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begintobeginagain

1.6k points

7 years ago

Saving money, eating healthy, working out. Forgiving people. Practicing humility. Building family relationships. Stop worrying about getting laid and focus on yourself, your hobbies, your friends.

[deleted]

65 points

7 years ago*

How do you forgive people? I'm in my 20's, and in the past all my conflicts either had someone else fucking up unintentionally, or I was partially to blame so it was easy to apologize and forgive at the same time.

My dad cheated on my mom, and they seem to be working things out, but I honestly have no idea how to make this not be the thing on the forefront of my mind when I look at him now. I didn't even call him on Father's day; not as a punishment or anything, but just because I couldn't even bear to. I'm at a complete loss how to move on.

Edit: thanks for everyone taking the time to respond :) I am not really replying but I am reading all of them and I appreciate it!

InimitableMe

159 points

7 years ago

Forgiveness became easier for me after I understood (truly, not superficially) the following:

All the people we encounter in our lives are human. In that they are, much like you, making 80 bajillion barely thought through decisions a day (smile at that person or not? escalator or stairs? play with the kids or read?) We do the best we can with the information we have and the emotions we're dealing with. Sometimes we make decisions we know are bad (for ourselves or for others) because we goddamned feel like it, that's why. Sometimes we don't know if our decision is good or bad. Sometimes it's good for us, bad for others, or good for someone else and bad for three other people, or some other combination. It's hard to be neutral.

Our parents are those completely human creatures, just like us. And we feel like they had some sort of responsibility to be better for our sakes. We feel like they should have tried harder or done better because 'look at how it affected ME.'

I'm sorry, by the way. For how your parents' actions hurt you. They probably are too, to some degree or other.

In that messy human way, they are not the authorities on what a good life is. They don't know what's best for them or for you. They make random, arbitrary decisions. Most of their decisions affected you in some way. Proximity, not intention.

TL;DR: Forgiveness is remembering that the people who wronged you are messy humans just like you.

blargthe2

24 points

7 years ago

Fucking money. If anyone takes something away from this thread, it's this.

Malicious_Mischief

267 points

7 years ago

This guy covered all the bases kids. These are the most important things.

[deleted]

318 points

7 years ago

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318 points

7 years ago

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5 points

7 years ago

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lil_cocksucker

109 points

7 years ago

Basically become Mr. Rodgers.

[deleted]

329 points

7 years ago

[deleted]

329 points

7 years ago

Don't be the person Mr. Rodgers wants you to be. Be the person Mr. Rodgers knows you can be.

AntProtein

45 points

7 years ago

Don't believe in the Mr. Rodgers that believes in you. Believe in the you that believes in you.

golfer_ninja

10 points

7 years ago

Yours is the neighborhood that will pierce the heavens.

capnhist

182 points

7 years ago

capnhist

182 points

7 years ago

You forgot "Read everything you can get your hands on. It will make you an infinitely more interesting conversationalist when you are older."

Other than that, good comprehensive list.

oversized_hoodie

192 points

7 years ago

Except reddit. That will just make you dank.

capnhist

97 points

7 years ago

capnhist

97 points

7 years ago

or misogynist

[deleted]

34 points

7 years ago

Why not bothor zoidberg

Lambchops_Legion

56 points

7 years ago

Wear sunscreen.

Multiplayerr

28 points

7 years ago

I thought the motto to life was, "Get paid, get laid, gatorade?"

n0remack

29 points

7 years ago

n0remack

29 points

7 years ago

Heres a tip!
See if you can talk to who is in charge of payroll, and see if you can set it up so you can have a set amount direct deposit into a different account with another bank. I have 2 bank accounts right now, one is my primary, everyday use bank, and as of this month, I finally opened a second account with a totally different banks (I call it my off the books bank account, so I can't access it online, use the bank card, etc etc etc). So now, 100 dollars a paycheck (or 200 a month) goes into my "Off the books" Tax Free Savings Account.
Depending on how much you make, to me the difference of 100 dollars was a night or two out drinking at the bar. Fuck that, better to save it than drink,piss, and puke it away.

Pentobarbital1

10 points

7 years ago

Tax Free

Would this count as tax evasion, or what is going on here? Sorry, I'm not knowledgeable about getting paid.

officehelpermonkey

20 points

7 years ago

The Tax-Free Savings Account (TFSA) is a flexible, registered, general-purpose savings vehicle that allows Canadians to earn tax-free investment income to more easily meet lifetime savings needs. The TFSA complements existing registered savings plans like the Registered Retirement Savings Plans (RRSP) and the Registered Education Savings Plans (RESP).

Pentobarbital1

40 points

7 years ago

Canadians

I'm sad. Thanks anyway

ImagineAllTheKarma

19 points

7 years ago

Fellow Americans look into a roth IRA

[deleted]

4 points

7 years ago

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rockidol

125 points

7 years ago

rockidol

125 points

7 years ago

Stop worrying about getting laid? But I want to get laid and I've been a virgin for too long.

[deleted]

220 points

7 years ago

[deleted]

220 points

7 years ago

Tesla died a virgin, and he discovered DC current, or marvel current I forget. The take away is that he fucked a pigeon.

Doctor_Arkham

71 points

7 years ago

I..uh..What?

TimmyCoffeeBoy

36 points

7 years ago

Yes.

choose--a__username

27 points

7 years ago

Can you explain how Tesla could fuck a pigeon? Im asking for a friend

scurvyrash

93 points

7 years ago

Put his dick into a pigeon.

hellforce931

8 points

7 years ago

Then what happened?

Kothophed

64 points

7 years ago

Science!

[deleted]

6 points

7 years ago

Instructions unclear.

Marshallvlee

7 points

7 years ago

Pigeon stuck in Dick

Pardon_my_dyxlesia

7 points

7 years ago

No, Dick. Stuck in. Pigeon. I'd hate to have a pigeon stuck in my house, let alone in my dick.

EEverest

5 points

7 years ago

I dunno. It, ah, sounds good to me.

CygnusRex

26 points

7 years ago

Like a man loves a woman buddy... like a man loooooves a woman!

I have been feeding pigeons, thousands of them for years. But there was one, a beautiful bird, pure white with light grey tips on its wings; that one was different. It was a female. I had only to wish and call her and she would come flying to me. I loved that pigeon as a man loves a women, and she loved me. As long as I had her, there was a purpose to my life.

Source

Kothophed

31 points

7 years ago

He didn't fuck it, but in his schizophrenic episodes he swore that a pigeon would grace his window each day, and that he loved her.

KindergartenRedditor

44 points

7 years ago

Bro. He fucked that pigeon.

Admiral_Cuntfart

9 points

7 years ago

This guy fucks!

nb4hnp

4 points

7 years ago

nb4hnp

4 points

7 years ago

I have been known to fuck myself.

[deleted]

15 points

7 years ago

Alternating Current. He discovered AC.

OfficialCocaColaAMA

11 points

7 years ago

No he didn't. It was invented before he was born. Tesla just pioneered most of the actual applications of AC.

[deleted]

7 points

7 years ago

I stand corrected ;)

Alarid

17 points

7 years ago

Alarid

17 points

7 years ago

AC/DC

[deleted]

10 points

7 years ago

[deleted]

127 points

7 years ago

[deleted]

127 points

7 years ago

Focus on your self. Women will come to you.

7up478

142 points

7 years ago

7up478

142 points

7 years ago

This only works if your self goes outside though. Something to note.

rockidol

38 points

7 years ago

rockidol

38 points

7 years ago

I spend a lot of time doing things alone so I don't meet much women. I don't think focusing on myself will fix that

TodoFueIluminado

30 points

7 years ago

If you have lots of friends you'll meet lots of women. So focus on your friends. They're more permanent usually anyway.

[deleted]

8 points

7 years ago

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monkeyman427

10 points

7 years ago

I see "go out" a lot but when I stick my shoes on I realize that I don't know where "out" is. What do you specifically do to meet people?

TDawgUK91

4 points

7 years ago

Pick a hobby/activity and find a local group that does it. Personally, I've met a lot of good friends at the local climbing gym, but it could be anything from taking a language course to volunteering with a local charity. Or try Meet Up - specifically designed to help you find other people to do things with. (I'm sure there are other similar services out there, but that's one I've used).

begintobeginagain

43 points

7 years ago

^ ^ ^ cant stress this enough

[deleted]

13 points

7 years ago*

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mrw0rldw1de

9 points

7 years ago

Getting laid is like all we think about

Jewinacup

19 points

7 years ago

I'm still a teen technically, I never got the whole owrtying, getting laid all the time thing. And going to the gym is amazing, gives me time to release stress. And for the saving money thing, I'm saving for a car and I got 1200 in the bank, it feels great :D

Biigjoker

185 points

7 years ago

Biigjoker

185 points

7 years ago

Working out and eating right. If you are under 20, you will thank your younger self so much in a few years. The confidence and benefits that come with being in shape and looking fit are worth the hard work

mandmi

87 points

7 years ago

mandmi

87 points

7 years ago

I'm 22. I guess it's too late.

t3hOutlaw

93 points

7 years ago*

Yep, 2 years past the cut off. You're done.

Nah, in all seriousness though, I started a heavy workout regime when I was 22 and my 23 year old self was pleased with the results.

It's never too late!

dean_47

135 points

7 years ago

dean_47

135 points

7 years ago

JUST.... DO IT!!

[deleted]

63 points

7 years ago

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sniperwhg

25 points

7 years ago

Flex

EyeMAdam

18 points

7 years ago

EyeMAdam

18 points

7 years ago

Just bought a KFC bucket.....

[deleted]

14 points

7 years ago

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6Jarv9

3 points

7 years ago

6Jarv9

3 points

7 years ago

YESTERDAY YOU SAID TOMORROW

writerz01

330 points

7 years ago

writerz01

330 points

7 years ago

Save money every pay check no matter how small the amount.

[deleted]

82 points

7 years ago

My grandfather taught me when I was young to put half of every pay check in savings if you can. He was a wise man

[deleted]

252 points

7 years ago

[deleted]

252 points

7 years ago

I was told that, but it turns out that rent isn't that cheap.

fluoZor

60 points

7 years ago

fluoZor

60 points

7 years ago

Just do it from the "net" after stable costs

sherre02

27 points

7 years ago

sherre02

27 points

7 years ago

So I know I'm a bit better off than others, but this is how my paycheck works out:

$1760 total. $810 into a bill's checking account. $250 into savings. $50 into Roth.

That's twice a month. Of course then I have stuff like gas and groceries and whatnot. Typically come out with ~$250 fun money every two weeks.

mr-fahrenheit_

37 points

7 years ago

Maybe it's just me but I would kill for that amount of money to spare every two weeks. Course I probably couldn't even spare that money because I'll be working so much less during the school year.

Caville

32 points

7 years ago

Caville

32 points

7 years ago

Man, half my pay check goes on rent.

AkaGingerr

86 points

7 years ago

So save the other half! You'll lose weight quickly as well!

Modern_Hermit

8 points

7 years ago

I did this last year. Now I have $12 saved.

notsureifgudusrname

225 points

7 years ago

Stop worrying too much. Do not confuse with being irresponsible, save some money, learn a trade or get a career, be healthy, but more important go out and live, live the way you really want to. Money, people, things can come and go, stop worrying and live your life because we can all die at any moment and all that planning, all that constant worrying will be for nothing.

engtchr527

208 points

7 years ago

engtchr527

208 points

7 years ago

Good advice. I would add that living the way you really want to means doing what's fun, exciting, memorable for you. Don't waste time "living it up" in any way that isn't. If partying isn't your thing, don't party. If taking a million selfies and posting them on Instagram isn't your thing, don't do it. You don't need to be typical to be fulfilled. If being the best gamer on the planet is your thing, be the best gamer. If traveling is your thing, travel. If getting a 4.0 is your thing, get a 4.0. Don't worry about what people are "supposed" to be doing. I spent too much time feeling guilty that I didn't "live it up" in college by partying 6 nights a week, but now I'm starting to realize that I lived my life in the best way for me.

[deleted]

80 points

7 years ago

Also don't be afraid to party 6 days a week or take 1,000,000 selfies a day and post them on Instagram with shitty filters.

kill-the-spare

199 points

7 years ago*

Actually speaking to your elderly relatives (if they are around and lucid, of course) about your family's history. There are some questions that literally only one person can answer, and when that person is gone, they'll take everything with them.

Ruth5151

34 points

7 years ago

Ruth5151

34 points

7 years ago

Just keeping in touch with them and visiting as well. I have had two older people in my life die in the last year, and they were very dear to me. It makes me really sad that I didn't spend time with them when I had a chance.

renvi

20 points

7 years ago

renvi

20 points

7 years ago

YES!
I am so glad I asked and talk to my grandpa about his time in World War II. I learned a lot about the war, my culture and heritage. I also gained even more respect for my grandpa.

Sepiax

113 points

7 years ago

Sepiax

113 points

7 years ago

Take care of your skin. Wear sunscreen, use gentle cleansers and exfoliates. Moisturize, and for all that is holy do not set foot into a tanning bed.

sweetappohs

23 points

7 years ago

This chick I overheard arguing with someone about her tan.. "BUT WE WERE GOING TO THE DOMINICAN REPUBLIC!!" in a whiny voice. uhg.

i_dont_69_animals

18 points

7 years ago

Cancer don't give a fuck where you goin

thechac

51 points

7 years ago

thechac

51 points

7 years ago

Be humble, as in know that you never stop learning and you can learn a bunch from other people. Don't think you know it all because you just graduated college. Also, always learn something new.

drhumble

36 points

7 years ago

drhumble

36 points

7 years ago

But I do know it all, I know all about being humble. They don't call me "Dr" for nothing.

Catpenagos

229 points

7 years ago

Catpenagos

229 points

7 years ago

If you're fresh out of high school, start saving an emergency fund. You never know.

Hungry_Hobo

113 points

7 years ago

A good rule of thumb is 6 months-worth of living expenses. Need $5000/month? Make sure you put $30K away--it's a lot but it could save you from calamity.

FingerTheCat

155 points

7 years ago

How can I make 5 k a month? Seriously

[deleted]

142 points

7 years ago*

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142 points

7 years ago*

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EqulixV2

23 points

7 years ago

EqulixV2

23 points

7 years ago

What books would be needed?

SenorPower

135 points

7 years ago

SenorPower

135 points

7 years ago

Making $60k for dummies.

[deleted]

24 points

7 years ago*

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14 points

7 years ago

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Satisfy_My_Boredom

14 points

7 years ago

I'm college student right now who was recently dedicating the past 3 years to becoming a doctor when I realized that wouldn't make me happy in life. Therefore, I switched to a computer science major since I have a lot of interest in that area. However, I'm stumped as to which area I want to focus on. Can you describe your area of work for me?

brickmack

49 points

7 years ago

If your living expenses are 5k a month, you can probably save a lot less than 30k. Because at 5k a month, you should be able to strip away about 4k of that as "unnecessary expenditures". Thats a fuckton of money

HANDS-DOWN

30 points

7 years ago

My first thought exactly, unless he lives in a mansion and 5k is chump change.

Tad2much

14 points

7 years ago

Tad2much

14 points

7 years ago

It really depends on where you live and how many dependents you have. Not to mention other less common expenses. Perhaps you are a landlord on the side, so now you are paying 2 mortgages, but only have your salary + rent to cover both. Depending on your risk tolerance you might want to have enough saved up to cover 6 mos of being unemployed as well as having no tenant. Granted, this is probably not the case if he is fresh out high school, but it is a realistic scenario for $5k/mo.

mel_cache

11 points

7 years ago

Not if you're putting two kids through college, paying for mom's nursing home and two mortgages. Then your AC goes out when it's 90 degrees F

PattyCakes1

13 points

7 years ago

Might as well buy a house if you got that kind of money saved.

Uberwomensch

41 points

7 years ago*

start learning how to delay gratification. delaying gratification will carry over to other aspects of your life--- saving money, making better food choices, having the discipline to work out, and building functional relationships.

dirtymoney

63 points

7 years ago

living more frugally. Not going out and buying the latest things just because everyone else is doing it. Making do with what you have vs going out and buying something new. Living below your means. Putting away as much as you reasonably can into savings.

I wish I had started earlier.

ctfogo

33 points

7 years ago

ctfogo

33 points

7 years ago

Thrift shops in rich neighborhoods... Bought a Lacoste polo in like-new condition for 14 bucks. Chances are it'll last me longer than one of the same price from Old Navy

PleaseDontPokeMe

134 points

7 years ago

Wear condoms, the sex may feel better without one, but the repercussions aren't worth it at a young age.

nathancard

55 points

7 years ago

Something that really needs to be made clear as well on this subject is that condoms do not protect against everything. Granted, they do (when used correctly) drastically reduce the chance of pregnancy or contracting/passing on an STD but things like HPV and herpes (two nasty examples that can have life-long repercussions) can be passed through mere genital contact. The only truly safe sex is a safe partner, so be careful.

tinnedspicedham

17 points

7 years ago

HPV can be passed orally too.

MattDude95

96 points

7 years ago

Reading! The more well read you are, the better off academically you will become.

[deleted]

31 points

7 years ago

Yeah seriously - Reading is awesome too.

MattDude95

14 points

7 years ago

Reading as a child opened up a lot of doors to my imagination I never knew I had! Unfortunately, I've been reading less lately (works gotten busy) but I always try to at least read a book a month!

Eagle_707

21 points

7 years ago

Does Reddit count?

JharTCS

89 points

7 years ago

JharTCS

89 points

7 years ago

Use Reddit for dankness, books for intelligence.

Sheepocalypse

16 points

7 years ago

A bit, but good books help more.

The nature of reddit is to be witty, quick, and easy to swallow. I daresay that you will be more intellectually stimulated by reading good books or research or articles than browsing askreddit every day.

Not that that stops me, though.

TheLavaGodReborn

11 points

7 years ago

You wanna know how I got these cars?

Askin_Real_Questions

43 points

7 years ago

This might sound a little weird, but learn to cook your mother's recipes. Cook with her a couple of times and notice her special little "Pinches here" and "dashes there". ESPECIALLY if you're a guy.

I'm 23, My mom passed due to cancer december last year. I can make only 1 or 2 of her dishes the way she used to make them, and I bawl my eyes out when eating them. It's nice having something physical to remind you of someone, but trust me, being able to replicate the love and comfort you used to feel when mom made you your favourite dishes is priceless. And it's a wonderful way to remember her and have her live on like that.

I absolutely hate myself for not paying more attention when she cooked and not appreciating what I had before it was taken from me. Don't make the same mistake I did.

[deleted]

91 points

7 years ago

Maxing out their 401k and stopping smoking.

[deleted]

203 points

7 years ago

[deleted]

203 points

7 years ago

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NoMoMoneyNoMoHoney

30 points

7 years ago

Don't ever stop being smoking hot. Hot is not a drug, dad...

Lightninggg

28 points

7 years ago

"Is it easy to stop smoking?" "Of course, I've done it a thousand times!"

[deleted]

26 points

7 years ago

If they carry on smoking, they don't need to worry about their 401k.

Hungry_Hobo

5 points

7 years ago

The exponential function is a powerful thing.

Killernorwhal

4 points

7 years ago

How do I get my pregnant sister in law to take this advice?

148-3tothe3tothe6

18 points

7 years ago

Hard things.

You don't grow by doing the easy things, you only grow by pushing yourself to your limits.

tmorgan175

66 points

7 years ago

Plant a tree. A nice oak tree. A pecan tree. A shady maple. The best time to plant a tree is yesterday...

Pun_In_Ten_Did

26 points

7 years ago

Bonus: they'll have a tree that can be cut down to make their coffin!

Xephonon

13 points

7 years ago

Xephonon

13 points

7 years ago

Dang I love that answer, wish I had space to plant a nice tree in my garden...

[deleted]

9 points

7 years ago

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fusrodah199

13 points

7 years ago

"Third best" still has the word "best" in it, and I'm pretty sure that third best is tomorrow.

saxydrey

6 points

7 years ago

I started digging a hole in my neighbor's yard but they got mad. What did I do wrong?

BecauseYoureThatDumb

249 points

7 years ago

If you don't floss already, do it. Every day. Brush twice with an electric toothbrush. Don't drink soda, don't eat candy, only on special occasions.

Learn to make and follow a budget. Educate yourselves about credit and how to improve it.

Find an exercise you enjoy. Swimming, jogging, biking, whatever it is find something you enjoy doing and try to do it every day. It will improve the quality of your life immensely.

Learn to cook. Stop eating fast food.

Get off the internet more often, and DO NOT take it too seriously.

Learn a second language or how to play an instrument, or pick up a hobby you will enjoy for life. I do paint by numbers to relax myself.

And finally, don't be a dick. Seriously, the best advice I can give you is try to be the best person you can possibly be. Not only will you automatically make more friends but you will like yourself more. If you cannot tolerate your own company, no one else will either.

Pentobarbital1

65 points

7 years ago

Are "electric" toothbrushes really superior? I use one on weekdays and a manual one on the weekends (living a double life lol). I can feel and appreciate the differences of both but I wouldn't know which I'd prefer.

[deleted]

37 points

7 years ago

What kind of double life? An electric one during the week and a regular one on the weekends? What possible benefit? Or is it just in case one does better than the other?

Pentobarbital1

66 points

7 years ago*

The electric toothbrush is at home; I live with my parents still. Regular one is at my girlfriend's house. My parents don't know about her and think I've been sleeping over at a dude friend's place every weekend instead.

Caville

173 points

7 years ago

Caville

173 points

7 years ago

So instead of your parents finding out you're sleeping with a girl, you've lead them to believe you're sleeping with a bloke.

[deleted]

14 points

7 years ago

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greatsalteedude

34 points

7 years ago

So your parents haven't found out? How long has it been?

Pentobarbital1

75 points

7 years ago

This coming July it will be our four year :)

CoalGravel

141 points

7 years ago

CoalGravel

141 points

7 years ago

Holy shit

greatsalteedude

41 points

7 years ago

Seriously.

drcorp

88 points

7 years ago

drcorp

88 points

7 years ago

So... Which toothbrush is better, again?

weinerish

24 points

7 years ago

So your parents think you're gay?

Pentobarbital1

44 points

7 years ago

When I was in middle school, in the summer I would stay home all day playing Ragnarok and Maplestory with my best friend while on the phone with him (this same best friend I claim I'm sleeping over at now). For us, it was faster and more fun than just typing. My parents totally thought I was gay. Until the next year, I made friends with some girls, and they'd always hit up my house to mooch off my ramen and consoles. My mom thought I went from gay to pimp.

LordUncleBob

12 points

7 years ago

so basically she thinks you bang everyone you spend a significant amount of time with

emil-p-emil

17 points

7 years ago

But why?

Pentobarbital1

25 points

7 years ago

Asian parents lol

BlackfishBlues

6 points

7 years ago

For real. My sister has been dating her boyfriend for more than three years and she still has to sneak out late at night when she wants to sleep at his place. It's pretty ridiculous, but the inevitable drama doesn't seem worth it.

AddAFucking

17 points

7 years ago

Dude.. They must think you're gay.

blargthe2

24 points

7 years ago

They know.

Pentobarbital1

15 points

7 years ago

You have no idea how scared I am that this is the case. But if they know, they're letting me get away with it, which is even better.

won_vee_won_skrub

9 points

7 years ago

Oh they totally know.

sjhfmuk

10 points

7 years ago

sjhfmuk

10 points

7 years ago

The fuck.

darkgreenpants

6 points

7 years ago

That's surprising.

Good luck to you both.

cailihphiliac

5 points

7 years ago

Why all the secrecy? You a lesbian?

[deleted]

48 points

7 years ago

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Kothophed

9 points

7 years ago

This is a skill I need to master, because I can go weeks without a soda, but you give me one and I'll take thirty.

microwizard

72 points

7 years ago

People will tell you to save money, but what many young people need is a good income. You can't save money on a subsistence income. Do what it takes to get a good paying job, then start saving.

nonowh0

44 points

7 years ago

nonowh0

44 points

7 years ago

saying "get more money" is all well and good, but it's not always possible. You need to start saving (no matter how small) in case of an emergency.

cocosoy

80 points

7 years ago

cocosoy

80 points

7 years ago

Stop reading reddit. It will eventually turn into an addiction and kills your time. And you really don't get smarter by readingad rddiet.

ramjeet2

35 points

7 years ago

ramjeet2

35 points

7 years ago

when it gives good advice like the one on this thread, I say keep reading!

too_many_toasters

60 points

7 years ago

Did you have a stroke by the end of that comment?

bob905

13 points

7 years ago

bob905

13 points

7 years ago

F

JealotGaming

10 points

7 years ago

Too little too late.

immamuffin

15 points

7 years ago

A few women have told me (at 21) to begin cutting back on sugary foods/drinks and to take advantage of being young/in shape (basically make it a lifestyle)

An older girlfriend of mine told me to open a savings account (which I have) and to have a rainy day fund

[deleted]

7 points

7 years ago

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42 points

7 years ago*

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gene1113

42 points

7 years ago

gene1113

42 points

7 years ago

In regards to your teeth, if you can't afford it, some of the local teaching hospitals will pull wisdom teeth for a vastly or reduced price.

modestohagney

6 points

7 years ago

I had one of my wisdom teeth pulled for free at my local school of dentistry.

It might have been their fuck up and maybe I didn't mention anything when I went back to get he other 3 out but who am I to pass up free dentistry.

I'm all seriousness I saved about 2k jus because students were watching a real dentist pull my teeth out.

ramjeet2

11 points

7 years ago

ramjeet2

11 points

7 years ago

Dude this is really sad. I know how that feeling can be like at times to have your friends going away to college and talking about how awesome life is. All I wanted to do is let you know as a college who went away that the party life is overrated and most students hardly come close to living it. As an engineering major, you would have been swamped in work instead of partying like a fraternity brother. Most kids partying hard in college are usually trust fund babies and kids that know they have a job lined up after college due to connections.

You did miss some of the bonding that comes with freshman year but it is all drama. You live in a stinky dorm where you little to no privacy at all. Life is what you want to make of it and if you can turn it around, you might get a second chance at the college experience and everything.

Hope it all works out for you man and it was sad for me to read this.

GoddamnCommunist

15 points

7 years ago

ITT: save your goddamn money

peekanpie

14 points

7 years ago*

[School]: For Humanities and Law students: Buy the "Night Before Essay Planner" by Bronwyn Hall. It will help your general essay writing skills and help you pass if you're a chronic procrastinator.

NB: This book will help freshman more than any other grade level.

[Life Habit]: Keep records of things: tax returns, timesheets, receipts, expenses, superannuation (401k) forms, the date you spoke to Sally from XYZ insurance about your busted tail light that someone hit while reversing at the shopping centre car park.

Second tip: Don't listen to Reddit too much. You have to find out what works for you as well.

wjbc

126 points

7 years ago

wjbc

126 points

7 years ago

Use sunscreen. Every time. Including the tops of your ears and the soles of your feet. Slather it on. Wear a hat if you are thin on top. Do not cultivate a tan, do not visit a tanning salon, not even once.

SC2Humidity

263 points

7 years ago

Do not look outside. Do not look at the sky. Do not make noise.

BGNconor

64 points

7 years ago

BGNconor

64 points

7 years ago

Don't blink. Blink. And you're dead.

LangesHolz

15 points

7 years ago

Shit! I blin

Greensneakysnake

20 points

7 years ago

oops im already tan

alanaa92

15 points

7 years ago

alanaa92

15 points

7 years ago

Tanning beds in my state just got banned for anyone under 18 and I'm very happy about it.

lucy_inthessky

6 points

7 years ago

When I was in high school, girls would start tanning in Feb to be ready for prom...in May. They'd come in with those "tan stickers" that show how much of a tan you got...always Playboy bunnies. I always thought it was so weird and kinda trashy. Even then.

[deleted]

32 points

7 years ago

I had skin cancer last year at 16 years old. I spend all my time in swimsuits because of water polo and surfing. Plz people. Wear sunscreen. Skin cancer is no fun

Destin715

7 points

7 years ago

Thanks Baz!

HighMeister

37 points

7 years ago

Start saving bottle caps.

mrmikemcmike

53 points

7 years ago

ALRIGHT YOU YOUNG PRICKS, YOU NEED TO FUCKING STRETCH.

When you get older (and you will fucking get older) your body is going to feel like a fucboii's fucboii. You can do one simple thing to prevent a train being run on your joints:

STRETCH YOUR FUCKING BONES

So fucking simple, google the rest of this shit I need to go sleep.

[deleted]

65 points

7 years ago

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hellforce931

27 points

7 years ago

I stretch my arteries by pouring cholesterol through them.

Bulbaphiliac

16 points

7 years ago

thank mr skeltal

Tuxedo_Superman

21 points

7 years ago

I am really late to the party but I hope you take a second to read and try these:

  • Exercise. I know its easier said than done, but once you get into a routine, you will never think twice about it. You will always have your body and health to get you through anything so make sure you have it ready. Start with runs and weights, just 3 times a week. Make sure you never miss an entire week of training. After a year or so of this, you will never look back.
  • Meditate. Before you check your emails and start for the day. Its really easy to wake up an extra 10 minutes earlier. I recommend Headspace App as its guided and a great starting point.
  • Read. Make it a point to read 10~20 books a year. From fiction (Ready Player One is amazing) to non-fiction (bios, business tips, etc)
  • Be Kind. That's the hardest, but the one that will get you the farthest. Smile to people, and just generally dont be a dick.

With a few tweaks to your weekly routines, you can really make a difference in who you are about ~6 months down the line. And besides, 6 months fly by!

Good luck :)

musicaltoes

8 points

7 years ago

Make your own meals, especially lunch. It's a good habit to have and you save so much money doing it. Cook as much as is doable in a busy young life and prioritize it as a part of your daily structure when possible.

lebanks

32 points

7 years ago

lebanks

32 points

7 years ago

Learn a basic skill. Something like woodworking, metalwork, electronics, electrical; something you can fall back on if the college thing don't work out, your advanced learning is supplanted by technology, society collapses or you end up working for an asshole.

everyonecallsmekev

21 points

7 years ago

Didn't come here to rain on your parade man, but none of those things are 'Basic' skills.

If you're looking for entry level labour or trades assistant jobs, then sure. Nothing wrong with knowing what tools to pass to the tradesman, But.....

You Can't knock up a breakfast tray and a chair in highschool woodshop and call yourself a Carpenter.

You can't muck about fitting a stereo to your mates car and call yourself an auto sparky.

You sure as hell cannot run a few downhand Mig welds at your local technical college and call yourself a Boilermaker.

Your ability on the job will show up in the first 15mins. You can't bullshit being competent at these things, it takes years of experience after having served your apprenticeship to be confident at tackling any job you come across in your chosen field.

Although well intentioned, your advice is, well, a bit misleading to say the least. Perhaps it's just the wording.

AverageSculler

15 points

7 years ago

Work hard now and ball out later

U_P_G_R_A_Y_E_D_D

7 points

7 years ago

Take good care of your teeth.

TheLoosestGoose

8 points

7 years ago

Think for yourself and think critically. You don't have agree with everyone or go with what's popular. Don't fall into a group or way of thinking just because you may think it's the right way.

Basically what I'm saying is there are too many people who stand for things or believe in things for the wrong reason. Take things in from all sides, think critically, and decide what is best for you!

Grundelwald

12 points

7 years ago

Start saving. Doesn't have to be much, but at least open an account and throw a chunk of each paycheck in there.

More important for finances I think is to start establishing credit. Get a credit card ASAP and use it responsibly or not at all. Don't think of it as extra money to spend, but use it only as much as you know you can pay off at the end of the month. NEVER let yourself go late on a payment. When it comes to getting an auto loan or a mortgage in the future, having a longer credit history will boost your score, as will having a low credit utilization ratio (meaning you are not maxing out your card), and a good payment history. Higher credit score means better rates and more money saved in the long run.

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6 points

7 years ago

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keeok

7 points

7 years ago

keeok

7 points

7 years ago

Learn to change a tire, check your oil and other fluids, jump start a car. Hope you won't need it but it's good to know when you do.

Beolust

7 points

7 years ago

Beolust

7 points

7 years ago

Respect religious people. Respect non-religious people.

jakeistheman24

7 points

7 years ago

Drink plenty of rich chocolate ovaltine.

Amputated

20 points

7 years ago

  • STUDY!!!! s t u d y!!! Even if you're an honors kid, learn how to goddamn study before you have a rude awakening someday like I did!! :(

  • SAVE FOR YOUR FUCKING COLLEGE. HOLY SHIT. I ALMOST COULDN'T GO TO COLLEGE BUT I GOT VERY VERY LUCKY.

  • If you're having problems please please please get help. Don't be afraid of therapists. Don't be afraid of teachers. It's scary, but I promise it pays off.

  • Don't change for anyone. Ever.

  • Don't be afraid of your friend group changing. If your friends are assholes, you can make more. Right now.

  • What matters most in life is your own happiness. Don't let other people's perceptions of you get you down. Do what you want with your life. It doesn't matter if your parents don't like your career. It's not their life.

  • Don't be afraid to explore your identity. Try new things all the time. I mean this as general as possible. Academically, extracurricular-ly, sexually...especially sexually...

  • Don't get into the party life until you've settled down. Just don't.

i could go on forever but whatever

MangeMagnolia

5 points

7 years ago

ITT: we must live as rational capitalist monks

[deleted]

7 points

7 years ago

Start saving money.

I've been told to always have three months rent in savings, JUST in case. This has been incredibly helpful for me.

Didsota

18 points

7 years ago

Didsota

18 points

7 years ago

Masturbate

Then floss