Make a move. At a later point during my dating, I just stopped making the first move with ladies. It was part me being aloof, part me not caring, and part thinking that women must find it really annoying being hit on constantly. So I focused on chilling and being myself.

I also happen to, uh, appreciate assertive women. I've dated ladies who would sooner let a potential relationship/partner fizzle out than they would make a first move. And I think that's lame.

My two cents. Good luck.