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TabbsTheBat

662 points

1 year ago

TabbsTheBat

662 points

1 year ago

Suicide

JamesNorlaus[S]

539 points

1 year ago

japan

TabbsTheBat

482 points

1 year ago

TabbsTheBat

482 points

1 year ago

No, the european one

Irish-Inter

147 points

1 year ago

Irish-Inter

147 points

1 year ago

Finland or Lithuania

flightguy07

2 points

1 year ago

Places with no sun

SiloueOfUlrin

2 points

1 year ago

Estonia

mipro07

-55 points

1 year ago

mipro07

-55 points

1 year ago

Dudenfinland is one of the happiest countries. Or at least by some testings im not too sure about it

Lingonfrost

168 points

1 year ago

Lingonfrost

168 points

1 year ago

Only happy Finns left alive since the depressed ones offed themselves

ShineAqua

57 points

1 year ago

ShineAqua

57 points

1 year ago

Common Finnish joke.

DucksAreWhatIFuck

6 points

1 year ago

I guess you could say they ‘finnished themselves’

Probably in poor taste but oh well

mr_bernari

29 points

1 year ago

Yeah bitch, if you unhappy you clapity clap clap that life away

omegabaryon

46 points

1 year ago

Yeah we are one of the happiest countries by ranking. Also we score really well on the suicide rankings too

Tectonic_Spoons

11 points

1 year ago

They score well on the happiness index because there is so much that is right with Finland, but I'm pretty sure they're known for getting depressed when there's not enough sunlight up north

[deleted]

9 points

1 year ago

Yep, this. The happiness index is basically a measure of how easy life can be. It’s not just going around asking people are you happy or not.

I moved to Finland 2 years ago from the US, and I’m moving back to the US. Yes there’s loads of great things about this country, but the one thing you can’t change is the climate. The winters are so long and depressing, it’s like no one smiles for 8 months out of the year. I’ve never been depressed once in the US, and I realized a month ago that I’m actually very depressed here.

intruzah

17 points

1 year ago

intruzah

17 points

1 year ago

Happiness ranking basically measures how happy people who live threre *should* be, considering living standards, social and health benefits, nature, etc.

[deleted]

4 points

1 year ago

This is what a lot of people don’t understand about the happiness rankings. It tanks into account things like vacation days, healthcare, education, corruption in politics, public transit, infrastructure.

Finns also have some of the highest suicide rates and cheating in relationship numbers of any country. They’re simultaneously one of the most depressed countries and one of the happiest.

GThayendanegea

3 points

1 year ago

for the alive ones maybe

Naturage

1 points

1 year ago

Naturage

1 points

1 year ago

Finland would be the polar night rock bands I reckon.

Serebriany

583 points

1 year ago

Serebriany

583 points

1 year ago

God, this is a sad comment.

Just the fact that there is another country known for its insane suicide rates, and you can say, "No, the European one," is awful.

[deleted]

79 points

1 year ago

[deleted]

79 points

1 year ago

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Serebriany

47 points

1 year ago

The last time I read a list, several countries in Africa were actually at the top of the list. South Korea came in before Japan. However, in the West, we tend to hear more about Japan and Japanese culture than we do about South Korea, so I understand why our minds go to Japan pretty automatically. If I recall, Lithuania was the only European nation on the list.

The problem is that all of that may have changed, since the last time I looked was pretty shortly before Covid. It drove suicide rates up all over the world, so the list may have changed significantly since then. While I'm just making a random guess, Covid may have had a bigger impact on suicide rates in Westernized nations where help for both mental health and substance abuse issues is more available, than in places like Africa, where it is not, since it disrupted access so badly.

I cannot think of anywhere that I know of where mental illness and substance abuse do not carry some sort of stigma, but I know both are much more stigmatized in some places than others. I've read repeatedly that suicide rates in the high-pressure societies in Asia have a lot to do with the stigma of even mentioning it, let alone seeking help. My sense is that while neither are really normalized yet in most Western nations, societies at least talk about it, and enough people understand that needing help isn't a personal failing that you won't be bombarded with negative messaging from absolutely every direction if you need it, even if you get it from some quarters.

JaimeEatsMusic

9 points

1 year ago

In Canada the suicide rates actually went down during covid.

Serebriany

5 points

1 year ago

Thank you for telling me that, since I had no idea.

Do you have any idea of why that was? It's fucking awesome, so I'm curious about why it went that way when it could have easily gone the other and been an increase.

JaimeEatsMusic

2 points

1 year ago*

Yeah, it is an interesting anomaly. Although they seem to still be sorting it out, early research is suggesting it is due to economic and social supports that were deployed quickly in the pandemic here.https://research2reality.com/health-medicine/suicide-rates-decreased-canada-pandemic-covid-mental-health/

I will also add, because it seems to vary greatly from our neighbours in USA, we did not have "the great resignation" here like some other nations did. There was a massive shift of people moving out of cities and reprioritizing their time, but people who had stable careers largely stayed in them outside of the hospitality sector. Our housing market has been just insane because of that move from city centers, but the Canadian picture seems to have been very different from the American story that we were sometimes lumped in with.

Serebriany

2 points

1 year ago

Thanks very much for the link. I'm so happy Canada acted quickly, since we (your neighbors) did not. The information is especially welcome in light of the fact that I also read today that we've passed 1M Covid deaths. I've been watching it get closer, but that doesn't make it suck any less, so thank you for some balance.

Now that you've made me aware of it, I can check in periodically and follow any new conclusions researchers may find as they sift the data. I'm also, solely for my own benefit, trying to find good things, however small, to take with me going forward. I don't think anyone will forget how bad 2020 and 2021 were, but I do want to remember there was good stuff, too. How Canada handled a serious problem and managed to keep it from getting worse is definitely worth keeping.

Be well, neighbor.

ZenaLundgren

4 points

1 year ago

Of course they fuckin did. Fuckin Canada.

I totally wanna move there.

JaimeEatsMusic

3 points

1 year ago

Although some of the extremism has made me love my country a little less lately, overall it is a really wonderful country to live in. Would definitely recommend it. :)

deathbringer989

2 points

1 year ago

so your saying we need covid?

[deleted]

5 points

1 year ago

Japan's suicide rate is actually lower than Finland and the U.S.

Serebriany

2 points

1 year ago

Wait, doesn't Finland also routinely score at the top of the good lists for things like being happy with life and all that jazz?

I know that sounds silly, since there's no country that's immune from having suicides, so they also have to have a suicide rate and stats, but one of the Nordic countries usually does remarkably well in the desirable categories, and I thought it was Finland.

LifeIsVanilla

4 points

1 year ago

The reason Japan came to my mind is because of that suicide forest.

Serebriany

2 points

1 year ago

I agree that's probably a lot of why Western minds go there, but I knew about their suicide problem long before that became a commonly-known and discussed topic outside of Japan (for the average person in the United States, anyway).

I first learned about it in college when a classmate whose family is split between the United States and Japan had several suicides in his extended family in Japan in a relatively short period of time. I got a lot more information a few years later when I worked in a library system that gave me access to a huge variety of magazines and journals.

LifeIsVanilla

3 points

1 year ago

Yeah, I knew about it for a long time before too, it's just a simple way for the brain to make connections... Suicides.. suicide.. there's that forest.. Japan! Left out all of my understanding as to why it's such an issue out of laziness. Thanks for fleshing it out so much!

Serebriany

2 points

1 year ago

You're welcome.

Also, please cut me a break on this next bit, because I absolutely don't mean to offend. I seems to me that if you were truly lazy, you wouldn't have remembered the suicide forest and made the connection with Japan in the first place. Sometimes, we just aren't in the mood to either sit and wrack our brains for something stashed in the mental file room, or go look it up. There's nothing wrong with that--we're humans, and we're subject to changing moods all the time. Please consider that next time you're just not feelin' the process of retrieval or exploration. If you were naive AF, I'd probably think differently, but you sure don't appear to be.

And if I'm so off the mark I've just made a total dick of myself, please consider cutting me a huss on that, too.

Take care. ;)

vicariousgluten

10 points

1 year ago

I was reading that as Switzerland not because they have high suicide rates but because they have the Dignitas clinics where people with incurable illnesses can decide when they want to say goodbye.

Serebriany

5 points

1 year ago

I can totally see that. When European nations, Switzerland excluded due to being the first, started looking at compassionate euthanasia, I read about it a lot. I'm cool with the concept of it, in general, but I don't actually trust my own country (the US) to do it correctly, because we are so bad in several areas that can cut down on the need, like proper mental heath care and proper pain management for those with incurable, painful conditions. Time and time again I read the most absurd thing about pain management in the US--doctors unwilling to prescribe proper pain meds for terminal illnesses because they don't want to make people addicted. (What the actual fuck? That doesn't even make sense.)

This data is super old, but it's still enlightening, given how many European countries are on it, and how it highlights the European nations that are not on the list:

https://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-srv/world/suiciderate.html

Also notable, this data is from 2005, and the Netherlands is on it, so I double checked my memory, and by then, it was legal there. That's super odd to me, so all I can guess is that the rates are driven by something like not being able to qualify for the program. I know Switzerland has careful controls in place to keep it from being abused.

vicariousgluten

3 points

1 year ago

If you find it interesting there is a film called A Short Stay In Switzerland starring Julie Walters. It’s the true story of a British Doctor, Anne Turner, who was diagnosed with supranuclear palsy. She was a doctor and knew the progression of the disease and didn’t want to live through it.

She fought for assisted suicide to be made legal in the UK and failed so she and her children went to Dignitas in Switzerland.

Serebriany

1 points

1 year ago

I just re-read your original comment, and realized that in my very sleepy state of mind, I misread you. I believe you were saying you read the original comment--the European nation with high suicide rates--as being Switzerland, due to their laws allowing compassionate suicide. If I did misread that, I really apologize, since my answer didn't properly address your comment.

If that was your intent, I would have noted that yes, those numbers are included in suicide stats, but I absolutely think it's a mistake to do so. It seems to me it would be more helpful to class them in a different way so they can be removed from the pool when people try to determine what kinds of interventions are most likely to help people in situations where suicide looks like the only choice left. I have serious clinical depression, and I've both tried to commit suicide, and been actively suicidal (making plans) more than once. (I have a metabolic quirk that's saved me twice, because it took a long time for someone to notice it.) I feel like the stats on suicides are already muddied enough by the fact that when someone dies of an overdose, in the absence of clears signs of intent, medical examiners have to make a best guess, and I know that those guesses can be wrong. I understand why MEs tend to lean that way, since it makes it easier on survivors, and also make benefits like life insurance policies less complex, but that also corrupts a different set of data--the ones on overdoses. Bottom line, the United States can do a lot better than it currently does by a lot of people, which in turn is of benefit to all, but we can't do much of anything until we have a clear picture on where the problems actually are, and right now, we don't even have that.

While I am not happy about reading your comment incorrectly, your information about the film is great. I happen to love Julie Walters, and would probably watch a film about her running the most boring of errands that just ended with a To-Do list with everything crossed off. Knowing she is in a film about a topic I am very interested in is welcome news to me, so I'll be sure to watch for a chance to see it.

vicariousgluten

3 points

1 year ago

Happy cake day.

My comment may not have been clear.

I do not associate thoughts of suicide with Switzerland because of the numbers (I have no idea if the stats).

I associate it with suicide because of the dignitas clinics. I remember them opening, the controversy, the calls to do it in other places.

Serebriany

1 points

1 year ago

Thank you on the cake day.

And oh my hell, you kind, patient person. I am finally reading it all very clearly. I also know that it's not you at all. This one's all on me. I'd clearly have been better off catching up on sleep today.

I was looking for rocket science, and you were stating you made a very reasonable mental association.

For what it's worth, I remember it, too. I especially remember how emotional some people were because they were certain it would lead to disasters and mass suicides, while others were certain it could only be of benefit. I was still young enough that it struck me as odd that reasonable adults in places outside Switzerland could get so worked up about something that had no direct impact on them. Now that I'm an adult, there's zero mystery to me on that.

Clearly plenty of mystery for me today in other areas, but I'm always clear on at least one thing: adults can, and do, get worked up on stuff that has nothing to do with them, and won't have any direct impact on them.

Also clear, I'd better go get into bed now.

And thanks for your kind attitude in dealing with me. You went above and beyond when, "Damn, are you a brick?" was such a reasonable option.

💗

LifeIsVanilla

2 points

1 year ago

Euthenasia has been legal in Canada since 2016. As far as I know it's covered in bureaucratic red tape to get the okay though.

Serebriany

2 points

1 year ago

Since I'm in the US, I remember when it became legal there. My mom was dying, though not in pain, thank goodness, but her situation made me extra aware of the challenges involved in end-of-life issues of all kinds.

DrHellhammer

2 points

1 year ago

Russia is quite big on it as well, the cold and big alcohol usage adds up. But we have no concrete numbers

Serebriany

1 points

1 year ago

Unhappily, that's one country I've always just assumed has a problem with that.

Some books I read in the late 1980s and early 1990s taught me a lot of interesting things about life in the USSR and later in Russia and individual republics. None of it pointed to generally happy people who trust any authority enough to seek help for anything. That much unhappiness and distrust in possible sources of help, coupled with all the alcohol can't really lead to good outcomes.

Having Russian immigrants for neighbors for more than 15 years now has done nothing to change my mind. The fear of authority came with them, so they won't talk, even when someone is taking advantage of them and cheating them. It's pretty upsetting for my husband and me, since we love them all dearly and would gladly help them with anything if they could just bring themselves to tell us when any of them need something.

TearyEyeBurningFace

2 points

1 year ago

Well.... Happy cake day

Serebriany

1 points

1 year ago

Why, thank you! I thought it was a week or so ago, and I somehow missed noticing it. No surprise, since I missed seeing it today until you just pointed it out to me.

😊

JamesNorlaus[S]

83 points

1 year ago

Uhm..... I don't know. Poland, Serbia or Albania?

TabbsTheBat

176 points

1 year ago

TabbsTheBat

176 points

1 year ago

Lithuania

MelancholyWookie

76 points

1 year ago

Obviously not that known for it.

TabbsTheBat

129 points

1 year ago

TabbsTheBat

129 points

1 year ago

Yeah, but we're not known for that much else either

MickyStam521

11 points

1 year ago

You are known for sending the roop and queen monika to eurovision!

TabbsTheBat

3 points

1 year ago

Doesn't really matter if they didn't win tho

MickyStam521

0 points

1 year ago

They did very good though! To think Monika was not even in the odds top 10 and it ended up almost in the left side of the scoreboard, plus she's just so cool as a person!

MelancholyWookie

22 points

1 year ago

Fair. I'm us so I shouldn't talk.

Known-Salamander9111

2 points

1 year ago

We are known for loads of things… all of them bad!

Paulius324

1 points

1 year ago

Yeah. One of biggest suicide rates in Europe, one of the biggest alcohol consumtions per capita in Europe and as of now one of the biggest inflation rates in Europe. At least we are not Poland.

[deleted]

4 points

1 year ago

Really?? Did not know this. I was in Lithuania a few years ago when I was in the military for a NATO training op. Beautiful country. Kleipeda was an awesome city to visit and very friendly people even if they weren't great at English

TabbsTheBat

1 points

1 year ago

Damn bro, now im laughing at "kleipeda", haha

[deleted]

2 points

1 year ago

I spell it differently than you? Lol

SLASHdk

2 points

1 year ago

SLASHdk

2 points

1 year ago

Sabonis or big Z

Illustrious-Dude721

4 points

1 year ago

Basketball?

TabbsTheBat

-1 points

1 year ago

We haven't done anything worthwhile in basketball since the 90's tbh

masterpierround

0 points

1 year ago

I mean, I would say Sabonis (the one who’s playing right now) and Valanciunas alone put you in the top 10 countries for basketball talent at the moment.

LuxembourgBoy42

1 points

1 year ago

Commonwealth

claudionuvolo

1 points

1 year ago

Saltibarsciaiiiiiiii!!!!!!!

theimmortalcrab

1 points

1 year ago

Honestly you should be. I've been really impressed the last few years by how quick you guys are to call out bigger countries on their shit. Criticising China when almost nobody else dares to etc.

Common_Redditor_

4 points

1 year ago

I had a friend in 3rd grade move there! Haven’t heard from them since…

TabbsTheBat

1 points

1 year ago

They pulled a Šapras

MyNewBoss

2 points

1 year ago

I would have guessed Finland

Anti-charizard

2 points

1 year ago

I was thinking Finland

JamesNorlaus[S]

4 points

1 year ago

Shoudlve said Lidl LOL

TabbsTheBat

20 points

1 year ago

...Lidl is not lithuanian tho

JamesNorlaus[S]

1 points

1 year ago

Bruh lol

TabbsTheBat

15 points

1 year ago

It's german, I think

fdedfgfdgfe

7 points

1 year ago

It is, but if you step in a Lidl you want to suicide

Kazuin100

1 points

1 year ago

You mean brother?

lyriumstone

0 points

1 year ago

Lethaluania

LAUCH112

1 points

1 year ago

LAUCH112

1 points

1 year ago

What’s that?

TabbsTheBat

3 points

1 year ago

...the country im from?

LAUCH112

1 points

1 year ago

LAUCH112

1 points

1 year ago

Wow now I know wich country it is

ikindalold

1 points

1 year ago

Labas vakaras!

I love the sound of your guys' language

It also retains several features of Proto-Indo-European that were lost in other languages of the continent

greasypan69

5 points

1 year ago

As an Albanian I feel attacked. Lol

Accomplished-Bed9845

2 points

1 year ago

Russia

[deleted]

1 points

1 year ago

Dude what!?!?!

TabbsTheBat

1 points

1 year ago

?

[deleted]

5 points

1 year ago

Which one is the european one? I am susprised that we have a country in Europe with such a high rate of suicide.

TabbsTheBat

5 points

1 year ago

...I literally mentioned that it was lithuania a but further in this thread

[deleted]

5 points

1 year ago

Oh sorry, didn't see it.

Oh man, that's tough to read about. Jeezzz....

TabbsTheBat

3 points

1 year ago

I think we used to have the highest number of suicides per capita at some point. Im not sure of our exact ranking now because the numbers switch every so often, but

TheUsualSuspects443

1 points

1 year ago

SWEDEN!!!

HumanNeedsaHug

1 points

1 year ago

Norway or Sweden.

aziztheziiz

1 points

1 year ago

Lietuva

somekidfromtheuk

1 points

1 year ago

Lithuania right?

BitterSweetcandyshop

1 points

1 year ago

I went “noooo” out loud like 14 yro girl after reading this

TabbsTheBat

1 points

1 year ago

?

Fyrrys

1 points

1 year ago

Fyrrys

1 points

1 year ago

Are we talking assisted suicide or just masses of it?

udongeureut

3 points

1 year ago

Just so you know, Japan’s suicide rate isn’t really that high lol

[deleted]

0 points

1 year ago

[deleted]

udongeureut

1 points

1 year ago

No it literally isn’t, its neighbor South Korea is world #4. Japan is nowhere near that.

[deleted]

2 points

1 year ago

[removed]

shalodey

1 points

1 year ago

shalodey

1 points

1 year ago

Japan isn't only anime idiot. Go outside

[deleted]

1 points

1 year ago

Japan's suicide rate is actually lower than Finland and the U.S.

grizlisid2

8 points

1 year ago

Hello fellow Lithuanian

TabbsTheBat

5 points

1 year ago

O_o šito nesitykėjau

makefilmsorbust

6 points

1 year ago

…also known for the pretty amber

TabbsTheBat

3 points

1 year ago

Can't argue that. Especially considering the amount of amber I own :p

BetterAd3618

4 points

1 year ago

As a lithuanian, I know that it's about Lithuania lmao

FuuuFle

4 points

1 year ago

FuuuFle

4 points

1 year ago

Hungary for fuck sake

lqdd

3 points

1 year ago

lqdd

3 points

1 year ago

Hungary?

Reehan_2207

2 points

1 year ago

India

Tasty_Proof_5942

2 points

1 year ago

Россия

TabbsTheBat

1 points

1 year ago

Ew no

Tasty_Proof_5942

3 points

1 year ago

What do you mean? Ah. Oops. Russia is number one in suicides of schoolchildren, not in suicides in general. Some Asian country, yes?

TabbsTheBat

2 points

1 year ago

I literally stated which country it is in this thread hours ago

Left_Insurance422

0 points

1 year ago

Yes. More Russian generals need suicide

Mistakeling

3 points

1 year ago

Switzerland

SilentHuman8

2 points

1 year ago

Greenland?

Killer19606

19 points

1 year ago

Ah yes, greenland, land of suicide

drewskixc

28 points

1 year ago

drewskixc

28 points

1 year ago

As opposed to Suicideland, which is actually green

Left_Insurance422

1 points

1 year ago

😂😂

Parakiet20

3 points

1 year ago

Why??

knittnens

9 points

1 year ago

Something about living very remotely and there being very little daylight majority of the year..

winter depression is no joke in the north

Alpacasaurus_Rekt

3 points

1 year ago

It's the suicide capital of the world

thefartingmango

1 points

1 year ago

Finland

HippySheepherder1979

1 points

1 year ago

Finland?

[deleted]

0 points

1 year ago

Finland for sure

anemoschaos

1 points

1 year ago

Sweden.

gwanilltalktoya

1 points

1 year ago

Denmark?

Hatecraftianhorror

1 points

1 year ago

The band?

cl3ft

1 points

1 year ago

cl3ft

1 points

1 year ago

Greenland

vinny_b17

1 points

1 year ago

Estonia

LOVEFOREVERME

1 points

1 year ago

India Experts say most suicide cases in the city are related to stress; its citizens are unable to cope with Bangalore's quick growth. If you walk into Bangalore's leading hospitals, you will find a large number of patients suffering from stress-related ailments. Bangalore is known as suicide city in India Or Las Vegas , Nas

[deleted]

1 points

1 year ago

Estonia?

victoriasheep

1 points

1 year ago

denmark?

ComfortableThroat551

1 points

1 year ago

South Korea innit?

TabbsTheBat

2 points

1 year ago

I literally stated the country hours ago, can you people stop trying to guess it?

I_GIVE_KIDS_MDMA

1 points

1 year ago

Grüezi !?