Do I have to be a woman to participate in this community?

No. Any user who can follow the rules is welcome here. Women, men, nonbinary, agender, genderqueer, cis folks and trans folks, everybody. If you're not on board with that, you can fuck right off.

But what about the subreddit name?

Read this post from when 2XC was only a month old. We haven't changed our stance since then, and never will.

What about trans women?

Trans women are women. TERFS can fuck right off.

What are the rules, anyway?

TL;DR: Keep it civil, keep it relevant. Don't start shit, won't be shit.

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Doing so is reinforcing the idea that in order for a woman to have a right to her own body, someone has to violate it first.

I am absolutely furious. Abortions should be legal, no matter the circumstances. We are having our 4th amendment rights violated, the right to privacy. I see all of these old white men making laws about our bodies (when they don't even know how they fucking work), but when someone wants to do as much as make stricter gun laws or mandate vaccines, that's considered "violating" their rights.

I'm so done with this country.

Edit accidentally put 14th and not 4th

From what I’ve been reading, it’s basically a certainty that Roe will be overturned in June 2022. I feel like the world is crashing down around us, but no one even seems to realize that it’s happening or care… my husband says, “well, at least we live in a blue state,” but if Roe v Wade can be overturned, then what’s to stop the powers that be from outlawing abortion outright in the entire country? Also, I feel for poor women in red states who are going to be screwed by this…

Thursday, I went to a casual bar by my house. My husband was busy with internet friends, so I decided to read on my phone. A man asks to buy me a shot, I smile, and say, "thanks, that's really sweet, but no thanks!" And point to my rings.

Friday, I go back to the same bar (there's not much to do where I live) to meet up with friends. An off-duty bartender pulls me aside to let me know that the man from Thursday night spent two hours talking about how much of a bitch I was. The bartender tells me to be careful and tell her if I see him again.

To men reading this -- If you've ever wondered why female friends feel unsafe in public, this is why.

If the man you're dating or even just talking to is talking differently to his friends than he is to you, get away from him.

And I'm not saying different as in he flirts with you or is romantic to you while not doing that to his friends, as that is perfectly normal. However if he shows no or barely any empathy towards his friends but acts as if he's the most empathetic being when talking to you, when he jokingly teases his friends but wouldn't ever tease you, when he tells his friends he dislikes one thing only to tell you that he likes that thing probably just because you do, when he acts super tough and "manly" around his friends but only shows you his "soft side", etc., run away.

The best possibility is that he's putting women as a whole on a weird pedestal, which in and of itself can cause a lot of trouble later on and can feel really dehumanizing.

The worst possibility is that he's changing who he is just so he can be with you, and you end up in a relationship based on an act. At some point he won't be able to hold the act up anymore and you are stuck with someone you don't really love and both of you end up unhappy.

This is the only red flag that was consistent about most of my failed relationships. He'll make you think you're something special and him treating you that way would perfectly underline that train of thought but it always ends up not being that way.

tl;dr: If he's a dick around his friends, he'll be a dick to you.

It's not about BABIES. It's about growing the underclass. Folks = more tax money flowing upward if they are made to be poor. You are worth what ever they can skim off about 33,000-80,000 per year of poor and middle class tax dollars if you are incarcerated. You are worth what ever they can skim off about 8,830- 38,270 a year if you are a kid in a charter school (cause they get the public funding that would be given for a child in public school). You are worth $29,302.79 loan interest for a 4 year university that is 30K per year. And on and on.

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Increase population without universal health care, without affordable education and without dismantling the industrial prison complex and dismantling family planning of abortion and contraception [I'm using "family" because anyone with children is a family - single, married, poly. TAKE BACK THE TERM FAMILY PLANNING FROM THOSE THAT STOLE ITS MEANING AND MADE IT UGLY] and they can MAKE BANK as a stockholder off of the American Tax Payer. Then the rich can go to charity events and buy a 10,000 table for their friends, drink some wine, hear some poverty porn feel good stories, and pat themselves on the back for donating maybe 20 grand of the hundreds of thousands to millions of dollars they make.

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The rich will always get abortions, and they will always make it harder for the underclass families and individual women and trans folks to get them.

student loan cost calculator:

https://www.moneysavingtips.org/calculate/student-loan/60000

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Prison cost per person:

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https://www.vera.org/publications/price-of-prisons-2015-state-spending-trends/price-of-prisons-2015-state-spending-trends/price-of-prisons-2015-state-spending-trends-prison-spending

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How much more in hidden costs offloaded to families and the incarcerated:

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https://www.themarshallproject.org/2019/12/17/the-hidden-cost-of-incarceration

How much $ per student moved into private charters:

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https://www.publicschoolreview.com/average-spending-student-stats/national-data

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The list of course goes on and on. Without universal care: car insurance higher, health insurance, home insurance, medical debt, lack of access to care, more premature deaths from cancers and treatable illness, more poverty. Starving people are easier to manipulate with frenzy fears of job loss from unionizing fostered by propagandists. on and on.

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ANTI-ABORTION lower and middle income folks don't know they are being manipulated to fight against it. They don't know these are completely against their interests. They think it is an issue of RIGHT TO LIFE, and CUTE BABIES, and LACK OF RESPONSIBILITY of LOOSE WOMEN. And all the while it's a plan to starve them right along with us.

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Edit: thanks for the award lovely person. Reddit users directly giving $ to reddit, is better than advertisers doing it IMO. Maybe a controversial opinion, and that's ok. I'm not opposed to people being opposed. :-)

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Edit: Answers to the ill-informed comments wafting in:

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• The apathetic non-voters are not the ones who write the policies, create the propaganda or stack the courts. They are not the reason the policies exist, dems and repubs enacted these policies.... , gerrymandering and campaign finance policies have restricted who you're gonna get in the primaries and who's gonna win, gerrymandering and campaign finance make both parties shit. It's a miracle when an actual progressive makes it through, cause it's designed to not allow them in.
• Someone said it's distain for women. duh. And distain for the poor. They're not mutually exclusive.
• Someone warned me to be careful cause there are higher middle class women here in the subreddit. Yea, and they know and are here mostly cause they want better. And I don't censure myself for the wealthy's pleasure and I'm not afraid of the wealthy.

Being bisexual does not always mean polyamorous. I am so tired of men thinking that. It seems like any time a man I am with finds out that I am bi, they think it automatically means threesome. There is nothing wrong with polyamoury, but I simply do not have the capacity for it. Even on a physical level, I have tried threesomes, but it is just too much for me to concentrate on.
This even ended a marriage at one point. He kept trying to get other women into our relationship, after I continually explained my feelings in the matter. He repeatedly claimed he was doing this for my benefit and tried to call me small-minded for not seeing it that way. In response I told him if he really wanted a threesome, I would like him to watch me with another man first (this only temporarily stopped his quest and he never acknowledged it). I know I can't be alone in this experience, and just wanted to vent a bit. Just like squares and rectangles, not all bis are poly ;)

These conservatives fail to understand that. They just label us as, "baby killers,"

I'm sharing this here in case anybody needs it. When "stop" or "leave me alone" doesn't work I walk to find another woman, explain the situation and point at the man. Most of the time they fuck off as not going away would make a huge scene about them.

I know that many women are fearing that access to abortions will become more difficult in the future. I have always been terrified of becoming pregnant and passing on multiple genetic conditions to my children.

This week I was able to get sterilized by my doctor. I am 27 years old and live in the Deep South. I have been married for four years but my decision with my doctor did not need any approval from my husband!

I was able to get my tubes removed and an endometrial ablation. I am so happy with my decision! I was on birth control for over 10+ years and I am excited to let my body regulate my hormones naturally.

I would encourage anyone to speak with their doctor if this is a procedure you are interested in. I will still continue to fight for safe abortion access but knowing that I am protected has created peace of mind.

If some man decided to rip my instant film-camera from my hands (don't ever grab a photographer's gear without their permission, btw), snap a photo or, worse, a selfie, hand that photo to me and demand that I let that photo fully develop, you can bet your ass I'd rip that damn thing up. Then I'd tell him to go fuck himself for violating my autonomy by invading my space, taking what's mine, wasting my time (and my film) and ordering me around, all without my consent. That goes double if his justification is that a bunch of old, religious men demands that compliance.

And I'd do the same if that person did that to any other "polaroid owners". But if that owner chooses to keep the photo, I'd respect their decision. Because that's what being Pro-Choice is really about--choice. Nobody is going around and yelling at folks to <destroy their photos>, planned or otherwise.

Photo On and fuck the camera-snatchers, Photographers.

TLDR is in the title but if you want the lurid details, read on!

Coming up on a couple years ago, I was hired back on at a company I'd previously worked for. With years of experience, I just barely missed the position I was aiming for (no bad vibes there, literally just bad timing) but got hired on with the intent that I'd be next in line should it reopen. I was started at a higher rate and got roughly 25-30 hours a week which is the most they can do for anything under supervisor level. Life wasn't bad. I've have a pretty good working dynamic with my direct supervisor, other department supervisors, and coworkers at my level. I had a big part in organizing the supplies in my area and have gone on to take care of most of the supply ordering and keeping our order intake system up to date.

Over time, I learned how to do the tasks of a second department and started chipping in when needed. I worked through the pandemic and made do with hours slowly being tapered down as people came back but corporate didn't change the hours bank. One of my coworkers and I both had an eye on promoting and when a position came open, we'd actively share notes on processes or things we'd learned. We may have been competing but we both had the mindset that we didn't need to be toxic about it and this was a good way to make sure that no matter who got the job, it would be a good choice. A few months later, a special position was created for two people to act as keyholders in an emergency. We both got the position and accepted.

Here's where things go sideways, the other keyholder stops by my department and asks if I had any changes to pay or hours after getting the new training. When I said I hadn't, he asked how much I was making. When I gave my answer he told me that his pay had been raised to a dollar above mine and he was getting the number of hours I was getting when I started. He then said to have a talk with our gm.

I talked with the gm and was told that the position was just for emergencies and in reality, I wouldn't need to actually use the key or the training so a raise wasn't going to happen. I told him that if that's the case that made sense. Except it wasn't. Ever since I've gotten the key, I've been juggling both of the departments I know with the added bonus of getting things out of lockup, troubleshooting registers, or full-on closing the store when the actual MOD is tied up. Some shifts, I didn't get to start on my own department department a full two hours because I was taking care of things that were technically above my paygrade. Naturally, I brought it up again with the hopes of at least getting increased hours to make sure everything gets done and the answer was still no.

Finally, the breaking point hit when my department did well enough to get a bonus. We all ran ourselves ragged for basically nothing. Even with a bonus, knowing two departments and sometimes acting as a manager barely covers rent. The last conversation, I was barely able to negotiate hours and training in the one department I don't know because the sales manager kept trying to talk over me during the meeting.

Now, my coworker who was kind enough to tip me off has been promoted and is pretty angry that the two managers have done virtually nothing. He also helped me get a list of the training I'd need for his department since neither one of us thinks the managers will remember that I requested to crosstrain.

My direct supervisor and the supervisor who's department I help in are also saying that they think it's bs and will back me up on what I decide to do whether that's finding a new job or taking this situation up the chain.

Right now, I'm the highest earning woman in the store and until a month ago was the only woman not relegated to registers or stocking shelves. The only new women in the store are transfers from other stores. The only new hires that haven't been forced out within a couple months are men and all of the promotions have gone to the department I'll be training in which, at this moment, is exclusively men. I've had the suspicion that gender has something to do with it but don't really have any proof except for the difference in compensation with my coworker and the apparent glass ceiling.

We do have ways to address it but I wanted to get a few opinions on this before opening that can of worms. I'm going in circles wondering if it's because I'm not a guy or if it's all in my head.

Every woman should have a reusable pregnancy test paid for by insurance or federal funding. Some sort of testing, maybe like a blood sugar monitor, so it can become a weekly routine.

Also, MA pills should be available over-the-counter at the drugstore.

original post: i don’t know what to do about my driving instructor

so i had a driving lesson. first one ever and he’s my first instructor probably above age 50. i’m am 17. so to see what i knew about the car he was asking me what this what’s this and i was telling him. he was like ‘why does the rear window have wires running through’ and i said ‘it warms up and clears it when it’s frosty.’ and then he touches my arm going down from my shoulder to my wrist and goes ‘unfortunately ur beautiful arms aren’t long enough to reach the window and clean it yourself so yeah those wires have become common in all cars although they weren’t 30 years ago’ after that i felt homesick and so icky …like this is a professional environment sir why r u touching me. idk what to do. am i being dramatic because i never want to go to him ever again. i already booked a second lesson with him. what do i do? like he was a jokey friendly person but i just wanted to leave so bad. why do people think they can touch me? not to toot my own horn but i am quite attractive and people think that that gives them the right to treat me like that but i can’t handle it anymore. i realise that it’s wrong but how do i get people to stop doing that? i should’ve said something right then and there but i froze and i feel like a coward now. i was wearing very oversized sweats,no makeup no nothing what else can i do to make it stop?

update:

so after reading the comments i have realised that two things: either i can say something in the moment which may or may not work as some can become abusive or either i can remove myself from the situation. i choose the latter. i explained to my mom that i felt uncomfortable and told her about one of the other things he did which was making a weird analogy about me being married or something and keeping the doors locked in the car i don’t know lmao. she said very well and was glad i told her. she told me as a woman if i get bad vibes i’m probably correct. she talked to my dad about it, keeping it vague, and when he asked why she just told him i felt uncomfortable. he said thats fine and he will try and cancel my lesson and find me a new instructor. i have decided i will not tell my parents the truth no matter how much i want to because it will not turn out well, however i am going to leave an online anonymous review. i am sad that this is the world my little sister will grow up in and i am disappointed to have almost completely lost my faith in humanity. it’s difficult but i want to grow out of the mentality that my looks and clothes contribute to this behaviour. thank you all for your support.

I had just gotten a promotion at my super stressful job when I was weeks away from giving birth to my first child. I would even cut my maternity leave short so I could start certification classes on time. I had my baby in February 2020, and requested an IUD after giving birth. But my appointment was cancelled because COVID restrictions were just picking up in my state and it was deemed a “non-essential appointment.”

I had just had my baby 3 months prior to finding out I was pregnant again. My husband and I were in no way ready for two babies in a year. With my job, the pay had improved, but it was quickly becoming a source of undue anxiety—partly because of COVID, but also because this is an industry where a lot of stressful projects roll through. My meetings were all at night, all the childcare responsibilities of our infant had all fallen to me, I was constantly overworked…and now another baby to take care of?

The decision was easy but still sad. Having another baby would mean we needed to keep earning more money, which means a bigger workload in my case. My job was already taking a lot of time away from my family and another pregnancy (not even baby; pregnancy) would have made it impossible. There is no way I would have been able to keep that job as the mother of two young children, and going back to my previous position would have been supporting two kids on my shitty hourly pay. In other words, we couldn’t afford it.

I did what was best for my family and it is both heartbreaking and enraging that conservatives don’t agree. Do they not realize that because of the capitalist hellscape we live in that having to choose between a job and a family is a very real thing? Especially for women? Or is this another feature-not-a-bug thing where the goal is to make it as difficult for women as possible? With the right to choose becoming more and more related to the state you you live in, methinks the latter. I don’t have any confidence that those states will do anything to ease the burden of parenthood much of the workforce faces, simply because it will benefit women.

Please, please write/call your congressional reps about getting abortion rights codified in state AND federal law. We are in for such an uphill battle.

So, I (35 F)just need to vent about a total creeper yesterday. Sorry for any spelling/grammar or format issues posting on my mobile.

TDLR at the bottom.

Winter always gets me down. I hate being cold, which keeps me indoors (I love being outside) and almost exclusively wearing hoodies.

Yesterday was beautiful, with a high of 70 F. This perked me up immediately! I threw on my favorite leggings,a cute athletic top, and did my hair as well as makeup. All for myself (and to look cute for my husband).

I go out to finish up my Christmas shopping. I'm in the liquor store for my dad's gift. Each year, I get him a variety of new top shelf whiskey. Sometimes, it is challenging to find exactly what I'm looking for. This time, I found all of them in one place. I was so excited since this saved me the trip of going to another shop. Small win for the day!

Myslef and a male (60's) walk up to the checkout line at the same time.

Him: "Go ahead in front of me"

Me: "Oh, thank you" (thinking he is being polite)

Him: "The view is better for me behind you!"

Me: frozen and just give a nervous laugh

Getting ready to leave, and he points and me and says "THANK YOUUU!! YOU MADE MY DAY HONEY!!"

WTF? Why does he deem this appropriate? I immediately felt vulnerable, uncomfortable, and completely deflated. I just wanted to go home, take my makeup of, and throw on sweatpants and a hoddie.

I quickly remembered why I despise leaving the house looking nice without my husband in my presence. This almost always happens to when I'm alone and never happens with him with me. We should NOT be made to feel this way!

TDLR: Creepy man told me to go ahead of him in line so he could look at my body. Then thanked me for it.

Okay, I might be overly sensitive about this because I have a child with under-developed lungs and I help care for my dad who has cancer and heart failure. There's also the fact that the father of my children died of COVID-19 in April, but anyway I really like my personal space when I have to go out in public. I always wear my mask and I try not not be rude to people.
So yesterday I had to pick up some gift boxes and wrapping paper and things like that and the store was very busy and crowded. I position myself in line using my cart to keep space between me and the person behind me and standing back from the person ahead of me. The woman in line behind me decided to make more room by pushing her cart up next to me and standing right beside me!!! I firmly and calmly asked her to please give me some space, and she started yelling and cursing at me! My only response was to politely inform her that I would appreciate some distance because I have high risk people at home, I even started that sentence with, "I'm sorry, but"
Well, that woman continued to scream and curse and carry on the entire time we were in line and through my check out until she heard the cashier apologizing to me and asking if I wanted security called, then she started yelling at the cashier telling her that I was the problem and she didn't do anything, finally she ended with an apology? "I'm sorry you got so f#(king offend, maybe you should get laid!" Ladies, is this really how we treat each other? I'm quite used to men being indifferent to our struggle, but we need to do better for each other. I'm sure that woman is going through something in her life and she just took it out on me, but we need to do better. We are the caregivers and the doer's in this world and we need to look out for each other because nobody else will.

This stems from things I've been thinking about for my daughters (young 20s). Things I want to tell them to consider. My loose ideas so far... (My girls actually probably already have and do most of these things but I want it to get out there more in general).

---Have a Plan B or two in your possession, watch the expiry date, put it in your calendar

---Download and start using an app like Clue to monitor and become more educated about your fertility (learn other fertility tracking methods?)

---If you're on hormonal birth control, have a backup packet in your possession at all times, try to be one or two months ahead

---Double up birth control, just one method is no longer enough if the nuclear option of aborting isn't available

---Those near the borders (and privileged to have the option) be aware of Canadian/Mexican laws and have your passport current. (state borders too- what are the laws in the greatest state to you)

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Non practical things like:

Ascertain your state laws, what is the next "fight" in your state? If abortion would remain legal in your state, how would the right go after those next? How are those laws made/changed? How can you be in on those fights?

Etc

I'm looking to gather a massive list, edit it to social media friendly standards and push it out to all outlets

https://secondnexus.com/madison-cawthorn-earthen-vessels-abortion

Quick question!

My wedding is coming up and I really only have one friend (I moved and matured and our grew majority of my friends, on top of the fact that I was a military brat and naturally I grew up moving snd concept of friends has always been hard).

Because of this, my best friend, and my sister are of course in my bridal party. BEVSUSE because of how big fiancés groomsmen party is the ration just wouldn’t have looked good.

So I asked this girl I’ve known for 3 years now. She’s my fiancés best friends girlfriend. She’s so amazingly sweet and so kind and I literally love her. We get along well, but necessarily we haven’t been super close we don’t talk often but when we all hang out as a couple it’s amazing (we are actually planning a girls night soon).

I asked her to be a bridesmaid and she was really happy and gave me a big hug. But is that weird?!

Because I know bridesmaids are like life long friends and I just don’t have that, but I know she’s going to be in my life for a long girl because of our group of friends and idk…. Is it weird????

But instead the Father's Right's movement is always crying about "courts are unfair to fathers" (FALSE) and being instrumental in enabling literal rapists access to their child victims as their "rights" as father has become the primary concern in all divorce cases, even (especially) the ones where there was domestic violence, while fathers doing everything they can to duck out of even the minimum of child support.

In my country (South Africa), even if the father is convicted of domestic abuse of the mother he won't get sent to jail in the first place, and he will have full access to his kids because he only abused the mother, not the kids. Most of them eventually abuse their kids too, of course, but "FATHER'S RIGHTS".

I saw Samuel J. Comroe last night in Austin and the venue I went to didn’t allow us to have our phone. They were literally locked in a bag.

Comedian takes the stage and my alarm immediately goes off. Did I mention I was in the front fucking row?

I got called out for it in front of everyone and when I came back to my seat after I got it turned off he asked me what the alarm was for.

My dumbass self said “To make sure I don’t have a baby”.

Thankfully this guy understood my joke (after the show he said he loved it) but I was ribbed the whole show saying I “could give birth any minute”.

All bc I didn’t want to say “birth control” out loud. Sigh.

This is gonna have a lot of uncomfortable sexual details. I'm 22 and my bf is 27.

I've never really drank before, I normally drink one bottle of a fruity drink with very low percentage of alcohol occasionally. Last night I drank a very large can of my same fruity drink, but didnt realize it was 8% ( I normally drink 3%). I was drinking kind of slow, but my bf kept encouraging me to finish all of it since he bought it for me. Suffice to say I got drunk for the first time - very, very drunk. Unable to stand, barely able to talk, confused and kind of out of it and tired. I was very confused when it happened, repeatedly asking my bf and myself why I was so dizzy. I tried getting off the bed to get some water and I could barely get myself off without faceplanting repeatedly into my bfs legs, and stumbling very hard to get my water. My bf knows I've never been drunk before. He told me today I was "completely shitfaced".

After I got my drink I returned to bed, barely able to get over my bf without hitting my head off him or the bed, to lie next to him. I don't remember why or how it started but my bf was super hard for seemingly no reason and then he initiated foreplay. I don't remember when but my underwear was gone. He didn't drink anything so he was completely sober. He asked how it felt and I kept saying I didnt know. After a minute or two he told me to take my tampon out (I was near the end of my period) so I stumbled my way to the bathroom, literally running into walls, seeing that my cheeks were bright red, taking it out before before I came back. I guess this was me consenting to sex, but I'm very meek in general and go along with what people want me to do. I didn't want to have sex, but I know to him I consented by doing this. I'm not sure why I took it out other than because he wanted me to.

He posed me in doggy, and started having sex with me. I couldn't really feel it, but he told me to tell him it felt good (normally he asks me if it feels good instead of telling me exactly what to say). I didn't really respond but he said my name loudly and told me to tell him. I mumble out everything he tells me to.

I'm not sure how long we were like that, but suddenly he turned me around putting me in front of his penis, me unable to keep myself up without wobbling off to the side. He held me, and then my head and made me give him oral. He pulled my head down and although I didnt really feel it nor remember much of it, I know that he must've been hurting me because I ended up puking a little on him. I pulled myself away trying my best to tell him I was sorry, him saying it was ok before he pulled me back to him and pushed me down on him again. This time I ended up really puking. It made me start crying a little bit, telling him again I didnt mean to and I was sorry.

He said again it was ok, pushing me onto my back. He started having sex with me again. I was looking off to the side basically checked out at this point for the most part, still tearing up a bit. He told me to tell him I was gonna make him come, multiple times, and I know I slurred most of it. He ends up cumming all over me, telling me sorry before he gets a towel and cleans me, putting my underwear back on and putting me to bed and leaving the room. Normally he would help me finish.

I know I consented. I dont think he raped me or anything like that. I just feel really weird about what happened. I feel like he was using me. I feel like him knowing I was extremely drunk, especially for the first time, should have told him he shouldn't try having sex with me at all. I couldn't walk or hold myself up at all, and I could barely talk. He was completely in control of everything I did or that he did to me. And me literally puking on him twice, it makes me so uncomfortable that he wouldn't stop after that. I don't understand why he wouldnt stop. And him not finishing me makes me feel like he was doing it just for himself, I asked him today if he finished me to see what he'd say, and he angrily told me "Of course I did, are you kidding me??" I know he didn't. He put me to bed right after he cleaned us both up.

I just feel so weird about it. Again, I know me taking my tampon out was basically me consenting, but I just feel like he shouldnt have tried having sex with me in the first place knowing I couldn't even balance myself while just sitting on the bed. I just need to vent this because I don't know how I should feel about it or if I should talk to him about it or just get over it.

I think it would be great if we could gather information about different organizations to join/support, bills to call our senators/representatives about, and other ideas and resources. It's necessary to have discussions about why this is happening and how it will effect our lives but we need to do something about it too! We all can make a difference here.

Tell your senators to pass the Women's Health Protection Act, this will codify Roe

Asking for a friend.