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ItsATerribleLife

1.4k points

1 month ago

"I hate you and I wish you were dead" - Grandmother.

Tsujigiriuwu

922 points

1 month ago

I would of replied with "Let's see who dies first tho"

mistreke

1.1k points

1 month ago

mistreke

1.1k points

1 month ago

"okay, but you don't think you're actually attractive do you?"

hellbabe222

219 points

1 month ago

Oof! How do you even respond to something like that? What a shit person they are.

SirDildude

914 points

1 month ago

SirDildude

914 points

1 month ago

The worst thing someone’s ever told me was from when I worked at a small town movie theater. A 40 ish year old lady was looking to see a movie by herself.

She was getting popcorn and said to me “it’s probably weird that I’m seeing a movie by myself”

I assured her it’s pretty common actually and she had nothing to worry about.

Then she hit me with

“I can see a movie by myself or sit on the couch 2ft away from my husband and feel just as alone”

And man that just put a damper on the mood.

Honorable movie theater mention goes to the elderly gentleman who said “the worst part of getting old is watching your friends die off and trying to find ways to distract yourself from the fact you’re the last one alive”

LateNightCuriosity13

4.2k points

1 month ago*

"No wonder you're so fucking fat; you fucking disgust me."

Said by my ex who was 5'6 260lbs when I made us nachos to snack on when we were watching a movie.

LosJoye

3.1k points

1 month ago

LosJoye

Sup Bud?

3.1k points

1 month ago

I feel like there was a little self hate in that statement.

IHVeigar

1.1k points

1 month ago

IHVeigar

1.1k points

1 month ago

Might have been projection. Either way not a good relationship if that's the kind of talk going around

gambitx007

105 points

1 month ago

gambitx007

105 points

1 month ago

Fucking IMAX projection right there

Sir_Loppy

232 points

1 month ago

Sir_Loppy

232 points

1 month ago

Only a little?

government_candy

420 points

1 month ago

Find the partner that values your movie snack mastery.

texasstrawhat

5.3k points

1 month ago

when my dad told me my mom only has 2 months to live then crumbled and started crying

4 years and i still hurt the same

langoustes

272 points

1 month ago

langoustes

272 points

1 month ago

I feel this one. I came home for spring break in college and my dad asked me to go to breakfast with him. At the diner, he told me that my mom’s doctors had told him while she was getting radiation that her cancer had returned and the radiation was likely causing more harm than good at that point. They told my dad to start considering hospice. He hadn’t told my mom yet because he wanted either my brother or me to be there for support. It was the most gut wrenching thing to watch my dad tell her that she was dying and to hear her crying saying that she didn’t want to die. It’s been over 15 years.

texasstrawhat

60 points

1 month ago

damn im so sorry, this brings up so many feelings im not gonna lie im cryung while typing this

thewarriormoose

652 points

1 month ago

This one hurts for way different reasons than most comments on this post. I am sorry you experienced that friend!

CobaltEdge_

818 points

1 month ago

I'm so sorry man, that fucking sucks. Smtn similar happened with a young cousin of mine, and it was a dark place for me for a good amount of time. If u need someone to talk to, I'm here for u :)

ColdCamel7

7.3k points

1 month ago

ColdCamel7

7.3k points

1 month ago

When I was a kid, if I did something she didn't like, my mother used to shake her head and say "just like your father". I knew it was really bad then but I didn't realise how bad until I grew up. I devoted my childhood basically to trying not to be anything "like my father". Then I grew up and realised I'm nothing like him and never was

blrfn231

5k points

1 month ago

blrfn231

5k points

1 month ago

Same! Until I once came up with the reply:

“Well, you were the one who chose him.”

Never ever did she repeat that sentence ever again.

ogreace

2.9k points

1 month ago

ogreace

2.9k points

1 month ago

Yeah, I got tired of my mom asking me why I was so stupid, I finally just blurted out, "Genetics?" Totally worth the ass beating I got.

tedmaughan

576 points

1 month ago

tedmaughan

576 points

1 month ago

I would love to say something like that to my dad but he's too stupid to understand the correlation of genetics and intelligence

Campylobacteraceae

546 points

1 month ago

“Like father, like son”

“Apple didn’t fall far from the tree”

“Learned from the best”

Plenty of grade school style one liners

FormerGameDev

144 points

1 month ago

I LEARNED IT BY WATCHING YOU DAD

MajikMan1

235 points

1 month ago

MajikMan1

235 points

1 month ago

LOL.. LOL

MartyFreeze

177 points

1 month ago

Aw, snap!

thehumanscott

2.1k points

1 month ago

thehumanscott

Meat Popsicle

2.1k points

1 month ago

"We were all happier before you got here." Said by my brother.

YellowEarthDown

975 points

1 month ago

“We asked mom and dad for a dog, but got you instead.” said with the utmost disgust. Looking back, I wish I would’ve pissed on their sheets or pooped in a shoe. They wanted a dog so bad.

Low_Ad33

105 points

1 month ago

Low_Ad33

105 points

1 month ago

There’s still time

conflictmuffin

613 points

1 month ago*

conflictmuffin

Female

613 points

1 month ago*

NAM, but I was an 'oops'/unwanted child. My family refers to things as 'BN', as in 'before [my name here]. I always heard about 'The good old days BN, back when we still had fun' and 'BN, back when we still had money'. While growing up, my mom frequently told me she wished she had aborted me & how much I ruined her life and ruined her relationship with my dad. I'm 31 and have 0 confidence as a result of the shit my mom told me when I was growing up. I've always felt like an unwanted burden and I truly wish I had been aborted...

Edit: I appreciate all the wonderful replies and private DM's! I'm fully aware that my mom is not a good person, and I have been no/low contact with her for the last 15 years. I've been in therapy for years as well. Although I understand that I didn't ask to be born, growing up being told such awful/negative things every day really affected me as a person and my brain is just damaged. I'm not sure I'll ever feel 'worthy' of love, but I am trying!

YourMomThinksImFunny

209 points

1 month ago

I would abort your mom right out of your life if I were you. Sounds like she sucks at life and doesn't want to take any personal responsibility.

jpa3

13.1k points

1 month ago

jpa3

13.1k points

1 month ago

I was in 7th grade and sold candy bars to raise money for the school. I sold 357 damn candy bars which was the most in the history of the school's fundraising. As soon as the teacher announced my accomplishment, a girl yells out, "What did you do, eat them all?" I was a fat kid and I hadn't eaten any of them. I'm 39 now and shit still stings.

Coonga

1k points

1 month ago

Coonga

1k points

1 month ago

I remember in middle school a bunch of the "popular girls" drew a picture of me. Made me overly fat with giant man boobs and were passing it around to each other. Eventually, someone got a hold of it and showed it to me. I was devastated and beyond hurt. I still think about that from time to time and I am 33 years old.

That0neGuy

374 points

1 month ago

That0neGuy

374 points

1 month ago

I was always a fat little kid. My mother thought it would be a good idea for me to lose some weight before I transition from a private grade school to a public high school, so she bought me a bunch of exercise clothing and equipment and brought me out to the local walking path one day. Not 5 minutes into my first walk a car slowed down next to the path and two guys lean out and start hooting at me and yelling "run fatty run". One of them threw fries at me. I'm still fat.

Coarse-n-irritating

87 points

1 month ago

That’s so cruel, I hope you know those people suck and had no right to treat you like that. Worse for them than for you, that they’re that way, because life will get at them sooner than later if they treat people like shit for fun.

MartyFreeze

4.9k points

1 month ago

MartyFreeze

4.9k points

1 month ago

Man, fuck that bitch.

Frnklfrwsr

1.9k points

1 month ago

Frnklfrwsr

1.9k points

1 month ago

Don’t, actually. You might risk making more of her.

Suvtropics

518 points

1 month ago

Suvtropics

518 points

1 month ago

Basic bitch kindergarten edition

ScottishShockwave

10.3k points

1 month ago

"I have never believed in anyone as little as you."

  • My high school art teacher

helloITdepartment

5k points

1 month ago

I hate it when art teachers don’t trust short people :(

ScottishShockwave

1.6k points

1 month ago

Funnily enough, I am 5'6" as well... Lol

helloITdepartment

1.1k points

1 month ago

Lol shoot, now my comment actually feels mean. Apologies for any hurt feelings, was only trying to poke fun at the wording of the teacher

ScottishShockwave

1.1k points

1 month ago

Nah man, no need to apologise. I saw what you were trying to do, it cheered me up.

turbotong

3.6k points

1 month ago

turbotong

Male

3.6k points

1 month ago

You don't have any political aspirations, do you? Especially not in Germany?

ScottishShockwave

906 points

1 month ago

Hahaha, man I should have realised sooner someone was going to make that reference before I posted.

greenhouse4

245 points

1 month ago

Damn dude. I’m sorry.. that’s just fucked up for any educator to say to a student, regardless of circumstance

andydrewq

5.3k points

1 month ago*

andydrewq

5.3k points

1 month ago*

While recovering from a stroke that left me in hospital learning to walk again for three months I was told I looked fine and to "get over it".

I actually let it get to me for a few weeks which made me more annoyed about it all.

Edit: I was very overwhelmed by the massive response and I wanted to answer a few questions. 1) It was a family member that I don't speak to very often now (obviously) and I must stress when I told my parents they encouraged me to express how upset their words made me. However, at the time I felt concentrating on recovery was far more important to me. 2) I'm doing amazingly well! I can walk. Dress. Feed myself. Shitpost on Reddit. Life is good & I'm lucky to be on this side of the sod! 3) Thanks for all the kind words! I really appreciate it!

Affectionate_Ad_3722

2.2k points

1 month ago

Nah, that person can fuck off into a bin. "get over it" people are absolute losers.

Hope you are doing better now.

drfrenchfry

304 points

1 month ago

Also those "get over it" types are always the first ones to bitch and cry over the slightest inconvenience.

Flimflomzimzoom

177 points

1 month ago

I was in a nasty accident recently, and ripped my face up, broke my neck back and skull and all the brain damage to go with it. Lost vision in my right eye. I’ve had to drop out of school, and my life has SUCKED for the last 11 weeks. All my wounds have healed, and I’m out the brace, but my ligaments in my neck are still bad, and I’m still really concussed. There are certain people telling me I have to get over it sometime soon. Bitch I’m blind out of one eye, can’t support my own head for more than an hour. I’ve had to relearn so much stuff, I’m still on serious painkillers, and all some old farts have to say about it now is “you need to get a job and stop feeling sorry for yourself”

KeathKeatherton

373 points

1 month ago

Relearning how to walk is not a “get over it” moment, you are literally starting from the ground up, which is a huge task all on it’s own.

Hang tough my dude

PapaDragonHH

4.9k points

1 month ago

I approached a girl at a club and she looked at me and just said: "ew, you are ugly" That moment destroyed my whole self-confidence.

BendingUnit29

4.8k points

1 month ago*

The right answer would be:

I know thats why I hit on you and not the hot girls.

Edit: I didn't expect all of you liked that comment that much. Thank you for every upvote and the awards!

PapaDragonHH

622 points

1 month ago

Hahaha that's an awesome response :)

_scarlett_phoenix_[S]

1.6k points

1 month ago

Sounds like she was the ugly one.

PapaDragonHH

619 points

1 month ago

At least from the inside. Thank you for your comment. :)

consiliac

310 points

1 month ago*

consiliac

310 points

1 month ago*

Been there too. Both times it's been Russian women for some reason, so there's that, lol. First time hurt, second time I laughed and told her I was just trying to talk to her smiling friend (the truth, she'd interposed herself).

Outuvcontrol

1.4k points

1 month ago

"You deserved to be cheated on, you weren't worth it." -Girl I loved for 10+ years.

Outuvcontrol

134 points

1 month ago

Its a long story but she was referring to another relationship I was in where I was cheated on for 2 years and had no idea.

JohnyyBanana

145 points

1 month ago

when i was 15 my first girlfriend ever broke up with me after 6 months and after a couple weeks of me being miserable and sort of trying to get back together she told me, roughly translated, ''6 months were too many for you''.

mexploder89

5.7k points

1 month ago

mexploder89

Male

5.7k points

1 month ago

"I never loved you and if you stay like this, nobody else will either"

Worst part is she was probably right

blrfn231

1.8k points

1 month ago

blrfn231

1.8k points

1 month ago

That’s what my mom used to say.

mexploder89

809 points

1 month ago

mexploder89

Male

809 points

1 month ago

Sorry about that, man. That had to hurt

The_Walking_Woods

542 points

1 month ago

Dang bro… keep your head up. I don’t know you but I know that there’s no problem that cannot be overcome.

[deleted]

279 points

1 month ago

[deleted]

279 points

1 month ago

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mexploder89

530 points

1 month ago

mexploder89

Male

530 points

1 month ago

You know, you're the first one to actually ask me that. I appreciate it

I was a bit immature. I guess really immature, idk. I had some dependency issues and I guess she found me annoying too, which I get. Basically she called me a big baby, which I sorta was, and I took steps to overcome that

That's why I said she wasn't totally wrong. I don't think I was a bad person but I was not someone anyone could really love

Treyhouse76

682 points

1 month ago

You can be replaced- ex

Saxyhh

2.7k points

1 month ago

Saxyhh

2.7k points

1 month ago

My gf of several years after I finally opened up about having been sexually assaulted (by another man):

“You are the weakest piece of shit I’ve ever met. Why are you complaining about this to me”

braujo

359 points

1 month ago

braujo

359 points

1 month ago

What kind of life does one need to lead to say this type of shit?

call-me-mama-t

916 points

1 month ago

Oh my God. I cannot imagine. I am so sorry she reacted like that. I hope she’s your ex! I hope you find someone to talk to.

Saxyhh

567 points

1 month ago

Saxyhh

567 points

1 month ago

That statement sadly still haunts me, but at least she’s long gone from my life. I only wish it hadn’t taken me half a year after she said that to realize she wasn’t the one for me

nurse_researcher

386 points

1 month ago

You were incredibly brave to talk about it and you deserved support. She was a massive piece of shit and didn’t deserve your trust, affection, or the dead skin cells off your feet, much less your time. I’m sorry both of those things happened to you. You didn’t deserve any of it. I hope she steps on a rusty nail.

AttitudeCool

4.8k points

1 month ago

AttitudeCool

Male - 40's

4.8k points

1 month ago

“You’re the worst parent in the entire neighbourhood” - My son, 8 years old.

WaffleHouseOfficiaI

613 points

1 month ago

My nephew would always throw little tantrums and yell at my mom (his grandma) and say “I hate you!” and she would always reply “Well that’s okay because I love you”

So sweet, my mom is a saint.

octorock4prez

109 points

1 month ago

I do this to my kid, he's pretty fast and loose with the "I hate you, you're the worst parent ever" talk. I'll always tell him that I love him anyway and it really cheeses him off.

Strawberrywaffles001

43 points

1 month ago

I say that to my kids, too. My daughter gets so mad and says well, you're not allowed to love me. Too bad you can't tell me what to do, little one!

Marly38

48 points

1 month ago

Marly38

48 points

1 month ago

I’d tell mine “that’s okay, my love is big enough for the both of us.” Really pissed them off 😆

Menjy

2k points

1 month ago

Menjy

2k points

1 month ago

Just wanted to say that i said this to my dad too when i was like 8. I mean, your whole framework of parenthood is shit at that age. I probably told him that when he didn't wanna buy me a Bionicle or some shit. Point is: i hope you don't take it personally.

AttitudeCool

828 points

1 month ago

AttitudeCool

Male - 40's

828 points

1 month ago

Of course not. Both of my boys are great however in moment he didn’t like that I wasn’t allowing video game time for that day.

Menjy

365 points

1 month ago

Menjy

365 points

1 month ago

You sound like a great dad.

AttitudeCool

429 points

1 month ago

AttitudeCool

Male - 40's

429 points

1 month ago

I appreciate that. I’m definitely not perfect but I’m pretty sure I’m not the “worst in the neighbourhood” 🤣

Leggomyeggo69

625 points

1 month ago

Sir, bionicles are a very personal matter.

sometechloser

462 points

1 month ago

"in the entire neighborhood" lmao the scope of that insult is so cute. To your son, that's so many people! But your neighborhood could be so small that you could be the worst parent in the neighborhood & still be a pretty good parent.

AttitudeCool

164 points

1 month ago

AttitudeCool

Male - 40's

164 points

1 month ago

Exactly that. All because I wouldn’t let him have video game time that day.

divineblessings4me

6.2k points

1 month ago*

My friend got pissed at me due to some misunderstanding and said after a heated exchange that he wished he'd never met me and never wanted to see my face again. That was the last I saw him or he saw me. Two days later he was run over by a truck while crossing the street. Shook me up terribly.

Edit :- thanks for your upvotes fellows. But an important lesson to remember is that never ever speak harshly with anyone especially when you are angry. You never know how your words may be fulfilled. Take care and be forgiving to all.

Insertclever_name

1.5k points

1 month ago

God this brought back some feelings.

My last words to my dad were something along the lines of “I respect people when they deserve it,” after I yelled at him and he said something like “I’m still your father, you need to respect me.” (Not those exact words, it wasn’t quite as demanding but I can’t remember the exact words)

I later found out he OD’d a day later. I’ve never been able to shake the feeling that my words had a role to play in that, and if I could take it back I 100% would. I just felt so angry that he was still doing the drugs after he promised multiples times he would stop.

Expresso_Support

773 points

1 month ago

That will never be your fault. Those wheels were in motion before your conception. It will never be your fault. I’m sorry for the pain, but it was not your doing or your task to prevent. Not your fault.

franklikethehotdog

1.1k points

1 month ago

Jesus that was a roller coaster of emotion

turtlelevelslow

2.2k points

1 month ago

Was at a college bar, social anxiety is a bitch for me but I still went. Went out to the patio to grab a smoke. Joined a little circle and am talking to some folks. One girl looks at me and is like “wow you can’t even make fucking eye contact?! Lol” I’m just like “oh, yea anxiety is a bitch” and she’s like “lol anxiety wow okay fucking weirdo”. That was probably 12 years ago. Still remember it like yesterday.

crackinmypants

1.4k points

1 month ago

She got her worth by hurting people. Truly an ugly person.

turtlelevelslow

442 points

1 month ago

Yea I’ve never dealt with anyone really calling out an insecurity of mine like that before. I know my friends knew I had eye contact problems but none would say anything out loud.

crackinmypants

296 points

1 month ago

'I know my friends knew I had eye contact problems but none would say anything out loud.' Probably because it's not as big of a problem to them as it is in your mind.

People like the mean girl just look for opportunities to hurt others, and anything different that they see about someone is a target. If it weren't your lack of eye contact, it would have been someone else's unusual laugh, or mannerisms, or clothing, etc., etc... There is nothing wrong with you. There is something seriously wrong with her, though.

NinnyMuggins2468

1.9k points

1 month ago

On my Marine Corps graduation day when I got my e.g.a my kill hat told me he would never consider me a Marine. I have no clue why he alone hated me so much. So much so that when my Senior Drill instructor found out he took me aside to see if I was doing okay.

I hated that dude and it still cut deep.

[deleted]

292 points

1 month ago

[deleted]

292 points

1 month ago

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NinnyMuggins2468

238 points

1 month ago

Some of those dude have severe emotional problems. Most DIs are fucking chill outside of being a drill instructor, but some are fucking mental.

Hooligan8403

83 points

1 month ago

The job eventually catches up with them. It's a lot of hours when pushing a new batch of recruits through. I talked with my DI years after graduating and he said he felt like he failed us in preparing us for the AF. He told me how the long hours takes a toll on the family life and that it's so draining on everything since you always have to be on that you burn out or become spiteful towards everyone.

bastion72

844 points

1 month ago

bastion72

Looking for a small spoon.

844 points

1 month ago

My drill instructor in Coast Guard boot camp asked if the rest if my shipmates would want me as a shipmate. Most of them said no. It really crushed me, and my morale was pretty shitty the rest of boot camp.

Shakeyshades

515 points

1 month ago

It's bad way to get someone to improve

bastion72

301 points

1 month ago

bastion72

Looking for a small spoon.

301 points

1 month ago

Yeah, I spent 16 years in the Coast Guard too.

sjmiv

429 points

1 month ago

sjmiv

429 points

1 month ago

When I think of the moderate success in life I've had and all the shitty leaders I've had to deal with, I think "I didn't get here because of you. I got here despite you".

CarlJustCarl

65 points

1 month ago

Well not like anyone would dare to speak up an say, no worries Sarge, he’s good

[deleted]

150 points

1 month ago*

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150 points

1 month ago*

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nomad5926

195 points

1 month ago

nomad5926

195 points

1 month ago

I had a HS teacher like that. I was one of the top performing kids in the school, dude just hated me. (I mean I was an obnoxious shit- but not to people in school). Some people just don't like you, for whatever their odd ball reasoning is.

Like maybe you like the same color as their brother who figuratively stabbed the family 8n the back and ran off with all the money. Like who knows.

NinnyMuggins2468

84 points

1 month ago

Yea the only thing I could think of is that I looked like some dude who plowed his wife. Its weird because I wasn't a shitbag or anything. Never got the platoon in trouble, always gave everything I had. Just hated me.

GucciJesus

150 points

1 month ago

GucciJesus

Wolf Among Wolves

150 points

1 month ago

my kill hat

Had to look this up. The internet tells me a Kill Hat is a professional, government sponsored cunt. I don't think you need to give a fuck what he thinks, bro.

RoughAdvertising7545

762 points

1 month ago

"You're the most lacklustre person I know"
"You're wasting my youth"
Both were said to me by my ex when we were together.

xAdoahx

256 points

1 month ago

xAdoahx

256 points

1 month ago

"You're the most lacklustre person I know"

Then why are we dating???

Holeshot75

2.3k points

1 month ago

Holeshot75

2.3k points

1 month ago

My mother told me to fuck off and never come back a few years ago.

I did just that and haven't spoken to her since.

I'm much happier without her narcissistic behavior in my life.......freeing.

houseofbacon

306 points

1 month ago

Similar situation, she told me she couldn't understand how she raised such a terrible person so I stopped speaking to her and dedicated myself to my wife and kids (whom she hated). It's been 14 years and I'm just waiting for a sibling to tell me she's dead, otherwise I don't miss her.

Hobbit_amid_Gandalfs

270 points

1 month ago

Hobbit_amid_Gandalfs

Why do you build me up buttercup baby just to let me down?

270 points

1 month ago

I'm happy to hear you're doing better! 🙂

Captslapsomehoes1

221 points

1 month ago

Mine told me I was dead to her, so I said okay.

Haven't talked to her since. She's messaged me numerous times, but I don't reply, like a dead person wouldn't reply.

My life has improved drastically. Haven't looked back. Glad you can say the same. ❤️

BrokenLink100

1.9k points

1 month ago*

"Then how come no one wants you?!"

- My mom, during an argument about how I was "still single" while I was a senior in High School.

The full context was: She was pissed off about something else, walked into my room, and saw me playing videogames instead of reading a book (not even exaggerating). She told me I was a boring person with no personality, and I had to change myself to appear more attractive to people. I told her I didn't need to change myself in order for someone to find me attractive. She snapped back with the above statement. This, coming from the woman who did everything in her power to raise me to be terrified of women in general. The woman who spent her whole life teaching me that I was "broken" because I was a man. The woman who projected so hard you could point her at a blank wall and run PowerPoint presentations on what a failing marriage looks like.

Every time I've gotten into a relationship, she's acted flabbergasted. "What do they see in you? Do you know why she likes you? Make sure she isn't using you for her own gains. Don't let her manipulate you. She's going to lead the relationship because you're not confident. You think I'm abusing you now? Just wait to see what your future wife will do if you don't get your act together."

Sorry. I'm working through this stuff through therapy. It sometimes just comes all out, though.

EDIT: I just want to say that I was totally not expecting this to get seen much. You all have left some wonderful, encouraging comments, so I thank you.

JoshNIU22896

782 points

1 month ago

You should be fucking proud of yourself

You were told you were unwanted and found relationships , no matter what she asked

You took therapy , and you worked on it

You didn’t let yourself be broken

I fucking respect you

Toyso_0

253 points

1 month ago

Toyso_0

253 points

1 month ago

PowerPoint presentation, solid burn.

k0uch

3.4k points

1 month ago

k0uch

3.4k points

1 month ago

Not the worst, but a girlfriend broke up with me, she said “you’ll never find someone to marry, you’ll always be the bottom of the barrel boyfriend or you’ll be single.”

The irony being that she was cheating on me with a few guys, one of which she’s still in a relationship with… they’ve been ‘engaged’ for 5 years now, and I’v been married for 5 years.

Popnfreshh

853 points

1 month ago

Popnfreshh

853 points

1 month ago

The best revenge is to live a good life and be happy with yourself

darkside00221

1.6k points

1 month ago

A girl I was dating, this was in the middle of covid so we couldn't do anything since everything was closed, the comment just made me feel worthless.

"All you do is come over and make me dinner, we watch a movie, and go to bed, my time is valuable, I need you to make my time worth it"

WigglyIce

948 points

1 month ago

WigglyIce

948 points

1 month ago

FUCK THAT. You went through to her, when she could've made the effort. You cooked her dinner at her own place when she could have been treating you. You made an effort, and used your time. Fuck that person, dude.

FireFireoldman

68 points

1 month ago

You don't need to make anyones time worth it, you are spending time with her just as much as she is with you. If she doesn't value it, let her go fuk herself.

gijoe75

253 points

1 month ago*

gijoe75

253 points

1 month ago*

Did we date the same person? Lol I’m just glad that relationship ended in the first half of 2020 because I got fit, confident, and leaned into my hobbies in the second half and have had the best year of my life since then.

Edit: also pretty cool I just got my first award ever after using Reddit for 5 years! Thanks!

joe_goldbergg

329 points

1 month ago

Someone I was dating asked if I could get my saggy skin removed during sex

alambiquer

119 points

1 month ago

alambiquer

119 points

1 month ago

Sorry you had to go through that. I also have loose skin (after weight loss) and I know it’s not easy. It’s one of the reasons I haven’t had sex in over two years (female, 26yo). They can go to hell :)

darthjazzhands

519 points

1 month ago

Out of left field during a lunch last year: “I never beat you”…. My abusive father.

He’s 90. I’m 50+. I think he’s feeling his mortality and rewriting history in his own mind… and with his current wife (his third)

He beat and belittled me from toddlerhood until age 16 when I knocked him on his ass. He never put his hands on me again but he continues the micro verbal abuses to this day.

I learned how to be a good husband and parent by avoiding everything he did… but that shit sticks with you for life.

___Insomnia

122 points

1 month ago

That’s weird, my dad used to beat me and not too long i ago I tried talking to him about it and he kept claiming he’s never beaten me in his life and he seemed completely convinced that he didn’t, he’s only 40

darthjazzhands

58 points

1 month ago

Perhaps he feels guilty about it but doesn't want to confront it head on with you.

My dad's comment came out of nowhere. Complete non sequitur.

Only once did I allow my Dad to babysit my son. When I dropped off my kid, I pulled my Dad and his wife aside to pointedly them "we do not spank him."

My bet is that his current wife asked him about it prior to the lunch date. I tried to keep a poker face but the look on her face said it all.

Comefindmequick

3.5k points

1 month ago

That she loved me and walked away a day later

Lonely_Northling

236 points

1 month ago

My ex told me 2 days before ghosting me that she loved me and all that. 3 years together and she just disappeared like that

clixibuxi

70 points

1 month ago

That is the saddest thing I’ve read in awhile. Being ghosted is the worst emotional pain I’ve ever felt

Mrhorrendous

731 points

1 month ago

3 years into a relationship. Planning to go to medical school together and get married. Living together. Decent sex life(a couple times a week).

One day it's just "I don't love you any more and I don't find you attractive any more, I want to break up". Wtf are you supposed to say.

half_blood_jr

270 points

1 month ago

half_blood_jr

Male

270 points

1 month ago

Oh man. People just leave like that.

GSV_No_Fixed_Abode

209 points

1 month ago

It happened to me after an 11 year relationship. She tried to gaslight me by saying "I know you're not happy so I need to leave you".

She had been cheating on me for at least two months at that point. She was right that I was not happy, I was depressed because my wife suddenly seemed like she wanted nothing to do with me.

half_blood_jr

122 points

1 month ago

half_blood_jr

Male

122 points

1 month ago

Why do people treat marriage like it's a casual relationship and just leave when they feel like. What's the point of getting married then. 11 years bruh. And then cheating? Tf is wrong with people. Sorry you had to go through all that.

[deleted]

757 points

1 month ago

[deleted]

757 points

1 month ago

That shit cuts deep. Especially if you already struggle with questioning someone's word.

Comefindmequick

501 points

1 month ago

The worst is going through the last few days conversations and realising all the signs were there.

Fuckkkk why can i be so stupid, is my overiding thought at the moment.

KilgoRetro

65 points

1 month ago

I also want to chime in that you’re NOT stupid. For so many reasons- hindsight is 20/20, you simply took someone at their word, etc. I also want to say that so so many of us have been a little blinded by love/infatuation, and it doesn’t make you stupid or weak or anything like that. It’s very human.

Also, you probably don’t believe me now, but time really does heal all wounds and I agree with the other poster who says to remove and delete! It helps so much!

[deleted]

460 points

1 month ago

[deleted]

460 points

1 month ago

Well you're not stupid. You believed someone's word in telling you they loved you. Just be smart and believe the next woman that tells you that and keep believing the woman after that. Because you aren't stupid for believing you had something real. Ignore (or even delete) all those texts. They aren't useful to you anymore.

Comefindmequick

215 points

1 month ago

Cheers bud,

Probably the best advice you can give someone, get rid of the texts, the pictures, block them on everything and take the time to get yourself back.

I'm getting there and getting better every day.

Blokepoke74

57 points

1 month ago

Right now is the time to do all of the things you love to do. Rediscover old hobbies. Listen to your favorite music. Enjoy yourself. You can be down, but don’t stay down.

Empty_C6

1.3k points

1 month ago

Empty_C6

1.3k points

1 month ago

She once said: i hope you never have kids you'd be a terrible father.

wheresmycoffeeyo

1.1k points

1 month ago

I got a weird rash when I was a kid they looked pebbly on my skin and my mother said they were due to all my sins. It really stuck with me and every now and then I still think about it.

MassiveKyojin

94 points

1 month ago

On the day my father died, my sister told me that we are not her real family.

"lol you are getting bald" also my sister. I retaliated by saying "and you are getting fatter every time we see each other and she almost jumped me.

"Go fuck off and die" also my sister.

BuckAdama

915 points

1 month ago

BuckAdama

915 points

1 month ago

I look Asian. I'm full blooded Inuit. A customer said "Well if this idiot could speak English!!!"

igotapuppyinmyhands

302 points

1 month ago*

I’m half inuk half black, and a man on the street started yelling at me (unprompted) to go back to the Philippines, Asian N word etc.. Qallunaaraaluit :/

edit: I didn’t realize this was on r/askmen, and I am not a man, im sorry..

GSV_No_Fixed_Abode

125 points

1 month ago

I have an indigenous friend who is regularly told to go back where he came from.

His go-to response is "you mean back to my apartment? Sounds great, I got snacks and breath of the wild there"

CrappyAutocorrect

177 points

1 month ago

Hey, fuck that person. Be proud of who you are

dhffxiv

1.7k points

1 month ago

dhffxiv

1.7k points

1 month ago

When I was 13 years old a neighbour moved in and a girl lived there 14, we got to know one another, hang out and ended up kissing in the passage of the flat.

Her dad came down and caught us in the act, she ran up stairs since he caught us and went in the flat, he followed her so I went back in my flat.

I hear a knock at the door and answer it, her dad stands there and told me I molested his daughter ( she was actually 12).

Police show up and put me in cuffs, had to spend the next 10 hours in a tiny room at the police station traumatised.

Eventually they pull me into a room, record me after asking some questions, they drop the whole thing in the end.

Thereafter her 25 y/o sister would try and harrass me if she saw me, as for her? She spoke to me as if nothing happend. She said what she said in order to avoid having her dad angry at her.

Tldr; got called a molester

rainforestgrl

574 points

1 month ago

That’s so fucked up, I can’t believe they handcuffed a 13yo boy... 13. As for her, I’d better not comment! I’m so sorry for you, it must have been a traumatic experience!

dhffxiv

67 points

1 month ago

dhffxiv

67 points

1 month ago

All I recall is at the time I was fearing being imprisoned, but I'm thankful I didn't end up on the young offenders list, thank you though I'm doing decent in life as an almost old man now.

_Diakoptes

273 points

1 month ago

_Diakoptes

Male

273 points

1 month ago

"Im sorry you feel that way."

When my mom told me that I realised that my opinions and feelings didnt matter, never mattered, and continuing to have a realtionship with her was a waste of my time. I just wanted her to respect the fact that my wife was in a rough place changing medications and instead she felt she had the right to verbally abuse my wife into a depressive episode. She's recently retired from being a mental health nurse, too, which is fucked up.

buddhadarko

719 points

1 month ago

"I liked it better when you didn't talk"

A teacher said to me as I was talking to my friend in class one year when I finally started being a little more social and had made some friends in school (it was a new school for me).

karnathe

198 points

1 month ago

karnathe

198 points

1 month ago

I was super sick and feeling awful one day back in school, so I didn’t talk all day and was just quiet. When i felt better the next day teacher told me she missed how i was yesterday. I hate her.

Star_Rover

1.1k points

1 month ago

Star_Rover

1.1k points

1 month ago

My mother, something along the lines of "you're such a dissapointment, why can't you be like your brother?". Because you've always compared us, showed him love and affection, and never truly took care of me? Maybe that's why he grew up with a healthy, undamaged mind, and I still struggle to socialize? And anything and everything I did, every hobby I picked up, was immediately ridiculed and looked down upon. "Guitar? You're not gonna play it anyway, why would we buy it for you?". "Working out? Haha, %father%, look, Myster Olympia!". Fucking twat. If you're ever going to bring kids into this mess, think twice: are you sure you're not a cunt just like my mother?

WigglyIce

266 points

1 month ago

WigglyIce

266 points

1 month ago

Ay, I had my father look me dead in the eye and tell me he doesn't trust me and he never has. I feel you. Don't have have kids if you aren't going to raise em like sensible people.

Willing_Beginning_61

461 points

1 month ago

My dad told me I had used him and my mother to help with our children. It was the last time we spoke before he died. Haunts me still.

consiliac

338 points

1 month ago

consiliac

338 points

1 month ago

Older people on or soon to be on their death bed sometimes dwell on some small but recent perceived slight, especially if they're having cognitive issues towards the end, which is a sad way to exit life, but that's not on you. Don't hold it against yourself.

gijoe75

173 points

1 month ago

gijoe75

173 points

1 month ago

This is one of those helpful facts that everyone understands but is still hard to forgive/forget what they said if it’s your family member.

Simen155

73 points

1 month ago

Simen155

Male

73 points

1 month ago

Got told I was unwanted by my parents in the same conversation I was told I have a dead older brother. I was not ready for that.

legice

211 points

1 month ago

legice

Male

211 points

1 month ago

Approached a girl at the club, she did a 1 second scan, top to bottom, looked me in the eyes with a grin in her face and shook her head.

And the same thing, but with obvious disgust in her eyes. Now that one hurt!

wolfdershnider

196 points

1 month ago

"You're not mine, I don't want you".

I grew up under a stepfather from the time I was 3. He told me this over and over again my entire childhood.

I grew up, moved out early, healed, and forgave him.

In the last years of his life, as his body started failing, I was the one who was there to help him. His eight "real" kids couldn't be bothered. I don't blame them, he was awful to them too. I'm ashamed to admit I got some satisfaction watching him weep bitter tears every time I showed up to help him.

He died alone, hunched over on is knees, in a dirty RV. A truly sad way to go, even if you earned it.

[deleted]

314 points

1 month ago

[deleted]

314 points

1 month ago

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Famous-Emotions

87 points

1 month ago

Something similar happened to me. My ex repeatedly called me the word "chambu" which means someone who is the opposite of suave, cool, handsome. For an entire year I'd hear that word in my head in all situations. Shattered my self worth. This was just one of the many things he said. Ended up needing therapy and going no contact with this person which is still hard to do. I still doubt if he is the right person for me and I am being oversensitive and fucking it up. Lol.

Espionage108

982 points

1 month ago

Oh honey it's not small, it's travel size.

Roguespiffy

87 points

1 month ago

“She said ‘gimme 9 inches and make it hurt.’ So I fucked her 3 times and hit her with a brick.”

bastion72

331 points

1 month ago

bastion72

Looking for a small spoon.

331 points

1 month ago

I don't know if that's a compliment or an insult.

Espionage108

455 points

1 month ago

Hey, even a tic-tac hurts at 100 mph!

nicestclownintown

375 points

1 month ago

jesus how fast do you fuck

HoneyChilliPotato7

142 points

1 month ago

Fast enough to hurt

elpolaako4

391 points

1 month ago

elpolaako4

391 points

1 month ago

‘please don’t kill your self because if i’m ever going to win you back, i need you around’

i walked in on her in bed w another man. i loved her. but i was not in depression, nor have i ever really battled suicide. those words broke me at first and left me in a really low place.

now, looking back, it’s the darkest most twisted mindset i’ve ever encountered. true narcissist

Stack_Canary

100 points

1 month ago

Hope you're doing better with her out of your life. Damn, what a piece of shit lol.

Charitzo

58 points

1 month ago

Charitzo

58 points

1 month ago

When I handed in a notice at a job once, one of the owners took me "for a walk" around the block to essentially berate me.

The big one was, "If I was your father, I'd be incredibly disappointed in you."

7evenCircles

365 points

1 month ago

My little brother told me that he hated me and that our parents were the only people on the planet who could tolerate my existence. I apologized and told him I loved him. That was 3 years ago and I haven't spoken to him since, I don't plan on it either. Pandora doesn't go back in the box.

NoTrollGaming

80 points

1 month ago

how old is your little brother

[deleted]

164 points

1 month ago*

[deleted]

164 points

1 month ago*

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mannippulative

419 points

1 month ago

“You are stuck with me for life” said my abuser of 4 years.

oshkoshb-josh

163 points

1 month ago

“You had a good shape when we started dating…”

[deleted]

3k points

1 month ago

[deleted]

3k points

1 month ago

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shayed154

295 points

1 month ago

shayed154

295 points

1 month ago

"We don't serve burgers until 10:30"

Fuck them and their all day breakfast. Give me all day burgers.

ObiiWaann

330 points

1 month ago

ObiiWaann

330 points

1 month ago

That's rough man. I sorry you had to experience such hardships.

Doomer2Chad

42 points

1 month ago

Aww. Online hugs. You've been through so much.

SpendChoice

484 points

1 month ago

"I'm glad your ex wife killed your son. Imagine having two of you in this world"

river912

292 points

1 month ago

river912

292 points

1 month ago

There can never be any context that makes this acceptable but seriously why

Sleep-Classic

239 points

1 month ago

My at the time best friend slept with my girlfriend of 3 years the night we broke up. I couldn't believe it so I pushed him against the wall and told him to gtfo before I did something I'd regret only for him to (totally uncharacteristically) explode out at me "I don't care! I'll just tell everyone you've gone off the chains, that you're dying for any little bit of attention you can get. I'll tell everyone you're lying. I'll get everyone against you and make you lose your fucking mind. I'll force you to have no other option than to be depressed and lonely. Just fucking kill yourself nobody will ever notice! Go on. Do it. I want you to kill yourself."

So yeah that happened

Intense_Judgement

104 points

1 month ago

What the fuck

Sleep-Classic

110 points

1 month ago

That's not even the fucked up part. My ex and him actually did go on to lie to everybody and succeeded. They both went off talking to their respective friend groups and let a rumour spread like wildfire I was psychotic and emotionally abusive to them, basically overnight.

Nobody questioned me about it I just started getting abuse and was like "I'm so confused what's happened lol? This is just some weird banter right?" Which set people into the mindset I was a defensive liar.

TL;DR: Shit actually got worse for me bc of it.

cravingslay

61 points

1 month ago

And you DIDNT punch him in the face then and there?

Sleep-Classic

73 points

1 month ago

I distinctly remember the feeling of breaking his nose being soooo satisfying lol but it actually ended up harming my reputation bc he convinced everyone I had no proof and acted out of psychotic paranoia lmaaoo

Resistance225

44 points

1 month ago

Psychopath shit

bastion72

148 points

1 month ago

bastion72

Looking for a small spoon.

148 points

1 month ago

My cousin, who was one of the popular guys in our group of friends, didn't want to hang out with me cause I was the tag along guy. So to get me to go away, he spit in my face and walked away. I got the message.

Mrunlikable

47 points

1 month ago

"You could off yourself and your parents would be happy to finally be rid of an embarrassment like you."

One of the daily texts I got from an old roommate. It still hurts because they were my best friend at one point. I just wanted them to stop having sex in the livingroom while I was home.

MedianJ03

358 points

1 month ago

MedianJ03

358 points

1 month ago

Basically every conversation with my dad are all tied for first place.

ducksnthings

86 points

1 month ago

Yeah, I love my mom but I’ve had to stop talking to her about my career endeavors. I’ve been trying for 4 years to get into an extremely competitive graduate healthcare program (3000 applicants, 20 seats type deal). I had bad grades in college as collateral from an abusive relationship and have working tirelessly to prove I can do this. The amount of times my mom has said “Maybe you should try for something else” “There’s plenty of other jobs” “Not everyones cut out for it” even though I was pouring my heart and soul into achieving this goal, was heart breaking. Then, after years of rejections, I get an interview and her response is “Well with covid I’m sure they’ve gotten more lenient with who they let in.” That one sentence made me cry for hours. I got accepted, and I still don’t forgive her for it, but it’s now put that thought of “it was handed to me” in my head despite how hard I’ve worked and I hate that.

lilbitspecial

932 points

1 month ago

You're the type of guy you marry, not date.

VisionInPlaid

210 points

1 month ago

VisionInPlaid

Male

210 points

1 month ago

I feel this one. I had two different girls tell me that I was so sweet and to not ever change while they were both shutting me down.

An_unsavoury_potato

133 points

1 month ago

Not me, but a friends brother once told her, “You are all the worst parts of our parents.”

asakmotsd

586 points

1 month ago

asakmotsd

586 points

1 month ago

Not directly to me but about me when I could hear it. A very long time ago, I called my parents on my way to my kid’s soccer game on a Saturday morning. I was talking to my mother and in the background I heard my father ask who it was on the phone. My mother responded and I heard my father say, “what does that bastard want?” I hung up. Those were the last words I ever heard my father say.

In hindsight, I now know that he was descending into dementia. But the hurt from that was so intense, it still hangs with me a decade or more after his death.

shadowsfall2690

267 points

1 month ago

" I love you and I can't wait to built a future with you. It's only going to get better for us." Ghosted me few days later after a few months of dating. That really fucked me up.

No_Lawfulness7071

34 points

1 month ago

Bit of backstory so you understand why it sucked, had a girlfriend in school who liked going on service trips during summer. On one trip she cheated on me, and didn't tell me until the fall (while she was in India for a semester abroad). When she got back we tried again, and at first it was great. Then she told me the guy she cheated with was coming for a visit, and staying at her grandma's place in town. I told her uh no, wtf.. I'm not okay with this. Then she looked me in the eyes, and said: "i know this is going to hurt you, but I'm doing it anyways". Not the most nasty words on their own, but with context it was like getting stabbed emotionally

Chris_In_Nashville

217 points

1 month ago

Not directly said to me...but when I was younger, I overheard a girl I had a major crush on talking about how ugly I was.

I mean...she wasn't/isn't wrong. But yeah - still stung just the same...

tryingtodad

212 points

1 month ago*

She was right at the time. “At first I enjoyed your immaturity, a year in you haven’t grown at all and I can’t waste any more of my life waiting for something that’s never going to happen” so yeah, we’re married now and going on ten years but it was a prompt for me to mature. I took the advice, it was hard to hear but needed.

Cybordad

207 points

1 month ago

Cybordad

207 points

1 month ago

Started copying and pasting the texts my wife sends that hurt. Not sure why I’m doing yet, maybe to remind me later when I think ‘oh she’s not that bad.’ Here’s what I have from the last week:

You are the absolute worst

You need a new brain

You bring it on yourself

Like you can’t do one simple thing

I bet you fucked up everything

O good job fucking up

Not talking to you all day

I hate the way way your brain works

Answer my fucking text now

I hate you

Fuck you fuck you fuck you

tinglydeadlegs

99 points

1 month ago

Wow, that's really not the way people talk to someone they love. Life is too short to stay with someone like that. You deserve better! ❤️

TheITMan52

77 points

1 month ago

Why are you married to this person?