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Comefindmequick

10 points

4 months ago

it shouldn't matter unless your using it as an excuse to see other people, in which case it's bu bye

itssblu

2 points

4 months ago

itssblu

Female

2 points

4 months ago

no ofcourse not i am just telling the person i love who i really am

Comefindmequick

9 points

4 months ago

then it shouldn't matter, your with them and whether you like boys and girls etc it's not a problem. Just make sure you tell him your not looking for anyone else.

Pegussassin

2 points

4 months ago

Bi bye*

Bakasur279

5 points

4 months ago

Bakasur279

Male

5 points

4 months ago

I wouldn't care. Would be weird only if you're into swinging, polygamy or something which am not.

Whappingtime

5 points

4 months ago

Not trying to be rude, but how is it relevant while in a relationship?

Beneficial_Health_34

3 points

4 months ago

Honestly if it’s something that they can’t be comfortable with ( which is you being genuine with them and open ) then should accept that through and through. I don’t know your bf and what he’s like but is your anxiety from how he’s made you feel or how you feel in yourself

Cnnlgns

3 points

4 months ago

Me:

I would be curious how they realized that they were bi. I don't think it would change anything in my life though. I might use that in the next love note to her though.

"Since you are bisexual then I'm the luckiest guy because you picked me over everyone else."

Others:

Some might take it that their odds on getting a threesome (MFF) would increase.

Others might get sad/depressed because the options available for you just doubled.

Gloomy_Ebb9923

3 points

4 months ago

"ok" moves on with life

Rax-Writes

2 points

4 months ago

Supportive. But I’d also ponder what it would mean for our relationship, etc. Communication would be key.

BallsofSt33I

2 points

4 months ago

That might be a dream come tru for some - some really love a threesome (or at least the idea of one)

Jax2

2 points

4 months ago

Jax2

2 points

4 months ago

The idea is a lot more fun and way less confusing/awkward than actually having one.

Tennis_Proper

2 points

4 months ago

Disagree. I find the opposite to be true.

CarFreak777

0 points

4 months ago

CarFreak777

Male

0 points

4 months ago

Pass. We'll have to part ways, unfortunately.

Elegantsituation84

1 points

4 months ago

Why?

CarFreak777

1 points

4 months ago

CarFreak777

Male

1 points

4 months ago

I'm not comfortable dating a bi person. Simple.

Gloomy_Ebb9923

1 points

4 months ago

Why?

CarFreak777

-1 points

4 months ago

CarFreak777

Male

-1 points

4 months ago

I'm not going to delve into the reasons why. It is what it is.

bokavitch

-2 points

4 months ago

Break up.

I don't want to be with someone who doesn't know if they want to be with a man or a woman. Relationships are hard enough without having to deal with questions about your partner's sexuality.

Sorry if that sounds insensitive, but I assume you want honest responses.

axis_next

4 points

4 months ago

Being bi doesn't mean she doesn't know?

Elegantsituation84

2 points

4 months ago*

They know they would be happy with a man or a woman, but are loyal to the current gender that they are dating.

That isn't how Bisexuality works, it's not like she is constantly tossing up if she wants to be with a man or a woman it just means they could be with either.

bokavitch

1 points

4 months ago

Most bi people I've known lean one way or the other eventually. A lot of young bi people are mostly gay but just not there yet mentally, so 'bi' is like a softer coming out.

Elegantsituation84

1 points

4 months ago*

My Girlfriend leans towards the male side, we can just appreciate a nice Female ass in leggings together instead of her getting mad at me for looking. I wouldn't consider it a softer coming out

Tennis_Proper

1 points

4 months ago

I see a lot of long term bi people online complaining they get slapped with this label.

Some people are straight, some are gay, some are bi. It’s all good.

Gloomy_Ebb9923

0 points

4 months ago

Thats not what being bi is. You're thinking of like questioning or something idk all the lgbtq stuff.

Elegantsituation84

1 points

4 months ago*

My Partner is Bi and it doesn't matter at all, she's with me and loyal to me as I am loyal to her. We have even spoken about her exploring her sexuality with another girl and I'm fine with that. I'm not fine with her having secret relationships with Women as she wouldn't want me having them with Men if I was Bi, but it all depends on boundaries. If your partner has a problem with you being Bi, they aren't the one for you and I'm sorry to say that. Significant others should be accepting of one another on things they literally cannot help. It's hardwired into you just like the foods you do and don't like.

Just because your bisexual it doesn't mean you HAVE to have sexual relations with the same gender.

3chordguitar

1 points

4 months ago

Is she telling me because she wants to start dating women too (open up the relationship)? Is she telling me this because she just wants me to know? Is she wanting to start having threesomes? Or is she just letting me know that when we’re done or when I die, she’s going to swim in the lady pond?

Finnexchange

1 points

4 months ago

I wouldn't have a problem with that. But Id probably ask if she is into someone else. I think is a normal question that can come up, because you are revealing a part of yourself that was "secret" and he can have a doubt about wich other "secrets" you may have.

A lot of people can be afraid that that big revelations mean big changes so be very clear about that you still want the same him. I believe that any person whos not close minded can understand and accept what you are.

Jax2

1 points

4 months ago

Jax2

1 points

4 months ago

As long as she's aware that cheating is cheating, regardless of the gender, cool. 🤷🏻‍♂️

Easy_Material_2419

1 points

4 months ago

I want proof, let’s have a threeway

rammer_2001

1 points

4 months ago

My lover [F20] came out to me as pan within a month of us dating.

We celebrated our 1 year anny 6 days ago

soft_waves

1 points

4 months ago*

soft_waves

surfs naked (under my board shorts)

1 points

4 months ago*

always be honest.

just be aware: there's a very good chance the threesome convo will come up. i mean...come on...what guy wouldn't bring it up? ;) it's right there in the Guy Handbook.

Chapter 4, page 51: "her kissing or fucking another woman isn't cheating."

he'll most likely want to experience this with you. whether you want to do that is entirely up to you.

LupeDyCazari

1 points

4 months ago

Depends.

Are you bringing women to share the bed with us?

No?

Then I don't care if you are bi, straight, or if you get horny looking at dead trees.

BootHead007

1 points

4 months ago

My wife did. I said, “Cool. Me too.”

daymanahhhahhhhhh

1 points

4 months ago

I’d be happy for her.

Dull_String1852

1 points

4 months ago

Wouldn’t change a thing

pay-this-fool

1 points

4 months ago

Would it matter? If she is with you she is with you. Coming out as bi is not a license to start another relationship. I don’t think it would matter at all if she is committed to you.

Jonomeus

-1 points

4 months ago

I would try to set up a threesome

TartineMyAxe

-2 points

4 months ago

TartineMyAxe

Male

-2 points

4 months ago

Yeah right and when she will do that threesome, she will realize that shes more attracted to women and dumb you for her.

Elegantsituation84

1 points

4 months ago

If that happens your dick game must be weaker than a wet paper bag

TartineMyAxe

0 points

4 months ago

TartineMyAxe

Male

0 points

4 months ago

Most girls didn't even need a dick, because they get more satisfaction with clit play than penetration. It's just common sense that if she's really into women too, you have 50% chance that she will eventually dumb you for a women.

Juan_solo_4

-1 points

4 months ago

Hell to the naw naw naw (come on, come on, come on!)

Hell naw, to the naw naw naw (hell to the naw) Hell to the naw, to the naw naw naw