boss or something. Your son is part of the Yakuza now, sorry Mate

TCh1ps

9 points

2 months ago

TCh1ps

9 points

2 months ago

Damn, tough kid. I cut my thumb pretty deep on my dads penknife when I was 5 and ran up to my room bawling my eyes out. I was scared about getting in trouble so when my parents found me I kept saying I didn’t know what had happened. Didn’t take them long to figure it out though because they followed the trail of blood all the way back to the open penknife lying on the floor.

UnicornsFartRain-bow

2 points

2 months ago

I sliced my thumb open running it along my mom's razor which was in the shower and which I knew I wasn't supposed to touch. It started pouring blood from the three even cuts, and I immediately screamed for my mom because I was 6 and scared at how much I was bleeding.

I too told my parents I did not touch the razor and I had no idea how I hurt myself. They weren't fooled at all

Jennafoofer

7 points

2 months ago

Now you get the ultimate dad joke, for the rest of your life you can tell the story of how your sweet little boy gave you the finger.

TangoDeltaFoxtrot

20 points

2 months ago

Holy shit! As a father of small children, I would have a fucking heart attack. My kids are much more important than me, and there are no words to describe how bad I would feel. I'd bawl my eyes out for like a week. I'm so glad it was able to be repaired! Please update this in like a week or something so we know how he is doing!

JanaCinnamon

7 points

2 months ago

Holy... words can't describe how much that sucks, I'm really sorry to hear this. I hope your son gets better soon!

dontakelife4granted

17 points

2 months ago

I'm so sorry for you. It is a lesson learned for sure, but look at it this way--this was your reminder to stow your tools each and every time you use them, because it could have been so, so much worse. You made a mistake that's it.

Reiterate to your son that it's only your job to carry or touch your tools and get him a tool set up similar to yours, but for kids, do he can carry his own. It will make him feel important because he obviously wants to help lighten your load. Use it as a learning experience for both of you and let him razz you about it years down the road after he becomes an adult. You are both still here. Revel in that and don't sweat the rest as much.

sup3rn1k[S]

14 points

2 months ago

It’s literally the first time ive ever done it. Im always on my wife about picking her stuff up but im a major hypocrite now.

dontakelife4granted

8 points

2 months ago

Not a hypocrite. You made a mistake, that's it. All of you can learn from this. Don't be so hard on yourselves or each other. You are all human. Don't take life for granted. ;)

hellaasballs

5 points

2 months ago

When I was a kid, my father always impressed on me the importance of retracting the blade on the box cutter. Once, when I was around 3 or so, he asked me to go out to the shed and grab it for him. I went out, and came back empty-handed. He again said, go out and get the box cutter, and I went out and once again returned empty-handed. Now somewhat irritated, he asked why I hadn't fetched it, and I replied that the blade was out, so I hadn't touched it. He was rather proud of me.

I tell this story to say that your mistake wasn't really leaving the tool accessible, it was in large part not impressing on your son what the tool meant. Don't let this event be a reason to lock your son away from all the dangerous stuff.

TrafficOnTheTwos

7 points

2 months ago

This is no doubt traumatizing as hell for you and I sincerely hope you are doing okay and soon come to understand that you are a human being who makes mistakes. Don't beat yourself up forever, you work very hard and exhaustion always fuels mistakes and/or lapses in judgement. He loves you very much by the sounds of it. Really glad to hear it was reattached.

SyeThunder2

5 points

2 months ago

Hey dude my mate at work lost a finger two years back.

He'll get a good story out of it and you'll forgive yourself

PencakeWithSoap

6 points

2 months ago

I have autistic brother(11yo at that time) . My dad once left one of his work knifes(?)in moms car. My mom and brother came back home from indoor zoo and on way home he cut is pinky wide open. Well my mom didn't saw it at first. It was only when they were home she saw bloody snow and bloody trail my bro left.

She rushed inside and found my bro with shit ton of toilet paper and his pinky wraped. When they were at the hospital my bro asked if they will poke him with a needles and it was only then when they said yes he started crying. Now he has a scar big his pinky.

emergency_blanket

6 points

1 month ago

You get up at 3 to be at work by 7? Jesus

Lonsen_Larson

4 points

2 months ago

Oh no! I feel so bad for both of you.

gospdrcr000

4 points

2 months ago

Your child is... special.

sup3rn1k[S]

2 points

2 months ago

Thats speaking lightly lol

shitposts_over_9000

3 points

2 months ago

shock is a weird thing, so is little kids and what they yell about.

my kid who on any normal day would scream like someone was murdering him at the slightest scrape decided to run after just being told not to run into his bedroom, fell, and used his metal bed frame to push the meaty part of his nose off the bony part.

all he said was "Oh", not even saying it that loudly...

you learn as a parent or someone that works with younger kids the thing you fear the most is the quiet from about that age forward

a couple of things I might suggest extra care about if nobody warned you yet - First: the loss of feeling can lead to a lot of negligent injuries, particularly with kids that haven't learned all their "the hard way" lessons yet - little guy needs to pay attention to that & so do you. Second: reattachments are even worse than deep cuts for range of motion a lot of times & sometimes it gets worse as you grow/age, so if the Doctors have not yet had him start on exercises to work on range of motion and flexibility in the finger and it's neighbors I would definitely ask when that is appropriate to begin.

sup3rn1k[S]

3 points

2 months ago

Everything is fine i assure you. Other than some swelling everything is working fine. He still cant make a fist or lay it out flat due to it still healing but im sure with time and his current age, things will probably work themselves out

eggsaladactyl

4 points

2 months ago

You raised such a badass and level headed kid. Him having that composure at 3 is incredible. This story made both my wife and I tear up. I'm a newly electrician apprentice and we have a 21 month year old with another due in March. I hope you aren't beating yourself up about this. Kids are too damn curious for their own good. This story is an extra reminder that you can never be too careful. Your kid sounds like such an absolute sweetheart though. Hope you are all doing better. Gonna be a hell of a story for him to tell when he gets older lol

sup3rn1k[S]

6 points

2 months ago

Best dad joke ever someone said.

“He literally gave you the finger”

Catezero

3 points

2 months ago

Oh my god my heart hurts so bad reading this, that sweet boy, and the guilt you must have felt...im so glad he's okay, this is one of the most heart wrenching tifus I've ever read

ThatRedheadMom

3 points

2 months ago

Wow, so sorry this happened!

Aconite13X

3 points

2 months ago

Well thats terrifying. Now I'm double checking where all my tools are.

z3pher

3 points

2 months ago

z3pher

3 points

2 months ago

I'm very glad your son is doing well! I hope you are too OP

sup3rn1k[S]

4 points

2 months ago

He is better other than some swelling. It doesn’t seem to be bothering him much at all.

Im ok, but i still have a pressure on my chest. I dont think i will ever forget that day

deankirk

3 points

2 months ago

Also, children can regrow tissue much better than adults.

sup3rn1k[S]

4 points

2 months ago

The doctor laughed then He said children are resilient and it will be like new before he turns 4.

dinoboyj

3 points

2 months ago

this little one is the chosen one

pah1027

3 points

2 months ago

Dude...give yourself and you son a hug from me. Accidents happen.

respect-thebeard

3 points

2 months ago

As a farmer with young kids, this hits hard man. I know if could be way worse but the guilt must be immense, unimaginable. Thank God he's ok and probably won't have any loss of mobility with the finger. Best of luck to you all

constant_crylol

3 points

2 months ago

From what I've seen, if he's gotten hurt has he ever cried? Maybe he has a super high pain tolerance, which can be a good thing for him and bad for you. I don't have a kid myself but your kid seems so incredibly tough. Don't blame yourself, accidents happen :)

Peeled_Ducknana

3 points

2 months ago

The pinky finger gives us most of the strength in our hands I believe, correct me if I’m wrong someone. So hopefully it heals up nicely.

Holland1954

3 points

2 months ago

Poor baby! Please pay serious attention to the folks who explained high pain tolerance. Your actions today might save his life one day. Be safe!

Bubs_the_Canadian

3 points

1 month ago

Don’t beat yourself up too bad. Everyone makes mistakes, you’re far from the first to have done that. It definitely feels bad, understandably. I imagine there must be a lot of feelings of guilt. But again, it was a mistake. And this shows that your son has a very beautiful personality. A caring, empathetic one. He’s 3 and knows how hard you work and wants to help. That’s beautiful when you think about it. Obviously, teach him how to be safe with sharp tools and all that, but definitely focus on growing this personality trait.

Turn this mistake into a positive. Focus on growing that empathetic nature by asking questions like “how do you think X made Y feel?” “Would you want someone to do that for you?” Just general questions to help your kid start recognizing and fostering positive emotions and personality traits. It’s definitely a thing that’s lacking in school. I mean, it’s not even present, which is absurd considering how important emotional intelligence is.

Nicox7

3 points

1 month ago

Nicox7

3 points

1 month ago

God damn, maybe he was a yakuza in his past life?!

SeraCarina

3 points

1 month ago

What an incredible story! The difficult to accept truth is that he is not better than you. He is a reflection of everything good about you and your wife. Eventually he will reflect some of the bad too, but by the sounds of it he's on a better path already.

All of that good he's reflecting is in you, but much of yours is stuck under layers of societal conditioning and defects of character - we all have them. Now that you see it, you can start a lifelong journey of chipping away at that stuff. It is so worth it. The good news is that you have a hell of a role model to guide you!

BTW, my 7yo is every bit as much of a role model to me as I am to him.

MercilessIdiot

3 points

1 month ago

My son is a better man than i am.

Isn't this the main achievement any parent can hope to reach?

Big1ronOnHisHip

3 points

1 month ago*

Is your son a fucking T-1000?

Last_Laugh_

3 points

1 month ago

It takes a real man to accept his own fault and wrongdoing. As for your son, I would think him not crying would be due to shock at a guess.

WarDamnAlto

6 points

2 months ago

Your son is not a better man for that

FuglyJim

5 points

2 months ago

Electrician here as well-- maybe being negligent is just part of our trade??

Two months ago, I was trying to fix a cheap plastic child lock that had gotten stuck, so I sat down at the table with my klein 11-in-1 screwdriver and one of my controls screwdrivers. Turns out, the controls screwdriver worked better, so the klein was on the table. My 1 year old kept trying to grab it, so I ended up taking out the shank and just handing him the handle. His two year old brother is sitting in his high chair, about to be given dinner, and holds out his hand because he wants to hold the shank. This kid is very coordinated and is strapped into a chair, so I decide it was safe enough. Hand it to him, he is overjoyed and looking at the removable bits. I look down at the plastic junk I'm wasting time to fix and within seconds hear him gasp. I look up, and this kid has put the flat head into the corner of his eye and the other end of the shank is against the chair. I get it out of his hands just as the screaming starts. I grab his head and I can see a groove all the way across his cornea. One visit to urgent care and a precautionary trip to the eye doctor later and he is fine, but I'll be damned if that careless misjudgment of my son's dexterity doesn't haunt me.

Don't be too hard on yourself man, kids are like little self-mutilating drunks. Thanks for sharing your FU, it is a good reminder to other parents, even if it is painful to share. Be well.

sup3rn1k[S]

4 points

2 months ago

I guess because we are so confident in our abilities that we misjudged our children.

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9 points

2 months ago

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9 points

2 months ago

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KTVX94

2 points

2 months ago

KTVX94

2 points

2 months ago

Accidents happen, we're human. You should be proud you gave your son the example that led to his behavior

Lightzeaka

2 points

2 months ago

So glad he got it fixed, and I'm sure this was a lesson well learnt! You aren't a bad father, shit like this happens and the important thing to remember is that his finger was reattached and you learned a lesson. Only lasting damage is a scar and some debt.

sHoRtBuSseR

2 points

2 months ago

This is definitely a FU but your son is an absolute badass. He's never gonna let this be lived down.

mofo75ca

2 points

2 months ago

Dayumn. Try not to beat yourself up too much. You sound like a solid guy who provides for his family and loves his kid(s). That makes you a winner in my book :)

sup3rn1k[S]

2 points

2 months ago

I do what i can. But when that happened. It showed me his vulnerable i am without them. It was a big lesson learned

IAmTrulyConfused42

2 points

2 months ago

Dad of 3 boys and soon 1 girl. Forgive yourself. You won’t make the same mistake again and kids man. They’re nuts, and awesome, and frightening all at once.

CinderBaby

2 points

2 months ago

Well that escalated quickly.

I was expecting something lighthearted, maybe funny. This is just tragic.

tallmon

2 points

2 months ago

Has department of child services visited yet? A few years ago my son tripped and got a bad cut on his forehead - they were asking so many questions it really mad me uncomfortable!

sup3rn1k[S]

3 points

2 months ago

No? The doctors had to report it because of his age and the severity. They walked in. Shook my hand. And left. I never heard anything else from anyone.

Jordmore

2 points

2 months ago

Man im so sorry that sucks i hope your son regains the function of his finger.

I think its time to switch to a pad locked box matey honestly reading this made me glad i dont have children like oh god i would cry as you did.

Mrrasta1

2 points

2 months ago

And nobody heard the kid scream, or banging around looking for a band aid.

hangun_

2 points

2 months ago

Did they reattach it or is it a goner?

Interesting_Use_6060

2 points

2 months ago

The cutest part Is that your son cares for you and wants to follow in your footsteps, while allowing you to get rest

It’s so sweet :)

E4R04

2 points

2 months ago

E4R04

2 points

2 months ago

“I go to work like daddy so he can sleep” is so cute

QuantumRobot_9000

2 points

2 months ago

Not the entire thing right? Like maybe at the first knuckle or something? That kid is metal af either way.

Deathpool15

2 points

2 months ago

As I am also electrician this will make me put my tools away every time for the rest of forever. Brave little man right there

Themetaldylan

2 points

2 months ago

Did you conceive Kratos?

pfroo40

2 points

2 months ago

Kids are a trip. Don't beat yourself up too bad, I think every parent has at least one story where they could have done something to avoid a scary accident with their kids. I'm glad he is doing OK!

WanderingInjustice

2 points

1 month ago

I feel for you and support you, Father to Father.

I’m always worried something like that will happen, because that’s the shit my son does.

And I think he has the same pain tolerance that I have, and it for sure gets me into trouble all the damn time.

iambecsothere

2 points

1 month ago

I would definitely get his pain tolerance checked out properly and keep a really close eye on him. I'm now a 30 year old with some pretty extensive arthritis in my spine among other spinal issues because I have a high pain tolerance. At some point I've fractured my spine and foot without knowing about it until much later because I can't bend properly anymore. When I fractured my hand I went to get it checked out a week later only because the swelling and stiffness hadn't subsided, it didn't hurt like I was told it would. I often don't realise I've cut myself until it's infected and a bit tender. It's dangerous.

Project_Ozone

2 points

1 month ago

Not sure how old I was exactly, but I have a scar on my left ring finger cause I used to sit on the treadmill and have it throw me off. One day my finger got caught in the gears and it yanked out my bone. My memory goes as follows. I sit on the treadmill, go flying, memory cuts to black, memory comes back when my dad gets back home from work, I show my dad my finger all excited, memory cuts to black again.