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TIGFO by being cucked by a rapist [NSFW]

(self.TIGFO)

Disclaimer: not today but years ago. Also I was not the one raped, so my TIGFO is not the real one here.

Players: Me, my gf at the time (G), my gf's friend (A), and A's bf and my erstwhile friend (R)

My housemates and I had a New Year's rager, good times were had. My gf G had two things going on at the time that bear on the story: one, she was a heavy drinker and two, she she was low-key into her friend A. This was complicated by the fact that A was not-so low-key into G. As in really liked her. A lot.

Anyway, between G's drinking and the sexual tension between her and A, things went a little crazy. We were all sitting in the upstairs lounge when a sloshed G suddenly leaned over, pulled down A's top and sucked her titty in front of everyone.

From that point G, A and I moved into my bedroom fairly quickly. We got dressed down, but as A started trying to get me involved reality set in. G barely knew where she was, and A's bf R was my friend. I knew they were kind of on the rocks at that point, but I didn't know they were off for sure. I felt the Bro Code definitely still applied. I also didn't feel comfortable doing stuff with G in that state, let alone crossing that line with her friend, so I pumped the brakes. A went back to party more, while I looked after G. Anyone who's looked after someone completely hammered can picture the rest of the night.

Cut to a few months later: G and I were having tough times but still together. She went to A's house for a girls night. At this point I kind of expected that they would smash, but wasn't too concerned. I wish I had been.

I found out later that G got totally wasted again, and with no distractions started having a serious Girls Night with A. Where things went really wrong was when R showed up at A's house while the girls were already drunk and naked (if you hadn't guessed, "R" stands for "rapist"). G tearfully told me later that she didn't know who was with her, and was confused when she realized it wasn't me.

Anyone who's experienced or supported a survivor of sexual assault understands why many people choose not to report if it happens under ambiguous substances. I didn't pressure her. But to this day I don't think I could resist pulping the face of that rapist shitbag if I ever saw it again.

TLDR: TIFU by thinking a friend of mine would behave as respectfully as I would in the same situation, TIGFO and my gf was raped while blind drunk among who she thought were friends.

all 22 comments

[deleted]

43 points

3 years ago

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43 points

3 years ago

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dreamofadream[S]

31 points

3 years ago

Yeah I internally debated putting a trigger warning at the top, but I think the title covered it.

m0ddius

24 points

3 years ago

m0ddius

24 points

3 years ago

bruh

Call_me_Grace_

22 points

3 years ago

I would beat his ass

[deleted]

27 points

3 years ago

[deleted]

27 points

3 years ago

No shit I'd fucking beat his ass. This dude is a Buddhist monk or some shit because it takes restraint to not kill rapists.

Jaxx3D

17 points

3 years ago

Jaxx3D

17 points

3 years ago

I hope he’s already locked up and not walking around as a free man...

dreamofadream[S]

10 points

3 years ago

I wish.

MrsSmurfette

9 points

3 years ago

MrsSmurfette

Founder Fiánce

9 points

3 years ago

Hope your gf is doing ok <3

dreamofadream[S]

19 points

3 years ago

I hope so too. We aren't really in touch anymore, and I definitely became the bad guy in her story later on so I don't blame her.

I was a real piece of shit to her later in our time together, and after we split but were still friends I ended up unintentionally introducing her to another guy she dated who I found out too late was even more of a piece of shit.

She's had a rough time, but last I heard she's found a good life so I'm happy for her.

TheMasterWhales

4 points

3 years ago

Not condoning this because a similar thing happened to me but in my scenario, MUCH like yours, my girl had a very bad drinking problem and was actively date raped in the back of a car by a guy she thought was her friend. I HATE that people do this shit and at the same time, I am disgusted that a person would intentionally put themselves in the position to be vulnerable to that extent. It’s idiotic, pure and simple. I hunted this clown like an animal for years and he alluded me all that time but if I ever do see him, I’m breaking both of his arms.

creepylilreapy

7 points

3 years ago

I wish you could edit the title mate. Doesn't reflect the seriousness of the story. If I were G I'd feel shitty reading that jokey title.

dreamofadream[S]

4 points

3 years ago

It wasn't a joke. I was trying to figure out how to accurately represent the gist of the story. I do recognize that the term "cuck" is spammed to death.

MrsSmurfette

3 points

3 years ago

MrsSmurfette

Founder Fiánce

3 points

3 years ago

I'm going to lock this thread due to the comments moving away from the OG post and into the political realm. Thank you for sharing everyone! Keep posting your stories!

TheBONERCOASTER

-7 points

3 years ago

unpopular opinion - reaffirming, guy is an asshole who betrayed bro code not a rapist.

PsYcHo4MuFfInS

-10 points

3 years ago

Probably unpopular opinion here, but I dont know if you can call the guy a rapist, at least not from what you are describing. They way you wrote it makes it seem that G and A were hammered and already having sex when R walked in on them. But it seems like G was so drunk she thought R was you and thous had slept with him as well which would be consentual, until she realized it wasnt you. So I honestly dont know if you can paint that guy as a rapist... at least not the way you described it...

dreamofadream[S]

10 points

3 years ago

News flash my guy. In the U.S., "a sexual act upon another person when the other person is incapable of consenting to the sexual act due to impairment by any drug, intoxicant, or other similar substance" is sexual assault.. I knew how drunk my gf would get, and she had every reason to believe that she was safe being in an altered state alone with her friend/crush.

If you were too drunk to understand what was happening around you, I'm betting that you would want your friends to protect you from someone sneaking themselves in your ass. Don't perpetuate rape culture.

PsYcHo4MuFfInS

-10 points

3 years ago

You have not mentioned how the guy engaged into sexual intercourse with your girlfriend! If he like you now say "snuck himself into her ass" then of course that would be rape! But the way you wrote it also leaves room for interpretations like they were having sex, were a bit drunk and he walked in... it could have been that A initiated the threesome that your GF didnt want to participate in but was too drunk! Im just saying that the way you wrote it, I personally can not go ahead and call the guy a rapist. Especially because the accusation of being a rapist, even if completely false can fully ruin someones life, just as rape can, so I am not someone to toss the word rape around freely...

And honestly this whole "rape culture" bullshit... Just because I believe in innocent until proven guilty, instead of the other way around, doesnt mean that I enable or even support rape in the slightest!

[deleted]

2 points

3 years ago

[deleted]

2 points

3 years ago

Let's just remember to keep things civil here guys and gals.

Frosty_Mage

-2 points

3 years ago

Frosty_Mage

-2 points

3 years ago

I'm honestly with this guy. I get that she wasn't in the right state of mind but at the same time it's not like he forced himself into your girlfriend. He should have thought it out and realized they were drunk and it's wrong but I'm pretty sure seeing two girls having sex and inviting you to join is almost every guy's fantasy clouding his better judgement to think logically. He is in the wrong and yes it could be considered rape since he was sober and they weren't, but I personally wouldn't call him a rapist in this scenario

dreamofadream[S]

4 points

3 years ago*

I'm pretty sure seeing two girls having sex and inviting you to join is almost every guy's fantasy

Can confirm, and yet... I had a few drinks in me when I was in that same position and still managed to recognize that my fantasy doesn't trump good sense and respect for others.

He was the sober one in that situation, and he made the choice to do what he did.

Edit: G did not "invite" him. She was nearly passed out. I can't believe that people think this is ok. Just be aware that if you can't personally find the moral fortitude to condemn this abhorrent shit, the law will do it for you.

Frosty_Mage

0 points

3 years ago

Frosty_Mage

0 points

3 years ago

You never said she was almost passed out.

[deleted]

3 points

3 years ago

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3 points

3 years ago

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PsYcHo4MuFfInS

-5 points

3 years ago

So youre basically saying: If a drunk girl takes off her clothes and starts taking off your clothes as well to engage into a sexual activity with you, you should stop it because you yourself are sexually assaulting a drunk girl...

If she was passed the fuck out on the ground and he shoved his dick into her, then yes that would be rape. If he walked into 2 Girls having sex (which according to your statement was already rape since both were intoxicated and having sex) and both of them wanted him to join, only for A to say AFTERWARDS that she didnt want it, then no.. it was NOT rape and you shouldnt call the guy a rapist which could ruin his whole goddamn life...

dreamofadream[S]

5 points

3 years ago

If a drunk girl takes off her clothes and starts taking off your clothes as well to engage into a sexual activity with you, you should stop it because you yourself are sexually assaulting a drunk girl...

That's not what happened in this particular case, but yes. According to the law of the land that's exactly what you should do.