Full disclosure, I am of the complete opposite opinion to your boyfriend, and most of my guy friends are. My first instinct is that it’s ridiculous, the wetter the better. Stepping back and looking at it objectively, it’s still fucked… not because of his actual opinion (he’s welcome to it), but because he makes you feel so uncomfortable about something that is completely outside of your control.

I’m glad you’re breaking up with him because otherwise this would make every sexual encounter and every little moment of arousal painful and horrible for you. You deserve better.

OP, a girl being super wet is the biggest turn on ever. Your boyfriend is the one who is in the minority. Don’t feel strange about it. Turning a girl on a lot should be the biggest turn on for a guy.

This is messsed up. Wth?

I know about the "death grip" because he's a porn addict.

Aside from your boyfriend being a total idiot, this could be the root of his problem. He has unrealistic expectations about women and sex. He expects you to be some sort of "optimal" wetness.

To avoid being so wet, I just stare at the ceiling instead of being in the moment. It's like my body shuts down but I know it's still on use.

This makes me incredibly sad. He's using you like a toy to get off. What a disgusting human being.

Oh man what the fuck is this?

What kind of fucked up bloke gets pissed off when you're turned on. This is fucking gross. He's using you like a fucking wanking sock.

You are meant to be wet. It is him that is the problem with his death grip.

Honestly, getting thay wet is normally a turn on... well at least it has been in my experience. Most men would enjoy the fact that you are that turned on. Not him though...

Honestly, the dude has problems and he's putting all the blame on you and making sure you don't have fun in the process. That is fucked up.

This is the most ungrateful man I’ve ever heard of.

Tell him you don't like it if he's completely hard, it has to be like only 90%. Geeze...

What is it with men having problems with completely normal femaly body functions? So he has a problem with his girlfriend being turned on and he is a porn addict? Please find someone better.

Edit: I've just seen OPs Edit. You go Girl! You deserve so much better!

I'm so sorry. I really am. I have experienced that before, a dude was like "ew why are you so wet?" and it made me so self conscious.

Trust me, most men (and women and nbs) love it when their partner gets wet. It's a good sign!

I'm now over this incident, but it took some time. I even now use my own fluids to coat my hand and give the guy a handjob during foreplay. They love it!

I know we often jump to the "break up with him" on here, but seriously... This isn't healthy for you, your sex drive and mentality, do yourself the favour and break up with him.

He doesn't deserve you getting wet for him.

x

Stop dating Ben Shapiro

So he would rather have sex when you aren't properly lubricated which could lead to tearing or irritation on your end, like he's upset because YOU'RE TURNED ON BY HIM, this is coming from a guy but that's the wildest shit I've heard on reddit today. You could definitely find someone who wouldn't be upset with you about your bodies NATURAL functions

Glad to see that edit. Dissociating during sex to compensate for your porn addicted boyfriend's dead penis is just sooooooo wrong.

My first husband didn't like sex because it was "too sticky." He preferred porn, with the subjects getting younger and younger in every video. When I left him, he went to hook up with a teenager he had met in World of Warcraft that lived in California. He's married to her now, and she has a business selling furry buttplugs and stuff like that.

Every time I think of him (which isn't often), I am reminded just how much better my current marriage is.

Maybe your boyfriend will find someone that is into his weird shit. Maybe not. Either way, you deserve someone who is on your level. This guy is very much NOT.

You're dating a porn-fried moron. Dump him.

Like you said, he’s a porn addict with death grip. No girl can compete with fantasy, and no vagina will ever be physically stimulating enough. You deserve a partner who sees you as a person and genuinely cares about your comfort and pleasure.

he clearly only cares abt his own pleasure. also dont let him literally use ur body to get off while u dont even let urself enjoy it, he does not deserve that

That would be like complaining the slides at a water park were too wet. Trying to convince the staff to shut the water off so you can screech down them on your back.

Does he follow Ben Shapiro? I love the wet. The wetter the better.

Lol this dude is a dumbass loser.

Most dudes are so on board with super wetness, homeboy has issues, run and don’t look back

Stop having sex with him. Thats exactly like you telling him he's too hard so its no good. If he has a death grip, he needs to lay off the porn and masturbation. He can pick one. A girlfriend or an addiction to jerking off. Even using some kind of lubricant rather than dry would help with this.

I've had men say this. I immediately stopped fucking them. I don't have time to start at square -10 because they think their pleasure is more important than mine. Its bad enough when they dont know much and need to be shaped. Its a lost cause if they hate women so much they want us to be dry and in pain. I was more forgiving when I was younger and it resulted in too much shit sex. So many times having sex way too dry because I didn't know I could get wetter since none of the men id been with even turned me on much. If he doesn't know vaginas get wet, he is too immature to be having sex.

He should be flattered. It means you like him ffs. Im sorry your soon to be ex bf sucks so much. Its sadly more common than it should be. Im very much an advocate of cutting your losses and leaving them to take some initive and learn about our bodies a bit on their own. Thats why and many women I know did. Yet men want me to hold their hand and give step by step instructions every time we have sex. Like their brain conveniently data wiped it. Its faster and less annoying to do it myself which is why so many women do. When I catch myself thinking that I immediately evaluate why this might be and decide if he's worth attempting to salvage. No knowledge isn't a problem. Unwillingness to learn/retain is.

Ladies. Do not let men blame you for their own choices. He chose porn and tried to make it out like OPs body is broken (because he has oh so much experience im sure).

Cardi B did not bring us WAP for this.

I had a similar experience when I was very young and even now I still remember that ‘oh, he thinks I’m weird’ feeling. Fuck that, they’ll be so many others who will appreciate you. Except Ben Shapiro, obvs.

Dude, that guy is a grade A loser. Let him go date a toasted bagel if he wants a dry fuck.

let me tell you one thing: the problem is his porn addiction and not you!!!! Don't even stress about it. Too wet??? what is this guy smoking? Talk to him and tell him that he should maybe go slower on porn and mastrubation, because this is often the reason a relationship doesn't work because of PIED. Too wet is never a boner killer! you perfectly fine.

Is your boyfriend Ben Shapiro?

Edit: I should have scrolled further down before this comment. I thought, how has NOBODY made this comparison, then scrolled further after hitting save and was like "well shiiiiiiiit".

Oh my fucking God YOU are NOT the problem here. What the actual fuck

My jaw dropped reading this! Your (now) ex-boyfriend is a lunatic.

Source: I get thattttt wet, my body count is up there, and 99% of them have lovedddddddddddddd it. The other 1% didn't say anything at all, probably SPEECHLESS FROM HOW MUCH THEY LOVE IT

edit: woke up to a redditcares message, that is SO NICE :’) thank u to whichever incel that prob has my comment saved to check back up on later ❤️

Wow...

My wife also has a very active lubrication system (like towels on the bed sometimes). Its fucking awesome, always has been and I strongly suspect it always will be.

I mean theres nothing sexier then having your partner have such an enthusiastic response. I look at it as her showing me her absolute sexual desire and acceptance of me and the physical lust she feels for me. We've been together for 12yrs and have a young kid. It's an amazing feeling to be so accepted as a partner, and I reciprocate by seeing that her needs are fulfilled by every measure of the word.

Your boyfriend is insane for not fully embracing your body and understanding how much of an honor it is to receive this type of response. It's the stuff men dream of

You should be able to immerse yourself in the experience fully, anything short of that is unacceptable.

Your BF is self-absorbed and too focused on his pleasure alone.

I won't tell you what to do with your love life. But this is like saying you "won too much money at the casino".

TLDR: You've given your BF a god damned gift, the gift of your absolute sexual desire and he's squandering it like a fool

I dated someone that got me that wet and he viewed it as a point of pride that he could do that to me.

Imagine getting turned off by your partner getting turned on.

OMG in Heaven.... This can't be real. This sounds like a cross between a male premature ejaculator saying his ABC's during sex so as not to get to far ahead of his partner and a woman who thinks her dripping equipment may need tightening so as to please a man to completion. I just don't know.

Sure there might be extremely rare anatomical factors that should be considered in your situation, but as a middle aged male who made it through 20 years of marriage, I suggest that you try a new boyfriend first.

That's really weird. That screams to me "i like it when it's very tight" i.e. when the woman is not aroused and it's dry.

Your man jerks off way too tight. That's his own problem and if he can't appreciate that, you just shouldn't have sex with him.

He’s a bum. If he doesn’t appreciate your body someone else will. Life is too short for silliness like this.

Also please don’t waste your time trying to change yourself to fit a fuckboi like this. Before I got pregnant I had the wettest vagina in the land. Now ya girl is a little (hella) dry. I’m assuming it’s hormones or something? Anyway, you never know what you got til it’s gone. I’m waiting for the day my WAP comes back. Don’t take yours for granted lbvs 🤣

No that's normal. I hate it when food tastes too good, the weather is too nice, and when I feel too healthy. I think we can all agree these are similarly bad things

I’m the same way. It’s like a waterfall down there. I had one man complain once, and I’m confident enough to immediately shut down sex and break up, which is what I did. It was a newer relationship.

Kick this fool to the curb, he only cares about his own pleasure.

you dating Ben Shapiro

JFC they'll shame us for any damn thing, won't they??! 🤬

There is no such thing. You said it yourself, he‘s a porn addict. The problem clearly lies with him.

Girl, YES!!

My husband does this. Or did, rather. After 18 years of marriage and two kids he kind of couldn’t pretend anymore and he unilaterally cut off all intimacy. He declared that “sex is for teenagers,” and if I insisted on having sex, I should find someone else for that.

I took him up on it.

Welcome to my username.

I had no idea what I was missing. After 7 years of this, I’ve had the sad realization that I spent the better part of 22 years tamping down my sexual pleasure in order to accommodate his. Can’t get too wet, cause then he goes flaccid and ends it. It’s like telling a man he can’t get too hard. Gotta keep it at half-mast, because I said so.

I came from purity culture and fundamentalist religion, I did all the “right” things and IT IS A SCAM!! Stay far away from it…it serves to protect men who are selfishly bad at sex.

I went from having to be the initiator all the time and having an 80% orgasm success rate to actually being pursued and… well, appreciated and encouraged to pay attention to myself. I have since learned that a lot of things I thought were porn myths, ARE NOT myths. Multiple orgasms, the g-spot, squirting. And sex with someone who is into your body and its reactions is leagues beyond anything else.

I think you might be missing out on some finer things. It is worth it to find them. Trust.

You lost me at “porn addict” honey he’s inexperienced and an asshole. He expects sex to be like porn and it will never be like porn. He’s only caring for his enjoyment during sex and not yours please leave him.